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Title: Urgent request
Post by: heydeerman on November 26, 2007, 11:09:00 AM
The lovely wife that I married nearly a year ago has 3 lovely daughters. In her former marriage she was married to a real psycho. To make a long story short, her youngest daughter just found out she is pregnant. She is a senior in HS and will graduate this year. She lives with her dad and is afraid to tell him for fear of her life. I'm not talking about a normal fear, I'm talking about he might really kill her. He is a very violent man.

What happened has happened but she is afraid, my wife is afraid, her sisters are afraid. I'm not.

I am asking for God to intervene somehow so this girl can have her baby in peace and get on with her life. She doesnt want an abortion. She is doing the right things after a wrong action. Please pray for her safety.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Bob Hunter on November 26, 2007, 11:41:00 AM
Heydeerman, I'll be glad to pray for your daughter and your entire family. Glad to hear she is doing the right thing. Keep the faith. Prayers have been sent. I will continue to pray for her. I'd like to pray for her by name if that would be okay by you. Either way consider it done. ~ Bob Hunter
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Post by: BenBow on November 26, 2007, 02:08:00 PM
Prayer sent
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Post by: AnointedArcher on November 26, 2007, 03:12:00 PM
God bless you Bro and may God lead you in ALL your ways!
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Post by: F Thomas on November 26, 2007, 06:08:00 PM
Prayers from California

Pray that your daughter can live in a safer and more secure and loving environment.
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Post by: R.W. on November 26, 2007, 07:19:00 PM
Prayers from the North.

Lord watch over this child in her time of need. And open the eyes her father, to what he has wrought with his actions.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Roger Moerke on November 26, 2007, 08:19:00 PM
Thanks for letting us know of the situation and that    you are are part of there lives!
Prayers sent from this side of the hill.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: TexMex on November 27, 2007, 07:40:00 AM
Prayers Sent

God Bless and Protect
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Post by: oneshot-onekill on November 27, 2007, 01:45:00 PM
Prayers sent from Indiana.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: heydeerman on November 28, 2007, 01:12:00 AM
Bob, her name is Stephanie and tomarrow (wednesday) she drops the bomb.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: jimbob91 on November 28, 2007, 07:09:00 AM
Prayers sent from Ohio
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Post by: TexMex on November 28, 2007, 07:45:00 AM
More Prayers

God Bless
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Post by: bear1336 on November 28, 2007, 09:56:00 AM
Prayers on the way from Georgia.  God Bless
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Doc Nock on November 28, 2007, 10:30:00 AM
Lord, in your mercy, hear our prayers.  

Forgive me Lord, for my own anger at times.  For judgement passed on others who do as I would choose not to do. Help me to be less hard-hearted toward those who act hard-headed and help me pray for their insight and change within them.

We shake our heads wondering what it is in us that causes some to lash out in such anger at the world around us.  

Lord,protect Stephanie. We do not come to judge. You know that those who live in battered situations without nurturance may turn to others for the wrong type of compassion such as may have been the case here. Only you know this child's heart as she enters into becoming a mother when she is yet a child herself.

Give her strength. Cloak her in your Holy Spirit to protect her from her dad. Heal his heart that he might see himself and fall to his knees seeking your forgiveness and guidance.

Give Steph your peace, Lord. Provide others in her journey that will provide for her innermost needs. Help her to see You as her only true alternative to the choices around her. Give her strength that she might witness to your Power in her life and make yourself known to her in powerful ways. Amen.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: thp on November 28, 2007, 10:32:00 AM
prayers being lifted.  keep us informed.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: heydeerman on November 28, 2007, 10:52:00 AM
I read this thread to my wife and it really touched her.

Doc, yours was especially touching.

Thanks to all.

She has left a note for her Dad and went to stay with his mom. If it's gonna go down either way it will be today.

As a side note, Steph is a talented artist, somewhat agnostic, she hunts with a crossbow and gun, is totally committed to graduating this year, and is a very pretty and great step-daughter that gets along good with my son. I am growing to love her like my own.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: oneshot-onekill on November 28, 2007, 11:10:00 AM
Praying right now for Stephanie and her dad's reaction.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: heydeerman on November 29, 2007, 05:04:00 AM
Situation not good fellas. Cant update as of yet but not good.
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Post by: AnointedArcher on November 29, 2007, 07:32:00 AM
Father we ask for you favor and grace to fall on this situtation!
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Doc Nock on November 29, 2007, 09:54:00 AM
I'm hoping that Jim will update us here, but I got a note where he shared that things are escalating big time with the father going "off" verbally and making threats to a lot of people, Steph included.

Please keep prayers flying for Stephanie, her Mom, the boy involved and largely, for the out-of-control dad to have a Emmaus Experience and be brought to his knees by our Loving Father, to realize his error before he acts on any of his threats!
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: jimbob91 on November 29, 2007, 10:46:00 AM
Doc I have no compassion for a man that does harm to a woman.I cant understand how a father could do these things to his own child.As a father with two daughters i can say that given that situation I could only show my children love and support.Whats done is done now there is a precious child involved how could anyone do harm?My temper flares when i hear of these types of problems,and Lord knows its one of my downfalls.heydeerman here come more prayers from ohio.May the Lord bless and keep your family safe.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Doc Nock on November 29, 2007, 12:40:00 PM
I hear that! I asked for prayers for my heart heartedness with hard headed men.  :(

I'll let Jim update as he sees fit other'n to make sure we keep that prayer stream going up...right now--- especially for Stephanie...

Hopefully, Jim will know something sooner than later and can update us on her safety...

So sad...  :(
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: heydeerman on November 29, 2007, 05:16:00 PM
She is safe. Ever been to a friends house who has a dog you dont trust? He swares it wont bite but you are waiting for the inevitable. Thats how I am feeling right now. This guy is a case that gets his jollies tormenting defensless people. Bully is a good description. The problem is he has done some devious things in the past that has caused bodily harm and property damage but has not been caught. I am not a defensless woman and my wife will be protected.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: jimbob91 on November 29, 2007, 06:12:00 PM
Amen!Good luck heydeerman and God Bless!
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Post by: sticshooter on November 29, 2007, 08:49:00 PM
Jimbo don't do somethinmg you will regret later. But if ya do don't do it on front of witnesses. Protect your family. Lord help me cuase if it was me I know I'd pound knots on his head. Nothing gets me mad like a bully. And one that man handles a girl well like I said Lord help me.<><
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: bayoulongbowman on November 30, 2007, 08:52:00 AM
ditto....Lord I pray for help for Jimbo and the step daughter...and the other Dad...mark#78
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Doc Nock on November 30, 2007, 10:01:00 AM
Thanks, Jim for letting us know Stephs' safe even in that environment. I share some of Frank's concern now for you.

I constantly seek His help with the rage I feel at those who bully. Read some interesting studies done on grade school bully victims...and the results...they aren't pretty.

Amidst all the prayers for protection for Steph, the young man involved, your wife I also ask God's steadying hand on you, Jim.  Righteous indignation can be such sweet agony... and lead us to righteous action, which can still land yer fanny in jail...

The law is not always JUST, Jim.  Remember your role is to protect your family...and you can't do that if you react in anger and get in the stew yourself, no matter how justified...

Now...help an ole man down off his soapbox afore I go n' hurt myself!  :)

Keep the Son in your eyes.

Prayers for safety and discernment and control for everyone involved...
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: sticshooter on November 30, 2007, 12:29:00 PM
Doc and everyone else I am sorry for letting thatout. Bullies are the main reason I quit High school. I was not awlays as big as I am now LOL. Jimbo hang tough and trust Him in everything.<><
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: heydeerman on November 30, 2007, 02:09:00 PM
For me to do what I what would like to do would cause more problems. There would be no winners. If i was to lose...I lose. If I were to win it would probably cause problems between Steph and me. Even though she knows I love her I would have whipped her dad.

But, I know his history. How he treated my wife and his kids when she was with him. All I can say is he is devilish. But only to the weak. I am not weak physically and I see a bigger picture here. How these women feel now is important.
My wife and her kids feel safe in my home. They feel protected. She has 2 other daughters (first husband) who are totally afraid of him. Her first husband cheated on her, her second husband abused. I love her.

Yesterday I purchased a home security system that is monitored so they can feel safe when I am not home. The wife and I are signing up for conceal/carry classes and I am looking for a suitable handgun for her to carry. Mine are too big   :goldtooth:  .  I like em loud.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: ArcticArcher on November 30, 2007, 02:46:00 PM
I pray for all concerned.

As a retired police officer, I might suggest also seeking a protection order.  It appears as if he has demonstrated the behavior to warrant the issuance of one.  I know its just a piece of paper, but its a way to get things rolling in the legal system and lets him know you (family) are not messing around and will not stand for the behavior.  Not sure of the laws in OH but its worth looking into.

Security systems are a good start and the CCW permits tends to make one feel more secure.

Again prayers for you and your family.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Doc Nock on December 01, 2007, 10:55:00 AM
Prayers continue, Jim. For all Concerned.  Even praying for that ole stink pot of a bulley.  Tha's ok, Jim, in your shoes, I'd have a tougher time prayin for him, so I'll keep one goin up for us both!  :)

Only thing w/ a CCW that I learned..if your anywhere near quick to temper and find that "protective" gene to be strong... it can sorely tempt a man to pull the concealed. I've been taught don't ever pull till you have to use it.

Both alternatives scare me silly.  :o   But without a family, I don't have the same sense of responsibilities...Just know we're all praying for Steph's safety and for you to have a clear head, cool hand and walkin in His footsteps all the way.

Keep the Son in your eyes, bro!
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: possumtrot on December 01, 2007, 11:18:00 AM
Praying for the situation. John
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Bob Hunter on December 02, 2007, 09:42:00 AM
Jim,
 I continue to pray for Stephanie, you , her mom, her dad and your entire family. I will put her name on our prayer list at church. Keep the faith. ~
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Doc Nock on December 03, 2007, 08:31:00 AM
Hey, Stick... not to highjack Jim's needs, here, but it hit me this AM...You've nothing to apologize in my mind...you only said what most of us illuded to... God knows our short comings...and it's why without him, we're nuttin. flawed and sinful...no apology there... To pretend otherwise only gets us in deeper doo.  :)

...buddy is a Presby preacher...and often comments to "innate depravity of man" without God's Grace...and He ain't done with most of us yet!  :)

Continued prayers for safety, healing, and peace and wisdom for all concerned.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: heydeerman on December 03, 2007, 07:35:00 PM
I appreciate the honesty in this thread. We are men. We love those close to us. We naturally want to hurt those who want to hurt those we love. Believe me I would love to take care of this problem my way but I know it will cause more problems. I know this because I have done it my way int the past. I realize this is really a dangerous situation. I have a side arm on as I write this in my own house. Not living in fear but in this day and what I know about this guy I want to be ready for anything. So far it has amounted to nothing but the rage of a lunatic and threats but the profile of this guy is bone chilling. There's alot of potential for some bad stuff. regardless, God is bigger than the biggest bully, my own concerns, whatever it may be. He is my Dad and my Dad can whip his dad if you know what I'm sayin.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: TexMex on December 04, 2007, 07:38:00 AM
Prayers for Protection Continue.

God Bless
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Post by: AnointedArcher on December 04, 2007, 09:30:00 AM
Continued prayers for protection, grace and mercy!
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Doc Nock on December 04, 2007, 12:57:00 PM
Hear you loud and clear, Jim.  Submission to HIS will, is just that...submission. His way...all the Way! Dangest hard thing I have ever tried to do on a daily basis, let alone what you're facing.

Prayers continue for that boy to be brought to his knees by God almighty and have a total change of heart...

Just keep on remembering your words, YOur Heavnly Dad can whip him and his dad...  :)  Great words to live by!
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: ARCHER2 on December 05, 2007, 11:01:00 AM
Prayers sent Brother,
You are right, God will interveen. No one should have to live in fear of another human being.
                                   GOD BLESS
                                ARCHER2
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Mudd on December 06, 2007, 11:23:00 AM
Praying in agreement.
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Post by: laddy on December 06, 2007, 02:40:00 PM
Do not let her talk to her father by herself.  If you cannot be there someone from the city or county should be.  If he truly is violent natured toward his daughter, do not trust him.
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Post by: kiamichi kid on December 06, 2007, 04:10:00 PM
prayers sent
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Post by: possumtrot on December 06, 2007, 11:30:00 PM
Heydeerman,
 I have been thinking about you and the situation and lifting it up to the Lord. It is a fact that all of us face trials of every sort in this life. They come in various forms and seem to hit us when we least expect it. They all are the "Goliath's" of our lives. But it is also clear that "our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the worlds forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places." So I encourage you as Paul did to take up the full armour of God to see you and your family through this time. It is amazing to read how God sometimes told His people to "be still" and watch Him work and at other times He commanded them to stand up as warriors and fight the good fight. So my prayer for you is not only strength but discernment as well. To be still and to stand at His call.... John
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Doc Nock on December 07, 2007, 08:10:00 AM
Amen to John insightful advice. Continued prayers for protection and the patience to stand ready but to wait on His call... amen.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: heydeerman on December 07, 2007, 08:36:00 AM
Possumtrot. Thats the plan. Much appreciated. We are getting Steph this weekend.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: Doc Nock on December 08, 2007, 02:51:00 PM
Hang in there, Bro... prayers with you all!
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: F Thomas on December 10, 2007, 05:35:00 PM
Continued prayer from California.

Put on the Full Armor of God!
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Post by: oneshot-onekill on December 27, 2007, 08:06:00 AM
Continuing to pray for this situation.
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: jimbob91 on December 27, 2007, 10:16:00 AM
Continued Prayers from Ohio
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Post by: F Thomas on December 27, 2007, 03:01:00 PM
Continued prayers for the whole family and particularly for your step daughter.

May her father come to the saving knowledge of Jesus  Christ in his life.
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Post by: Wulomac on December 27, 2007, 06:33:00 PM
Prayers for your family and Psalm 91 for you also.  Wells
Title: Re: Urgent request
Post by: heydeerman on December 29, 2007, 07:14:00 PM
Thank you friends. Things are quiet right now. I think the big threat might be over but not sure. I had a monitored security system installed so the girls feel safer in the house if I am not home.