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Many of you have been such wonderful supporters and prayer warriors for my dad thru his 2 years of struggles since his stroke. You've all also kept me in prayer and I so have felt your strength.
Dad started filling up in the lungs with fluid...congestive heart failure on Friday... then rebounded a bit on Saturday... today they called to say there were doing this and that... and I was preparing to go in when they called back that he has passed!
They never saw someone go so fast.
Bless his heart...he wouldn't give up but when it came down to it, he just decided "enough was enough"
Love you, Pop...sorry I couldn't have been there with you, but now you stand perfect in Christ and know all especially the depth of my love for you!
Rest in Jesus, Dad...
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Dave,
After I got your email..I debated on posting about it, but figured it was something you would want to do.....
Prayers from the Vivians...me, Deb, Zach, and Josiah. If there is anything...I'm only a short ride to Lititz....I will be there Tuesday morning, as we planned.....maybe me and my bald noggin will bring some laughs!
Lee
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So sorry for you loss David. I know it is hard, but you now know he is not suffering but rather gone to his reward. Payers for you my friend to find peace within your self, as Pop now has his.
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Very sorry to hear this Doc but you are right. He is at peace now "Gods perfect healing" Praying for you.
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David,
Prayers are with you. Your Dad is with Jesus and is no longer in pain or suffering. Remember him how he was before his illness and pain. I've never met you but he raised a fine son and a man can't ask for more than that in life.
Nick
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David,
We were just talking on here yesterday about Pop and I'm so sorry you didn't get in there in time to say what was in your Heart and mind but I know that He's Home now and his struggle is over...You have had a load on your shoulders for the past few years and now this may seem like the worst but it's not it's the time to remember and celebrate his victory cause he's now with Jesus....I ,Dorothy,Ande.Kaci,and soon do be Darci will keep you in our prayers and we send our love to you brother...I was praying for you before my feet even hit the floor thismorning Doc and I wish I knew exactly what I could say to help in your pain right now but we all here Love ya brother...God Bless you Doc! Keefers <><
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Thanks all.
I would never wish to avoid the pain of Dad's passing...grief should never be rushed thru.
I cry. I'm sad. I wish there were things that could have been shared, but that has been gone a long time with his condition...
I was ready and told the Lord weeks ago, "your time, but I'm ready when you are ready to take Dad home". he had no life and was in a lot of pain.
Standing before Christ, my dad, at the time of his death, became perfect and all knowing...so he knew my entire heart at that moment.
All that was left unsaid is now known by him.
Tears? Of course...lots of them, but just the process of grief and grief is a process, not an event.
Funny thing is the weight of knowing "now it's my turn in the hopper". All the buffers of my parent generation in my family are gone and it's just li'l ole me...
Thank God for Jesus... never alone with my brother by my side. But even He wept for his friend's death.
Thanks to all for the sentiments!
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Dave,
I know your loss and feel your pain. May The Great One comport you and ease your pain. Prayers to the Four Winds for you in your time of grief.
Danny
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l'il ole me?
I called ya brother and I mean it Doc....Hey we are all here for ya and I think many here would be lost without you being our lead Prayer warrior Doc and I mean it....Your family is here and you better never forget it...Yeah we might not be blood relatives..Nope scratch that out I take that back we are Blood relatives and Jesus gave His for us and if we believe that as I and you know then we are definetly blood brothers...Here's a Big ole brotherly hug for ya Doc from li'l ole me to you...God Bless ya..Keefers <><
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Dave, your Dad stands amazed in the presence of Jesus, while we can only imagine...
Brother, you have shown to all of us here an example of a son's unwavering love and devotion to his father. I am humbled by your witness, your resolve, and your gift of presence to him. May God's Spirit hold you in His arms of comfort this eve, knowing that Pops now knows your heart. Be strong Dave, and let His presence carry you now.
Love ya brother.
In Christ,
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David, I am so sorry for your loss. Your Dad has been called for a greater purpose. He is for sure proud of you and knows how much love you have for him. He is in the best place and free of the anchors of his illness. We are here for you David.
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Doc,
I'm also very sorry for your loss. Things happen in God's time.......not ours and I know that you were as prepared for the inevitable as a person could possibly be.
Your Dad is now at peace.....and he knows of the love that you have shown by being there for him on a daily basis. Words cannot express the loss that I know that you feel, so I won't even attempt to try to ease the pain.
He is now up above.........his work here is done he can now look down proudly on his son below and know that he did his job well as a father. He is a proud person and even a prouder parent. May God rest his soul. My Grandmother passed away back in 1983, the day after Christmas after a long battle with cancer.
I still go to her and my Grandfathers grave on a regular basis and have "chats" with them. They listen and put my mind at ease as to my senseless worries.
God Speed..........and "his" will has been done.
If you ever need to talk......you know how to get hold of me. As you said, grieving is a process.........take as long as you need and I will keep YOU, most especially in my daily prayers.
:pray: :pray: :pray:
Winterhawk1960
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So Sorry Dave, I wish I could be there with you, May God's peace be with you.
Your friend in Carolina
Charles
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Thanks, everyone of you! Thanks too for the many emails and calls. You all shared some fine sentements and beautiful thoughts. Thank you.
Now the hard part begins tomorrow...arrangements, scheduling preachers, pall bearers, etc.
Then the financial side and notifying all the many venues that need to know and have certification of the situation!
I'm going to bed and see if there might be a few extra winks there tonite...I could use them.
I'm at peace... but the sadness will linger as it should. :) And that's ok...
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praying for you, Doc!
When my grandmother passed at 95 years old there were mixed emotions. She had not been herself for years and as you said had no life. Selfishly we were sad that she was no longer here with us, but she really had not been for years. There was relief too. Like you, my mom went to visit her every day that she could. It was equally sad watching her waste away in the condition she was in both mentally and physically. Such a relief to know she was with our Lord and would never have to suffer again.
As someone else stated, you can live the rest of your life being proud that you did all you could for your dad through some very difficult times.
You got plenty of family! There are so many of us that have benefited from your words of comfort and wisdom. Just wish you lived closer so I could shake your hand. It will happen someday.
Keep the Son in your eyes!
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Dad is now with our LORD may peace and comfront come to you my Brother.
In HIS service
Brother Dave
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My sincere condolences to you Dave. May Dad rest in eternal peace with Jesus in Heaven. Saint Pio please grant an intercession and open the gates of Heaven and welcome him into your loving arms.
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Prayers sent Dave. Call if you need to talk.
g
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Doc. Prayers for peace for you..
If there is any time you want to talk just call.
Later...Buzz
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Dave, condolences to you & your family.
prayers sent
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Whew...funeral is finally set and arranged for Wednesday afternoon! Geeze, they run ya so ragged, you don't have time to grieve for a week or so I bet! :(
next hurdle will be the finances and getting funds rolled around to pay his bills... hoo boy.
I do so appreciate everyone's caring sentiments.
I'd not find a shortcut thru the grief if I could find one...Dad deserves to be grieved.
He leaves a hole...
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Doc,
You will find right now it seems everything is a blurr but after all the arrangements are met and you are home alone you will have the time to grieve and we are here as your support group brother...I also wished we didn't live so far away so we can sit with you for awhile and talk..I found when my Mom passed that was the most comforting thing was having my friends stop by for a few hours...Try to get some rest and if ya need us here to chat with then chat away....While I'm here what was your favorite memory of Pop and you? Did you have a hunt or anything that really comes to mind that you will always cherrish? Have at it when you get a break ! Praying every day for you...God Bless Dave...
Keefers <><
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Sounds like he went to be with the Lord, Prayers for the comfort for the family and praise Jesus for eternal life.
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"next hurdle will be the finances and getting funds rolled around to pay his bills... hoo boy."
That's the part I'm dreading. I dunno how long my dad will be cranking along, and my brain glazes over when it encounters finances, insurance, taxes, etc.
Be careful throwing out old magazines. :eek:
Killdeer
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Buddy, my thoughts and prayers are with you...mark
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Deepest condolences...prayers sent for strength and comfort.
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Praying for you brother!
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thanks again to all for prayers, posts and emails!
I've been well supported. Won't prevent some sad moments, but tears are part of living --- and dying. I'd have it no other way. :)
I gave Dad to God and said "Lord, when you're ready to take Dad home, I'm ready to let him go!"
That was months ago when things started going South big time...
All is at peace now... and after tomorrow's funeral, I can focus on dealing with all his "stuff" and moving on.
Thank you all again!
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David,
Sorry I didn't stop in sooner.
Please accept my deepest condolences.
I know you have a lot on your plate and as Keefer mentioned, when you get back to grieving, we are here for you.
When you are ready to be a little selfish for a change, let me know! You deserve it.
PM me if you need to talk in private, I can and will send my number.
Charlie
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Kinda came to me this AM...this funeral day is like a final exam in college.
*Final in that it's my last parent
*Final in that I've prepared the best I can but don't really know what to expect
*Final in that when this exam is over, then I can get on to the business of grieving my Dad and saying good bye in my own time and way.
I like that. God provides the strength for all things to endure...He didn't promise we'd like it.
:)
This too shall pass...in about 5 hrs it will be all said and done. Amen.
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Stay Strong and God is with both of you.
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Dave,
I am sad for you and glad for Dad. Your great faith gives you a leg up in facing this, knowing your father is in Divine comfort.
Such events are like losing an anchor in one's life. I wish you peace.
Jed.
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Thanks all.
Dad was given a proper send off...many attendees for the service at the retirement village where he and mom lived to which the nursing home is attached where he lived the past 2 years and died.
Met some of the Hospice people I didn't know who cared for dad during the day... saw many people I'd not seen who are older who went to Dad's home church.
Graveside was amazing...gentle rain and the military part with taps and folding the flag had me bawling... some just for our country and where she's headed and looking at all the old gents from all the branches honoring my father.
All in all, a joyous day with periods of predictable tears!
They gave you a just and fine send-off, Pop. Peace!
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God's best and warmest.
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Lost but never forgotten.
May he rest in peace, and your healing process go as best as possible.
we are here for you if you need anything.... but you knew that....
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Doc,
You have been in the valley for a few years now watching Pop and caring for him and I know you were getting worn down..Now take a deep breath and be still for awhile and soak in some of those good days remembering Pop and you will begin the climb back up to the hilltop...I am still praying for ya buddy...Keefers <><
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Prayers for ya Doc, God Bless You & Yours.
Charlie
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Prayers to you Doc...
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Doc,
Words cannot express. I ache for you brother. i cried a little tonight when i prayed for your dad. and for you. you have been a good friend to me and if your dad is anything like you, i know he would have been a blast. prayers sent your way big brother. if there is anything i can do, let me know.
Brother in christ,
MM
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Thanks, All!
Thanks, Matt!
I'm at peace with it all. I thank God that Dad is no longer suffering. I thank God that I am not there daily watching his decline, sitting by his side...him unable to stay awake, let alone converse when he was, just holding his hand and watching stupid TV which was his constant companion, asleep or awake.
I'm still finding peace realizing that I'm the last of our family around here. Not frightened, but there is a change that happens in our cognitive view of life when our "buffer to immortality" (parents) are gone. All of a sudden, there are not the "assumed" endless tomorrows to do, get it right, fix things in our life and 'get around to it'.
Not frightening. Just sobering.
I'd say I'm coping extremely well, but quickly add not by my own devices but thru God's grace and the love and prayer support of folks just like all of you here!
Thank you! If we are born, we will loose parents and other loved ones. Always be sure you share that love you have, regardless of momentary hurts or minor offenses, before you lay your head for the night. Tomorrow is never promised!
Tell them. Show them. Live like tomorrow you may be in heaven-- Or they may. Then there can not be regrets.
Do I wish I could have said more? Done more for Dad? Sure! But...I'm human and I will never get it right on this blue marble. Not completely.
Do the best you can... but don't put off till tomorrow what can be done today. The "Present" is always a gift! Treat it as such.
Matt, my brother-of-another-mother, there is ONE thing you can do! Continue to fight hard that demon you've allowed to share your body and bring forth that impish, loveable, young snot who had the world by the tail (and still does but lost his focus for a moment) and grab life in the Big Sky by the horns and enjoy it with gusto... without the "miller time". :)
Thank you all. I'm doing well with your prayers and support. Now lets get to praying off the needs of others.
Doc Nock is smiling now...
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Doc,
Gusto without the Miller time. must have laughed for a full 5 minutes at that. had tear streamin down my face and a friend of mine comes over, wraps her arms around me and says shes sorry. i said why? she said i was obviously upset. i laughed even harder. guess that'll teach me to read funny stuff in a coffee shop. if ya need anything Doc, my numbers still the same. however, i gots me a new phone so afraid i lost yours. PM it if your willin.
Brother of another mother,
-MM
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PM sent...I'm way over do for beddie bye time!
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Prayers sent!
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Doc, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. I lost my folks several years ago. Keep your faith in the Lord....and God bless you and yours.
Barry
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So sorry David!
You're in my family prayers
F-Manny
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Doc,
I haven't been on here for awhile and very sorry to hear about your loss. It's been almost 3 years since you helped me through the hardest time in my life, when my sister passed. Your heartfelt words of comfort will always be with me when I think of those troubled times. Your father is Homebound as is my sister. They are Rejoicing in our Lords wonderful company as we speak !
God Bless you Doc,
James
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Sorry for your lose doc Prayers sent Zarch
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James,
No apologies ever! What I wrote and how it helped is all God's doing, not mine. I'm but the empty, rusty vessel He sometimes punches through my arrogance and busyness to allow me to be a vehicle to do His good work!
I'm at Peace with Dad's passing. There is much left to do on this side on his behalf, now, but the hard part of standin by his side for over 2 years is done. I know he rests in the arms of the Lord!
Thanks all for your prayers, concerns, PM's, emails and such... I thank you one and all!
Now let's redouble our efforts to stand in the gap for all those who remain here on this blue marble and carry their burdens to the foot of the cross!
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Doc just noticed ,sorry, prayers for you and dad
God Bless
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Continued healing for you and Grace for your father.
Martin
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Sorry to hear of your loss Doc.