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Main Boards => Prayers/Concerns/Honors/Ailments => Topic started by: halfseminole on August 10, 2013, 09:57:00 PM

Title: Serious problems here, need something like a miracle
Post by: halfseminole on August 10, 2013, 09:57:00 PM
I've just gotten back from the hospital after having to sign my wife into the Behavioral Medicine Unit after two straight nights of suicide watch.  Today is eight months since the day we buried our only son, and my wife has had more and more trouble handling things.  I've found recently that her mother is actually pushing her towards this, as she's so jealous that if she won't leave me for her she'll just keep her from me, permanently.  My wife is now in a safe place away from such influences, and I'm looking into how to handle her family (short of a shotgun, which is not off the table.)  God is good, and I see His hand in this, even though things are extremely bad right now.  

I'm blessed to be surrounded by her friends (and mine as well) who are willing to bend over backward to help her, and I have a great prayer support network in far-flung places.  But we're to the point where if she can't learn to cope, I won't have a wife to worry about.  

God is good, and He knows how to fix this situation, because I sure don't.  I know some people would be ashamed to post this, but I don't know how anyone else would deal with losing their only child and being unable to have another.  I think everyone needs a little help now and then, and unfortunately she's rejected it for so long that now we have real problems.  I can run a household by myself while she's getting help, but I don't know what I would do without her.
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Post by: chall on August 10, 2013, 10:14:00 PM
I cant imagine the pain you both have been thru, we will keep you and your wife in our family prayers.
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Post by: Firstarrow on August 10, 2013, 10:17:00 PM
In our prayers aw well.
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Post by: Scott E. Thomas on August 10, 2013, 11:44:00 PM
Prayers sent up from the Thomas family. God bless, Scott.
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Post by: lunatic11 on August 11, 2013, 12:52:00 AM
More prayers sent from east Texas.
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Post by: Doc Nock on August 11, 2013, 08:20:00 AM
I hold you in highest esteem for your honesty and see no shame in admitting when the chips are so stacked!

Grief is a process, not an event, but when someone gets stuck in one of the "stages of grief" it can be devastating.  

I read and feel your pain, frustration and sense of near helplessness.

I also see your Faith and you know the source of your deliverance.  There have been times in life where I just cried out in tears and anguish, and while God didn't immediately solve my problem(s), He did provide the "peace that surpasses all understanding" to get thru that night or time.

I'm proud to hold your situation up to Him for resolution and for strength and endurance, discernment and patience, in this great time of need.

Keep the Son in your eyes.
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Post by: BenBow on August 11, 2013, 08:43:00 AM
Amen prayers for God's protection, peace, healing, & comfort
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Post by: bear1336 on August 11, 2013, 08:54:00 AM
Prayers sent from Georgia.
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Post by: GRAYBEARD on August 11, 2013, 10:47:00 AM
When you're caught between the proverbial rock and hard place, the BEST place to look is UP! Prayers are on the way.
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Post by: tradarcher816 on August 11, 2013, 05:13:00 PM
Prayers from SC
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Post by: halfseminole on August 12, 2013, 01:31:00 AM
Went to see her today, and she's doing well-pursuing treatment was her choice, and that's made all the difference.  They're hoping she'll be out this week, most likely on Thursday.  I've been making progress on the wiring for the house (bending line for 200A service by hand is NOT easy) and we're hoping that we might start staying in it hopefully around the end of the week as well.  It would be a big help to her (and me as well, as it's easier for me to navigate since I lost the vision in my right eye recently) and it finally looks like it might happen.

We still need help from above, but God has already shown up here.  I'm praying that He sticks by me to see this through to completion.  He hasn't forsaken me yet.
Title: Re: Serious problems here, need something like a miracle
Post by: Doc Nock on August 12, 2013, 08:31:00 AM
Continued prayers for HIS WILL in your lives! I've not always understood or welcomed His Will but when I do, things turn out better in the long run.

Fervent prayers for your wife's mental stabilization and renewal and the her Mom takes a hike.

Best wishes completing your work without over-doing it to yourself.  Your wife needs you whole and well.

Keep the Son in your eyes!
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Post by: shick on August 12, 2013, 01:56:00 PM
'seminole, heartfelt prayers and best wishes from Pa.
Shick
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Post by: BenBow on August 12, 2013, 05:35:00 PM
Prayers continue
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Post by: halfseminole on August 13, 2013, 11:36:00 PM
Thank God, my wife gets to come home in the morning.  Her therapist said her meds were WAYYY out of whack.  He struck the lot and replaced them.

I've taken the opportunity to sing the last songs for Snort's second soul.  I feel like he can rest now, maybe.  It's still painful, but it's my responsibility to do them-he died before he could know where he came from, but I still have to honor our ancestors.  It's killing me, but at the same time there's peace in it.  I feel like he's free to go now.  God has him now, and He will keep him safe for me.

(Yes, I do still retain some tribal practice in everyday life, and yes, I am a Christian. It's a strange world to live in, but it's all I know.)
Title: Re: Serious problems here, need something like a miracle
Post by: Doc Nock on August 14, 2013, 07:58:00 AM
Honoring the Ancestors is important to who you are.

Our God is a big God who is Omniscient and knows and understands all.  He knows your heart.

I'd like to believe that he embraces your ancestral traditions, as long as He knows your love for Him.

Prayers continue for healing for your wife, in body, spirit and mind that she may know His true peace and you both may move forward in His love and grace.

Keep the Son in your eyes!
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Post by: Cyclic-Rivers on August 14, 2013, 09:13:00 PM
Great things are looking Up.  Mental health is nothing to be ashamed about.  Glad you were able to ask for help.  Sorry about your son.

I will pray that things stabilize in your house hold and any in-law influences are held at bay.
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Post by: ymountainman on August 14, 2013, 09:20:00 PM
I will pray for you!
Title: Re: Serious problems here, need something like a miracle
Post by: Killdeer on August 22, 2013, 11:56:00 PM
Different ways of worshiping are like different voices in a choir.
How boring with only one note! One range! One key!

Imagine a forest of only one species of pine.
How much life could it sustain? How much interest could it hold for the observer?

God is infinite in imagination and variety. Varietal flourishes reflect the love He has for a subject of His creation. We are all meant to bring something unique to our worship of our Maker.

My prayers go up for you and your wife. You have both been given an incredible amount of pain to work through. May the turmoil end, and a life of shared love begin anew.

Killdeer
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Post by: monsterchelli on September 04, 2013, 09:46:00 PM
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Post by: maddingo on September 13, 2013, 09:22:00 PM
prayers for your wife and yourself
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Post by: Froggy on October 07, 2013, 10:25:00 PM
Prayers to you both.... I can't imagine your pain and grief.
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Post by: Stone Knife on October 15, 2013, 08:29:00 PM
Prayers to the living God for you all.
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Post by: Cookus on October 15, 2013, 08:35:00 PM
Prayers for peace brother!   May God lead you through this.   God bless.
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Post by: pumatrax on December 26, 2013, 08:48:00 PM
Tradgang brothers and sisters ; A couple months ago a friend of mine Rick Koester was severely injured in a automobile accident ; to make a long story short he spent six days trapped in a truck laying on top of his dead friend who was driving...for details google Rick Koester Colorado...anyway rick is a double leg amputee as well as amputated fingers from frostbite and lots of other complications...his story was recently on most National news networks....anyway he sure could use some prayers and such....THANKS TO ALL
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Post by: BenBow on December 26, 2013, 09:58:00 PM
Amen
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Post by: pumatrax on December 26, 2013, 10:51:00 PM
sorry ; I think I posted in the wrong place.....can someone please move this to the proper place...pumatrax