Post by: Doc Nock on March 26, 2010, 09:45:00 PM
He also spent 29 days 7 years ago stoned outa his gourd on Oxycontin pain meds... and he's had days the past 2 weeks where he'll be that way, then fine next day... I have to wonder if he might have a stash soemwhere of some good pain meds...his knee has been botherin him something awful and dad hates pain at any cost!
Waiting to hear from the ER if he's being admitted or returned home tonite. I hope they keep him in over night... he just turned 88 last Thurs and is on his own.
Post by: bihunter on March 26, 2010, 10:44:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on March 27, 2010, 06:55:00 AM
They admitted him for "further observation." I figured they would. Heard nothing through the night, so that might be a good thing. Today, with hospitals, you just never know if they'll call or not... :(
Post by: JOE HARROD on March 27, 2010, 09:31:00 AM
Post by: Nosight on March 27, 2010, 10:12:00 AM
Please keep us up on him and your family...
Later....Buzz
Post by: BenBow on March 27, 2010, 12:02:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on March 27, 2010, 12:43:00 PM
They say he's fine. I talked to him 2x today. He's not fine by a long shot...can hardly understand him.. :( He's been through a lot this year already... well, 12 months. Aug was a mild heart attack, Dec he fell badly...now this. Ole boy can't stay in his apt long at a time w/out getting stuck back in the hospital.
If it's mini strokes, dunno what they'll say about his returning to his apt... this outfit where he lives gives me the willies lately.
Prayers for your Mom, to Galen. Keep an eye on those meds! Tellin sometimes isn't enough today and you have to "assert" with the medicos if you're the POA. :)
Thanks for all the prayers for ole Titus and for me. :)
Post by: bear1336 on March 27, 2010, 01:00:00 PM
In HIS service
Dave
Post by: Doc Nock on March 27, 2010, 09:27:00 PM
:pray: Went in to see Pop...when my friend and I and dad's lady friend from down the hall came in, he broke into tears and said they told him he had a stroke... that about broke my heart to see Pop that emotional.
I went out and met with the nurse in charge of him that shift. We went through all the tests..nothing conclusive yet...but his mouth droops, his speech is barely intelligible and then tonite he coudlnt' feed himself!
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They're leaning to TIA??? Some petite stroke that doesn't show much damage... his arms are so weak. He couldn't even open mail or put stuff back in the envelope... :(
Ugfff... He and I have been through the mill with his health challenges, but with his heart condition, I never expected this... he's scared and so am I but I have to keep the staunch face cause he's watchin me like a hawk to see my reaction to things.
Prayers please that according to His will, Tite (Titus) might regain mobility and indepenence to live out his time in his independent living and prayers for me to have the patience and strength to handle all that might be put on me.
Bless you folks. I know lots more pray than post. and I thank you all.
Post by: BenBow on March 27, 2010, 11:31:00 PM
Post by: kill shot on March 29, 2010, 10:41:00 AM
Post by: Killdeer on March 29, 2010, 07:43:00 PM
Clark's mom had some TIAs years ago, sounds similar to your dad's symptoms. Tell the truth, I forget whether they were quite as severe. I remember the slurred speech, though, and weakness.
Praying for strength, for both of you.
Killdeer :campfire:
Post by: Doc Nock on March 29, 2010, 07:44:00 PM
They confirmed that indeed, it was a stroke. Things aren't looking good. :(
Yesterday, he sang 'happy birthday' to me and got the tune right, all the words and even struggled HARD to feed himself since being right handed and his right side seems to be the most effectedd, it was a hard chore.
Today, he can hardly wake up, speech is really bad, drooling out the right side and is loosing motor control to sit up on that right side...
Oh, man...this is harder than the blood and guts part of terminal illness... jeeze. :( This is tearing me up.
Doc says that next few days will be telling...to see if he's having "flash TIA (mini) strokes compounding one another or if it's the in and out of a normal stroke till it settles and sees what damage has been done...
If he can't have any independence, knowing him as I do, he'd rather just the Lord take him home than slouch around strapped to a bed till he dies.
Lord in your mercy, give me strength to want Your WILL and bring Dad peace.
Post by: Killdeer on March 29, 2010, 08:00:00 PM
Hang tough for your dad, and cry when you need to. Stay strong to be able to do what you can for him.
The long fight is the hardest. I pray that God leads you through this trial with gentle hands.
Killdeer
Post by: Doc Nock on March 29, 2010, 08:51:00 PM
And y'know what...I'd take that hug.
Thanks, Killie...
Post by: oneshot-onekill on March 29, 2010, 10:25:00 PM
Post by: BenBow on March 30, 2010, 09:39:00 AM
Post by: bear1336 on March 30, 2010, 10:04:00 AM
In HIS service
Dave
Post by: Doc Nock on March 30, 2010, 12:02:00 PM
He is sooo weak... and you can see he just doesn't understand "why?"
I do so appreciate the prayers. If I could take the anguish on myself and remove it from him and let him be in peace through this ordeal, I'd do it. Alas...not how it works.
Good point, Dave.. God is in control and at times we just have to accept our lack of control for it to manifest itself. Boy that is a lot easier to type than do! :(
Post by: Doc Nock on April 01, 2010, 08:32:00 AM
Dad was transfered to a Rehab Hospital yesterday. He is so weak and the CT scans, lying flat, hurt his back so he is in agony every time. But at least, he's where they specialize in rehab for stroke patients: Dad has a chance. AT 88, it's a long shot I guess, but tween him and the Lord, anything is possible.
Prayers sought for sufficient recovery that he might return to independent living. And strength to endure what lies ahead.
Thank you.
Post by: BenBow on April 01, 2010, 09:45:00 AM
Post by: Nosight on April 02, 2010, 08:47:00 AM
Post by: Doc Nock on April 03, 2010, 09:10:00 PM
Then tonite, they call that they left him unatteneded and no alarm on his wheel chair and for some reason, he tried to get up and fell. :(
Prayers that the nursing staff get their act together for all concerned there and that Dad has no major setbacks from this event...they said he seemed 'ok.' How DOES one assess and 88 yr old stroke victim after fallin is 'ok?"
Lord in your Mercy...
Post by: BenBow on April 03, 2010, 10:26:00 PM
Post by: Keefer on April 05, 2010, 07:15:00 AM
Post by: Doc Nock on April 05, 2010, 08:20:00 AM
Please pray for ME today as I interface with the Case Mgr. I've never spoken to. I have a list of things PRIOR to his falling that are just not right to go over...and then the fall it'self.
They have a "time clock" running on patient stay and Dad took a huge set back. He's in overall body agony now... and they have him so doped up... :(
Pray for and with me that I handle this in Christian way, but also get the message across to them it's time to ramp up their behaviors.
Post by: bear1336 on April 05, 2010, 11:02:00 AM
Post by: Doc Nock on April 05, 2010, 07:33:00 PM
Got through that part...lady was quite "amicable" and supportive...at least by the words said. Dad was still not getting his jobst support stockings up where they belong tonite... but the one doc did call me to give me an update on things...that's some progress. Floor was clean..I didn't stick fast. Overall, dad is so sore, he's not even trying...which is predictable. I asked for them to share culpability for the fall and extend his stay till he's back in fighting trim and can give it a go. We'll see. Thanks for prayers for Titus!
Post by: pronghorn23 on April 05, 2010, 09:28:00 PM
Prayers sent for a quick recovery for your dad and peace and strength for both of you.
Post by: Doc Nock on April 10, 2010, 09:08:00 AM
This week, they decided with some gentle nudging and reminders of their culpability, to give him another 2 weeks. Next Wednesday, they're re-evaluate and see what progress he's making and then if he shows improvement a 3rd week will be added to get him where normal PT and rehab might work to get him back independent.
He's far from out of the woods, but thanks for the many prayers. He has up and down days with the pain, but he's shown some improvement.
Lord willing, he can get back to his apt. before it's all said and done and continue to live independently!
Lord, in your mercy....
Post by: bear1336 on April 10, 2010, 09:31:00 AM
In HIS service
Dave
Post by: Smallwood on April 11, 2010, 09:14:00 AM
Post by: Kevin Winkler on April 11, 2010, 09:37:00 AM
Thanks for your support after my surgery.
Post by: BenBow on April 11, 2010, 05:17:00 PM
Post by: shaft slinger on April 17, 2010, 04:44:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on April 18, 2010, 10:05:00 PM
Dad leaves the rehab hospital for the nursing home. He will be in the same complex where he has his apartment so he'll be around some friends.
Too soon I guess to tell if he'll be able to get back to his independent living arrangements and return to his apartment or not.
Thanks to everyone for keeping Pop in prayer. It's been hard on us both, but Lord willing, he'll get his chance to return home...
Post by: bear1336 on April 19, 2010, 03:31:00 AM
In HIS service
Dave
Post by: motormouth on April 19, 2010, 05:45:00 PM
i had no idead what was going on. i've been busy with some things of my own but i am praying hard for you and your pops. i know how much you love him and that even if you don't think he knows that, he does. he knows you've been there for him and he loves you for it. never lose hope dave, cause the minute you lose hope is the minute it all falls apart. trust me, i'm a professional at falling apart. i'm in AA classes and some other things trying to get life back on track. again, alot has happened. my pop said hes prayin too. he misses all you guys and he might be a b-more. doesn't know for sure yet. we're in your corner doc, and just let us know if we can help. prayers sent your way and you better be on form at b-more...caz the hundley clan might be coming down to teach ya'll a lesson or two. give me a call dave, i lost your number so just call, we'll be prayin.
In his name,
-Motormouth
Post by: Steelhead on April 20, 2010, 01:26:00 AM
All the best friend
Gods speed
Eric
Post by: Rookie@51 on April 20, 2010, 05:01:00 AM
Post by: TexMex on April 20, 2010, 08:54:00 AM
God Bless
Post by: Doc Nock on April 20, 2010, 01:39:00 PM
Matt, seems you've been holding back some. Knowledge is power and facing our own demons is very tough, but it is ever so powerful. Devil lives in the shadows. I'll try to call so's you've got a number. Life has been too busy and running too hard, but will try. Prayers back at you! And you Sis! Not sure about B'mo this year, but will make the weekend if nothing else.
Eric, Thanks, man. I know there are many lifting up "Tite" and me in this battle.
Rookie, Wow. Those are some beautiful words right there. Undeserved, I fear, but occassionally, the Good Lord finds a way to use even this ole rusty, leaky bucket to do some good.
Tex, good to see you back in the mix. You've had one devilish tough row to hoe yourself with family and their health issues the past year! Prayers things are improving and wounds healing and losses shifting to fond memories.
Dad is now at the nursing home attached to his apartment. It's not the best, but 'according to God's will' whatever is to be...will.
I might not like it, but as has been said, Lord will provide the strength if I but surrender. That is the hard part. Seeing all those older folks sitting there in drool bibs, lost in a haze of unknown darkness, takes my breath away.
Thanks for your prayers for Titus.
Lord in your mercy...
Post by: Keefer on April 23, 2010, 05:29:00 AM
Post by: eaglefeather on April 25, 2010, 07:34:00 PM
Post by: Rookie@51 on April 25, 2010, 07:36:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on April 26, 2010, 09:05:00 AM
Thanks to you all and ALL the others who keep "Tite" in their prayers.
His progress is disturbingly slow... in a short month, Dad has lost a lot of ground... Doc's are tellin me they doubt he can make it back to independent living... but they hope he proves them wrong.
Now it's time to rely totally on God and keep MY vigilance on those who provide daily care, as they truly are stretched thin and mistakes happen, especially when they think there isn't much hope for their patients.
I had to finally take an evening off from visiting Friday. I was too exhausted to keep up the nightly routine. It's been almost 4 weeks...
I know whatever happens, God will provide me strength to endure. Dad's mental sharpness isn't there as it was. He was always so reliant on God. Now he's just confused it seems and being willful of what he wants.
Truly, there is much to praise God for in the midst of this that Dad can still feed himself and isn't totally incontentent(?). He is walking some with help... so he can retain some dignity and hope.
Indeed, it's time to "Keep the Son in my eyes!"
Thanks folks...
Post by: Rookie@51 on May 03, 2010, 06:34:00 AM
Post by: BenBow on May 03, 2010, 08:48:00 AM
Post by: Doc Nock on May 03, 2010, 09:54:00 AM
Now that he's back at the main campus where he lived, he "lady friend" can visit (she's 78, he's 88 and they became friends a year after Mom passed)so I took the weekend and went to see my "2nd Mom" (she/Jack were neighbors when I lived up there and he died 2 yrs ago)She lives next door to my old house in Central PA. She just turned 84. I got to go out for Turkey Opener...only 2nd yr of hunting spring birds...don't know much, but got 3 to come in but not close enough...
I needed to change scenery and Lord took care of Pop. He made it without my being there every day! :)
Progress continues slow, but he's still making some headway... God's will to be done but if he can make it back to his apartment, that would be nice...
Thanks for the prayers for ole "Tite".
Post by: Rookie@51 on May 04, 2010, 05:54:00 AM
Post by: Nosight on May 04, 2010, 09:24:00 AM
Thanks for the updates...
Glad to hear you got some time for yourself and it sounds like you realy needed it ....
keep us up on both Pop and the turkeys...
Later....Buzz
Post by: Doc Nock on May 04, 2010, 10:04:00 AM
Thanks for that.
I likely won't get out for turks anymore till last 2 weekends. This one, I gotta clean the dump! I got so much work I'm behind on!
:eek: Then there is B'more shoot the following weekend. :) Get to see Killy and Clark and so many other good Gang folks. Won't get down till later Fri, but hey... get a day or 2 in.
There be 2 more weekends after B'mo, but... it's a long drive to where there are birds! :)
Thanks, too, for keeping ole Titus in your prayers. His mind just isn't clearing as it has in the past. At 88, I guess even a small TIA can do irreperable damage. Breaks my heart. But he's sitting up, takin nourishment and having some small independence. Just if he doesn't make some bigger gains soon, they'll likely force him into assisted living in another part of the complex and we'll have to close the apt and I'll have to get rid of all the family furniture and keepsakes. I've got nowhere for it all.
Overwhelming, but God always shows me a reserve I can't fathom before whatever challenge surfaces. I just don't have to like it! :) I guess Christ didn't much care for his cup either, but He did it for us!
Post by: BenBow on May 04, 2010, 02:46:00 PM
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I just don't have to like it! [Smile] I guess Christ didn't much care for his cup either, but He did it for us!Now those are words I need to remember. God's best David
Post by: eaglefeather on May 09, 2010, 04:31:00 PM
Post by: tukudu on May 09, 2010, 08:53:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on May 10, 2010, 09:38:00 AM
Easier to pen those words than to live them for sure! I'm about exhausted fighting the evil one's pull on a daily basis. God will provide once I surrender totally instead of trying to make it work on my own...
Tom,
Man o live! Good to see you posting! Thanks for the prayers and continued prayers for YOU, good man!
Post by: Rookie@51 on May 16, 2010, 10:08:00 AM
Post by: bear1336 on May 16, 2010, 10:58:00 AM
In HIS service
Dave
Post by: Doc Nock on May 17, 2010, 08:22:00 AM
It fills my heart with saddness to see this change and know it's dramatic impact I don't think Dad yet understands...
Thanks for the continued prayers. This is gonna leave a mark!
Post by: BenBow on May 17, 2010, 09:48:00 AM
Post by: Rookie@51 on June 03, 2010, 06:39:00 AM
Post by: mooseman1967 on June 04, 2010, 11:47:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on June 05, 2010, 08:10:00 AM
He's not progressing very fast...he seems to really be struggling. I started lookin HARD at the contract hire PT/OT/Speech Therapy being provided at his retirement village and didn't like what I saw.
Prayed hard all last weekend cause the stuff I was finding out made me madder'n a wet hen! :( I don't like me when I get angry. I was still praying through that for a way to communicate, when the social worker called me and handed me some fluff.
I've been getting a lot of double talk, promises and mis-information. I got the retirement village's social worker up to speed that what she's telling me and what's being done aren't the same, so she set up a conference call with the whole PT unit and mgr.
Anyway, my colleagues at work said there was no mistake I was dead serious...and my tone of voice changed a few times, but that I was fair and reasonable in what I said and how...
We'll see if it makes any difference.
Some folks just throw in the towel and say it's in God's hands...but I think we're charged with dealing with what's in our bucket to help, and then leave the rest to the Lord.
Thank you for your prayers. I'll share with Pop that he's got warriors still on his side he never knew! :)
Big Dave, stop it! :) You've got a whale on your plate and a plastic spork to eat it with... You're no fool. Dad's 88 and while so very important to me and wanting what's best for him and a chance to try... but, son, you have a much bigger challenge to handle.
God will see us both through...that i know. We might not like the path, but HE will get us through.
Peace to all and thank you!
Post by: bear1336 on June 06, 2010, 12:48:00 PM
Post by: Bonebuster on June 11, 2010, 09:31:00 PM
Sometimes things that are, just don`t make sense to me.
Imagine how difficult it would all be without faith.
I shouldn`t lurk here as I do. My heart gets heavy without posting.
Post by: Doc Nock on June 14, 2010, 10:03:00 AM
Dad just isn't getting stronger. At the Rehab Hosp where they specialize in stroke patient, they pushed him 3 hrs. day for PT, OT, Speech.
He had to transfer to the nursing care facility in the retirement village where he has an apt.
The therapy there isn't up to par. I've had to be involved and badger some...but it's improved in continuity, but he's not improving.
I fear his days in independent living might soon be over... :( He lost Mom 5 yrs ago, found a neat lady friend who has been a great companion that lives in an apt. nearby. If he goes to ASst. Living...he'll be across campus and she can't and he can't make the trip often to visit.
Makes me so very sad... Dad had a lot of verve but he's just not getting stronger to go it on his own I'm afraid.
Lord willing, maybe we can get him back for a few months with Visiting nurses coming in AM and PM to get him up and going, dressed, bathed and then to bed...
He ended up with ugly red marks at the corners of his mouth that look like some infection. There aren't doctors on site so nothting till tomorrow.. :(
People say he's lucky to have me being an advocate. Wow...when it's my time, without a family of my own, will someone please just take me to the woods like the native american's did...and let me finish out my time there in peace...
Post by: bear1336 on June 14, 2010, 10:14:00 AM
In HIS service
Brother Dave
Post by: Doc Nock on June 16, 2010, 09:10:00 AM
Dad's been increasingly short of breath, so I fight with rehab to keep up the pace, mindful he's showing signs of fatigue...
I start buggin to check other "causes". Alas, he's got pneumonia..fluid on the lungs. Of course, they want to focus on other reasons other'n the serious infection his "nurse" had at the initial rehab hospital he was in for all 3 weeks of his stay and that he left there with a horrible head/chest "cold." Never stopped coughin or the nasal discharge.
He's now on O2..antibiotics, has had red circles with ugly centers on his face since I found them Sat AM and reported it..nothing done till doc shows on Tues...fungal skin infection. he looks beat down... now has this HUGE O2 tank anchoring him so I guess they'll not do any more PT/OT, etc... and he'll back slide AGAIN.
I'm plumb wore out! :( I try to remain assertive but not aggressive but it's like trying to plug holes in a leaky damn with my fingers.
I know God's in charge...but that doesn't mean I don't have a role to play as advocate. Its endless.
Pray for God's will in Dad's healing. As Dad's brother told me 25 yrs ago, while in final stages of bone cancer, "David, even death is God's perfect healing!"
Please pray for strength and Peace for Dad and discernment and peace for me.
Thank you.
Post by: BenBow on June 16, 2010, 09:46:00 AM
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Post by: Doc Nock on June 16, 2010, 03:42:00 PM
I think being raised by an "old school" RN mother, I just see what they don't do by way of coordination...at 88, each one of their individual oversights collectively diminsh Dad's capacity.
They "bought in" to this retirement community years ago, paid a big fee (for them) and then paid a LOT for a 1-bedroom apt...so that regardless, they have care till they both die.
Not much option on dad's money (nor mine) to do or go anywhere else...
Just requires constant, heavy vigilance on my part... and it has me plumb wore out! But Dad worked many hours all his life to provide for me and Mom...so he's due my focus.
Just so hard to watch him diminsh and think there could have been a better way...
Lord in Your Mercy...
Post by: BenBow on June 16, 2010, 09:14:00 PM
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Post by: Doc Nock on June 23, 2010, 08:33:00 AM
Now he's getting swelling in his limbs. Yet they have not put him on a reduced salt diet. He's not been following all their "rules" about turning off his power chair before trying to exit it, so now they're threatening to forbid him to use it!
It never ends! But then, those who've been here, know the drill and I'm not experiencing anything others have not...
I cannot see DAd rebounding enough to ever get back to his apt. That, when it's finalized, will just about break him...both spiritually and financially rather quickly. Been tough watching him slowly spiral down, and not know definitively what the cause has been.
So many contributing factors that I cannot fault the care to any provable point...The doctor left me voice mails yesterday indicating that this is likely a permanent decline...
Thank you for the prayers to date, and Dad's been blessed in many ways, given all that he has been fighting for years... but pray for Pop's peace and that the Holy Spirit will wrap Titus in his loving arms and help him accept whatever lies ahead with Grace and Dignity.
thanks...
Post by: BenBow on June 23, 2010, 10:43:00 AM
Post by: chopx2 on June 23, 2010, 03:05:00 PM
Post by: MR BILL SHORTY on June 23, 2010, 06:48:00 PM
Post by: stringstretcher on June 25, 2010, 02:15:00 PM
Post by: Killdeer on June 27, 2010, 08:01:00 AM
Killdeer
Post by: Rookie@51 on June 28, 2010, 11:28:00 AM
Post by: MR BILL SHORTY on June 28, 2010, 07:16:00 PM
Post by: BenBow on June 29, 2010, 08:12:00 AM
Post by: Doc Nock on June 29, 2010, 09:07:00 AM
Not much change to share. He's still on O2 and even with mild exercise, his O2 saturation drops. They're suspending PT so medicare stops and he goes on self-pay now at the nursing facility. They're trying to provide some 'pressure' to give up his apt... but as long as he has $$$ I'm not doing that till all hope is exhausted that he can go back. Only God knows that outcome, and He's not sharing. :)
I bit the bullet and am heading with some MD guys to Uncle Ray's Hog Heaven July 1st through 4th!
I'm a bit nervous about Dad's condition while gone, but have folks looking in and ready to stand in to make judgements. Trouble is, at Ray's, cell's don't work and no phone till next town.
Please keep Pop in prayer while I'm gone that he stabilizes and no bad turns occur. Being "out of touch" really has me hinked out! :eek:
Post by: BenBow on June 29, 2010, 02:09:00 PM
Post by: Rookie@51 on June 29, 2010, 11:06:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on June 30, 2010, 08:53:00 AM
But alas, Whatever is to be will be. Dad knows how I feel about him. Doc says there shouldn't be any "end-of-life" stuff immenent, but...the heart docs have said that when it happens, with his heart valve, it will be catastrophic and final!
Course, I keep tellin myself (or the Holy Spirit is whisperin to me) that if Dad does die while I'm away, he will instantly be made perfect as he stands before Christ and will KNOW without question how much I love him...
...Just somehow doesn't make it seem any easier to relax right now...
But I got some good crew to be with that will help ease the load and I'll find a way to get that daily call to check in and see he's ok...somehow. :)
Thanks guys! Your support and prayers always mean so much to me and so many!
Peace.
Post by: southpawshooter on July 03, 2010, 07:07:00 PM
Post by: Killdeer on July 03, 2010, 07:30:00 PM
I am sure that your dad wouldn't want you to have your life put on hold on his account, either. Both of you need a break from each other occasionally.
I sure have heard a lot about Ray and his place. Is it true?
Killdeer
Post by: Doc Nock on July 08, 2010, 10:27:00 AM
Yes, Killie, it's all true about Ray's. Amazing place... true "southern" living at a more relaxed pace, in the peace of the pines. I got there wore out from all that has been going on and it's a place where you WANT to hunt hard... hogs aren't push-overs. They demand dedication and perseverance. I went for the peace as much as the passion of hunting. Got both... :)
Dad did well. He finally passed his "swallow study" allowing him to now drink regular liquids! He's estatic! Prior, due to the stroke damage of nerves, when he swallowed, he'd aspirate into his lungs...so he was on this disgusting thickened fluids... like cold honey thick!
His strength is no better, nor is his breathing. Constantly on 02, but he still believes he'll get back to his apt. So it remains open...but now we have to self-pay the nursing care and the apt...it will eat his funds quickly.
I truly appreciate all the prayers for Tite! :)
Post by: straitera on July 08, 2010, 05:36:00 PM
Post by: Rookie@51 on July 16, 2010, 09:32:00 PM
Post by: BenBow on July 16, 2010, 11:46:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on July 17, 2010, 08:15:00 AM
Along with Prayers for Dad's health and happiness, I'd ask for prayers that God show me how and WHEN to approach dad with the fact he's not leaving there and that we might need to sell stuff and close the apartment.
This is going to leave a mark... :(
Lord in your Mercy...
Post by: MR BILL SHORTY on July 18, 2010, 11:15:00 AM
Post by: eaglefeather on July 24, 2010, 02:39:00 PM
Post by: Bill Tell on July 25, 2010, 12:37:00 AM
"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9
Been saying this one a lot. There is truth in this.
Sometimes "wherever you go" relates to the depths of our thought.
Post by: Rookie@51 on July 25, 2010, 08:56:00 AM
I'm praying for Mercy for Pop's and Strength for you to stand up under this weight. I have never stopped praying for ya'll but will be a lifting you up a little more often. It's not because I think He will forget about but because it keeps me from forgetting. God bless you and Pop,........Dusty
Post by: bear1336 on July 25, 2010, 09:56:00 AM
In HIS service
Dave
Post by: Doc Nock on July 27, 2010, 09:38:00 AM
Everytime I bring up any of those items, he rejects it saying, "I'll be going back to the apt soon..."
I dread all this, but...has to be. Seeking continued prayers for Dad to be covered up in the Holy Spirit that he might accept and be joyful for the quality of life he has and enjoy his transition.
Post by: Rookie@51 on July 27, 2010, 08:19:00 PM
Post by: mooseman1967 on July 27, 2010, 09:02:00 PM
Take care, Dave
Post by: Flt Rck Shtr on July 27, 2010, 11:05:00 PM
Prayers sent to you and yours, I wish there was something more I could say or do to help you through this, as you helped me through the toughest time I've ever had in my life about a year ago. Your heartfelt concern and prayers were a Godsend and still are.
Thanks again and God Bless,
James
Post by: Doc Nock on July 28, 2010, 07:51:00 AM
Lots of good thoughts shared by you guys. Thanks.
James, Just paying it forward. Been a lot of times people here lifted and held me up in time of need. It's what were to do... live in community.
Post by: BenBow on July 28, 2010, 09:20:00 AM
Post by: Doc Nock on July 30, 2010, 08:47:00 AM
Doc told me Dad kept trying to change the subject.
I got in about 7pm and even though his beloved Phillies were on TV, he started to tell me the Doc basically told him that he'll never go home to his apt...
We talked back and forth. I tried to ask him questions about how he's not able to do most things for himself... and that he seems to always enjoy folks 'doing for him' so why was the nursing home enviornment not a good thing?
I pointed out different positive things, and how if we did close his apt, I could bring Mom's electric lift chair so he could get in and out of a recliner easier than the fight he now has with his increasing weakness...we talked about the nice flat screen TV (not big one) I'd gotten him that sits up there, and putting a phone in his room so he could call folks... etc.
Please keep Pop in prayers for peace and acceptance. Since Mom's death 5.5 yrs ago, he'd made friends with a lady in another wing of this apt complex...and they're good buddies. Dad's often spoken of wanting to "get married" but now he shared last night that he actually asked her, as he sits there with 02 in his nose 24/7, and she said 'no.'
He's tellin everyone, so it must really bother him. I tried to reason with her poor heart function, she couldn't begin to assist him with bathing and dressing as it takes 2 to help him from his motorized wheel chair to his recliner and into/out of bed...on the commode, and it would "kill" her literally.
He ponders and reasons quietly. I feel so darned bad for him... this is hitting hard.
Lord in your mercy...be with "Tite" and help him feel your love and grace.
Post by: BenBow on July 30, 2010, 09:30:00 AM
Post by: bear1336 on July 31, 2010, 09:29:00 AM
In HIS service
Dave
Post by: Rookie@51 on September 09, 2010, 12:06:00 PM
Post by: BenBow on September 09, 2010, 12:23:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on September 09, 2010, 04:38:00 PM
Not posted much for what is-is. He's slipping a bit each week and since we went on "self-pay" the care has slipped it seems too! Odd...
I find things that just shouldn't be...almost weekly and try to nicely point them out...
Alas, now he's again retaining fluid big time. 23# in the past 3 weeks. I've been telling nurses he's gotten a cold..can't breathe right, then he started coughin a lot... head draining, then he's filling up with fluid..well, Yeah! Can't breath, found the tank of 02 turned off on his motorized chair 3x in 10 days when I came in to transfer him to his recliner after his dinner when I can get there..so he was without.
I don't care how good a nursing facility is, they're all under-staffed and quality suffers. :( Most are decent care-givers but a few it's just a temporary job and they can't get much else. Shame.
They're trying to get the fluid down with water pills which he hates...cause he's got contenance problems then... but...otherwise, he'll drown or kill what heart function he has left...double bind.
Thanks for the prayers for Titus! :) And for me.
Post by: BRITTMAN on September 09, 2010, 07:24:00 PM
Post by: bucksdown on September 10, 2010, 10:12:00 AM
Post by: BenBow on September 10, 2010, 02:26:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on September 11, 2010, 09:19:00 PM
thank you so much for your prayers for Tite. Tomorrow, I reluctantly undertake the onerous task of starting to organize packing up the apartment... Working alone it's going to be a process... :)
Blessing on all who come, read and pray, not just those of us who post!
Post by: bear1336 on September 12, 2010, 04:58:00 PM
In HIS service
Dave
Post by: Rookie@51 on October 04, 2010, 09:40:00 PM
Post by: Doc Nock on October 05, 2010, 12:33:00 PM
I was going to wait to re-post till I had more information.
Dad is slipping. He's filling up with fluid big time...they have him on a lot of water pills, but it's not working too well. That is the prognosis of congestive heart failure...
He's getting weaker, but doesn't seem to have a clue what's happening. He's pretty private in some things...in his time, he will start to ask me tough questions.
Been having some sinus problems and feeling beat down... still workign on trying to sort through the mess in his apt... all that "stuff." :( Don't have much time and less energy.
Tried to go center of state for bow opener and it was pretty... but got a call he was having trouble breathing about 3pm. I tried to hunt cause he was stable then...but mind would not allow it. Packed up, left the woods, and went to where I was staying, loaded the truck "in case" the call came in I was ready.
Couldn't chance getting a deer and then either neglecting the deer or my Dad.. Call never came but I'm at peace with giving up the evening watch.
Thanks for the prayers, Dusty and all others.
Doc says it's not immenent "end times" but it's getting closer. Please pray for Dad to have peace through this and not suffer indignities before he goes "home."
Thanks.
Post by: BenBow on October 05, 2010, 02:43:00 PM
Post by: J. Clabaugh on October 24, 2010, 08:05:00 PM
How's the trail going for him now?
Jeff
Post by: Doc Nock on October 25, 2010, 09:47:00 AM
Thanks for asking. They lost his $3K hearing aid and it took 5 days to find out... We're working on that issue now.
His hands shake terribly...no disease..just the doc says that as the brain continues to loose some control over motor things, our muscles always twitch and jerk, but the brain controls it. Dad is loosing that control.
The result is that he struggles with feeding himself and especially drinking as he drops his cup! I asked about an adult lidded 2 handle "sippy" cup...and they assured me they had them but it's been "on order" for 3 weeks!
With the fluid pills, he is fighting inconteance (?) because of the horrific amount of fluid pills he's on to keep his lungs from filling up but he's still retaining water and outgrowing every pant size I buy him...
With all the muscle loss of control, he is more and more dependent on staff.
I can see his spirits sagging...especially now that his beloved Phillies lost a chance at the World Series... :) So he still in mentally involved, but he's struggling more and more with daily living and functioning.
He's starting to share comments that "living this way is no fun..." so it's wearing on him.
Not to suggest the nursing home isn't doing a good job..it's just I'm there daily to catch any/all their errors... and when it comes to my Dad... I get like a momma bear w/ a cub! :(
Thank all readers and posters for Prayers for Tite. I pray that the Lord calls him home before he hates his daily life and lives in total loss of dignity and hope.
Oh... and prayers around the 18th of Nov. He broke a front tooth and the dentist told him his teeth are hollow so they're surgically removing 4 front teeth 11/18, heal for 6 weeks and then make a partial!!! At almost 89... in his condition...but he doesn't like how his teeth look and with one broken at the gum line, he wants to spend the $2K to do it and go through all that pain and healing! :) What a tough old bird! :)
Post by: BenBow on October 25, 2010, 09:58:00 AM
Post by: TexMex on October 25, 2010, 12:17:00 PM
God Bless
Post by: bear1336 on October 29, 2010, 06:32:00 AM
In His service
Dave
Post by: Rookie@51 on December 26, 2010, 08:19:00 AM
Post by: Doc Nock on December 26, 2010, 08:57:00 PM
Pop's doing..."ok". He's not retaining fluid quite like he had...but he's on a high does of diuretic (?) that makes him whiz constantly, which leands to a lot of issues.
His motor control is compromised and we think there are "mini strokes" occurring periodically to loose so much strength and motor coordination.
But he plugs along. I keep fighting with the home's management team. They're way under staffed and blame the part-time help that come in without any time to read charts.
Tis a shame-ful mess. But it's better than many and dad doesn't complain. :)
Lord is in charge. I just paid movers to pack the rest of his drivvel and move it to storage per his request. He'll never go back, but now the apartment is ready to clean and turn back to the institution and save him some money. Should have done it long months ago, but kept thinking I could handle it alone. I couldn't.
Thanks for the bump. If you know of a nursing facility near-by, spend an hour here or there and visit. I go every day and seldom see another family member visit any of hte other patients...in 6 months! :(
Post by: stringstretcher on December 27, 2010, 05:44:00 PM
Post by: BenBow on December 27, 2010, 05:47:00 PM
Post by: bear1336 on December 29, 2010, 06:22:00 AM
In HIS service
Brother Dave