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Main Boards => PowWow => Topic started by: Cyclic-Rivers on August 24, 2010, 10:23:00 AM
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What would you do? I think I have made up my mind but am curious what others would do.
You have an old friend who you havent seen in a year who sends you a wedding invite for a wedding an hour away on a saturday of Hunting season.
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Freinds and Family are more important than any dear will ever be
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I'd probably go, but our season is 3 months long.
I got married on Oct 1. Opening day in MI.
Eric
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Your friend should know better...LOL
I would hunt the morning and then attend the wedding later in the day....
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Both my daughters got married during hunting season, neither of my son-in-laws hunts.....stabow
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I shot my second deer right after the reception which happened to be an afternoon thing. I still had cologne on but the wind was good so I went for it and it paid off.
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I was married 12/4/04. That is typically the first day of the last duck season and a very important day to be in a blind. Since my marriage, the first day has been moved a full week later. Karma I tell ya!
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Hunt then go to wedding in camo !! If they are lucky ..fresh venison will be on dinner
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Friends are hard to come by, but if you have not seen each other in over a year and only live an hour away...
Hunt in the morning and then go to the wedding.
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If he is a good friend then go. It's only one day. If you can hunt before or after then there you go. Receptions are optional. Take gear with you and hunt afterwords if you can.
Magnus
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Originally posted by magnus:
If he is a good friend then go. It's only one day. If you can hunt before or after then there you go. Receptions are optional. Take gear with you and hunt afterwords if you can.
Magnus
Yes what Magnus said. Unless he is a friend that youve lost touch with somewhat and are no longer close. Maybe then they are looking to pad the gift table. If thats the case I would send some money and I would be in the woods. Hmm no wonder I dont have many friends :biglaugh:
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Originally posted by John3:
Your friend should know better...LOL
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if it's a good friend they will under stand your absents. their mind is not on hunting anyway.
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If he is a real good friend he will understand....lol
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My anniversary is October 30th! :knothead:
Usually, there's too much rut activity going on to NOT sneak out........at least in the morning! My wife understands......most of the time!
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Charlie, in today's world you should go hunting and enjoy yourself. You'll probably get a chance to go to his next wedding.
JUST KIDDING!
Friends and family always come first.
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Ask him if he would consider camo for wedding colors like these guys and then just hunt afterward in what you wore to the wedding :)
(http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y27/AndyTheCornbread/redneck-wedding.jpg)
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[/QB][/QUOTE]Unless he is a friend that youve lost touch with somewhat and are no longer close. Maybe then they are looking to pad the gift table. If thats the case I would send some money and I would be in the woods. Hmm no wonder I dont have many friends :biglaugh: [/QB][/QUOTE]
This is more like the case in my instance! He was never my best friend but we saw each other 2-3 times a week when I lived closer usually at the poker table. Now we just call each other approximately twice a year to see whats new. I just was curious how many people are so die hard, they set everything aside for hunting season no matter what?
We do have a lot of friends in common and have a few good fishing memories.
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My oldest nephew has scheduled his wedding for next July. The same weekend as MOJAM... :(
Oh well, always a chance they might elope... ;)
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One of two things happened, he either thought enough of you to invite you or he knew you'd give them am good gift...lol
The last half of that statement is a joke.
I'd say he invited you and wanted you there because you are at least somewhat important to him.
I hate to say it but the question itself sounds a little selfish to me. But, that's just me.
I hope I didn't overstep by giving that last opinion.
God bless,Mudd
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When my daughter and step daughter were in high school they played volleyball, basketball or were on the swim team. Laura and I went to every game or competition even during hunting season. Looking back on it, none of those "days off" had any impact on my success rate and in the end the girls have been grateful for our attention to their needs. It was a "win/win" kind of thing.
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well said Bill
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Family and friends come first in my world.
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I think you have to go. I had the same exact thing happen to me last opening day. I did get out in the am tho, and went to the reception in the afternoon.
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Last year, a nephew got married on opening week of archery elk season. I mumbled a lot and cursed even more but we flew to Minneapolis and attended the wedding. Missed the first week and some of the second. Swore that this year would see me in the high country the whole season. That was until my brother called a few months ago and told me to block out August 28th because my niece, his daughter, was getting married. That is opening day of our Colorado archery elk season. Now we are flying back to New York to attend the wedding. Who said lightning doesn't strike twice in the same place?
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Mudd,
No you didnt overstep. I acctually was thinking of going not only to see him again but to see a lot of other friends I haven't talked with for a while in that area. It should be a great time equally as fun as hunting.
I was pondering of seeing if any fellow trad gangers in the area would have a place for me to reflect and maybe even have a chance at my first archery deer.
Lets Hear it Hudson Valley Guys! Any one near poughkeepsie Chuck, Sean, Jeff, Joe.... I'm not saying, I'm just saying that's all :rolleyes:
Consequently Robert, there's no way it could be the same wedding :dunno: PM me if you think it could be, we'll meet up.
I wanted to do a survey so people could have an anonomys opinion. I knew this subject could be bait for a hot debate due to how passionate people feel both about hunting and family/friends. :dunno:
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When your old and grumpy like me you can be assured that they picked that day so all the crusty old guys wouldn't come and ruin their day!
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There's a tradganger tim something or other who lives in Chester (across the hudson) not far from there. My wife's family is from across the river in washingtonville and there is a big public state forest called Stewart Forest next to the airbase that has deer, beer (oops bear), and turkey.
I keep meaning to do a little hunting there as I keep seeing all these critters, but seems whenever we visit it isn't archery season.
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It would all depend on how good a friend he was. My brother got married for the third time in NC in '04, I went to Saskatchewan duck hunting instead. I MIGHT have gone as far as Delaware for wife #2.
My buddy got married the second day of turkey season back in '92. He was lucky, I shot a bird by 10, and caught a nap during the ceremony.
My anniversary is March 7. Small game ends Feb. 28th, Stripers don't open till March 16th, trout season doesn't open till April 1, and by then, the ice is too thin to ice fish on! So, my wife knew about the small window that we had!!!
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Hey Charlie..I didn't read all the responses, yeah, I can hook you up!! Find out exactly where the wedding is. ( I'm just curious).
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Sean,
PM sent
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Think about this,send him an invite for a barbecue if he shows up then you show up at the wedding, if he doesn't then send him a piece of meat from what you shoot on his wedding day. better yet make some jerky for his first year anniversary! :archer2:
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A good friend of mine would know better than to plan something like that in hunting season, but one did. It was after the rut so I went, but it was 4 hours away in the big city so messed up the whole weekend. Never again.
I don't even go to family functions during hunting season unless it is planned out with me ahead of time. I skipped out on one of my sister-in-law’s third or was it fourth wedding; I got no complaints. The rut is zero tolerance. They all know better by now so no issues if they do and I don’t go. I have killed four bucks on the last three nights of functions I skipped. I double bucked one time.
I meet my wife and dated her three times then told her I wouldn’t be around for October or November. She was ok with that. I did take a night off once in there when the weather was real bad to go out with her again. She was good with that so I married her in March. We had the kids all in March-April so no birthdays or anniversaries to deal with during spring turkey, fall hunting, or most of the fishing season.
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If it was a good friend there would be no question.
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My daddy never got over me getting married on November 1st.
Before getting serious about a woman, you need to check her birthday. It's poor planning for parents to have little girls during Oct. and Nov.
That being said, family still wins out.
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I missed my grade school buddy's wedding to go elk hunting. To justify my position, the trip was already scheduled by the time I found out about the wedding (still have not met his wife 6 years later...). I still felt bad since he was in my wedding.
My brother is getting married the first day of our season this year. No doubt I will plan to be in my stand in the morning but I will certainly be early to the wedding.
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Let me get this straight: some dude I haven't seen in a year is sending me a wedding invitation for a Saturday in hunting season? Are we talking just any random Saturday or the 1st Saturday in November? Are we talking the Saturday one of my kids or my brother wants to go hunting?
There is no way I would go....dude is probbably just looking for a gift anyway. Would not even have to think about it.
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I'm flying away to a wedding during prime hunting time later this year.
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I got married November 9th, 1985. Saturday, first day of muzzle loader season.
When planning the wedding she asked what the best day would be in November. I picked that day because I didn't own a muzzle loader at the time.
She was perfectly fine with my reasoning.
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He would have to be a real good friend or get married after dark :bigsmyl:
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He'd have to be an awfully good friend.
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aint no way Iam going.If he only lives an hour away an I anit seen him in a year
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Fall weddings are a double whammy here in SEC country. Not only must you avoid hunting season, you better make sure there is not a big game on! Ignore those rules and plan on hearing crickets during the "I do's" :D
My anniversary is Sept 2 (#10 coming up soon)- before dove season and my Tigers were off.
I can only think of one reason for a huntin' season wedding...paint the shotgun white! :scared:
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A childhood friend was married on opening day of bow season back in the 70's. I didn't go and told him it was because of the date. I would have likely been the best man. In fact, I'm of the firm belief this fellow's wife-to-be chose this date as a demonstration of her control over him. He has the reputation that he has to get permission to mow the grass these days.
When my wife and I were planning our marriage (1978) I told her July and late November were okay to me -- before or after important hunting season dates. She knew that was part of who I was and was happy to set the date in mid-July.
I voted differently than this. If the fellow is a true friend, they are very rare. I have three guys I consider strong friends for whom I'd do almost anything. If they were getting married during hunting season (they wouldn't-- that's why we're friends) I'd go.
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Just tell him you will make it to the next one.
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Cyclic-Rivers,
I'm curious. Are you married, if so did you invite this fellow and did he attend? Does he hunt? Does he have another passion and if so what would his reaction be towards you if you scheduled something like this during an important to him.
I agree with those who would and have give up days of hunting for children, your spouse, your parents, or you very best friend -- one you talk to multiple times weekly and visit several times a year even if you live 243 miles apart.
The term "friend" to me is a very powerful relationship -- stronger than a brother in some cases.
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Mistake
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Actually had this happen last year. Cousin asked me to be best man at his wedding in Florida...I was in florida Nov. 7th-10th....it was rough.
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During general season yes, during the rut no way.
Last year some people had a post wedding party for my brother in November.
I told my bro I would not be attending and my other brother and I each got a doe that evening. My brother (newlywed) is a bowhunter himself and was jealous and happy for us.
Both my children's birthdays were intentionally planned to be well after November.
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Biggie and I missed JoeBuck's wedding due deer season- but then again we were told by Matt Schuster that he planned it that way and counted on that!
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My brother-inlaw got married sept.9 some years back, just when the bulls start getting fired up.
My wife bought a plane ticket back to the state the wedding was in and never asked if I intened to go, I sure love her.
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Originally posted by Bowwild:
Cyclic-Rivers,
I'm curious. Are you married, if so did you invite this fellow and did he attend? Does he hunt?
The term "friend" to me is a very powerful relationship -- stronger than a brother in some cases.
To answer your questions, Yes I am married and No he did not make my wedding. He and his soon to be wife decided to go camping that weekend 20 miles away and My wife and I were married 2 miles from his house. It was a small informal wedding at a horse farm. The only thing we required people to bring was BYOB and something to add to the food table.
Since he will not be reading his, I will add I never cared for his Fiance. I firmly beleive she was instramental in them not coming.
This doesnt concern me much Since being with her was who he was and being a friend I accepted that. We had many mutual freinds wich is the pushing factor for me to make it to the wedding.
I have lost touch with that crowd somewhat mostly due to people growing up, starting families, and moving away. I was one of these guys! Now I am about 1 1/2 hours away which isnt far but is far enough to slowly start a rift.
Its only an hour drive and one afternoon. It will be nice to see some old friends.
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Kill the deer Sunday or next Saturday. I got married on a Saturday in October and killed my biggest traditional deer to date the Sunday before. It was a week and two weekends out of the best hunting month of the year but she's worth it.
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Heck I slept on the couch nine months before Oct-Nov :bigsmyl:
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All my friends know better than to invite me to a wedding during any decent hunting or fishing time. That leaves July and August and perhaps March, if the white bass run isn't starting early. Even then, I'd probably send a card if it's a wedding I approve of. They make my stomach turn. If it's one I disapprove of (most), I would probably send a concerned letter instead.
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sweeney spoken like a true arkey...dave
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Seeing as there my good friend, they'll understand when I'm not there.
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Heck, I went hunting the morning of MY wedding...divorced now though. I would definately give up one day of hunting for my close friends, but I consider them family.
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I have a nephew who got married on opening day three years ago. Had a morning hunt, and then an hour and a half drive to the wedding. Not a bad day. I was married on opening day of dove season (Sept 1) 26 years ago. It used to be a real important day for me, since then it has meant even more. I also have never forgotten an anniversary! Tommy
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One of best friends got married during hunting season. I just made it after getting home from a great hunt. He is a hunter, fisherman, all around outdoorsman. The wedding is just one day. It's all the anniversaries he'll have to plan around now.
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Go to the wedding, you’ll be glad you did, or there likely will be animosity.
Little story - My daughter is getting married next week after almost two years of planning. I work at a 24x7x365 shop and getting weekends off for anything is tough. Even when I asked for next weekend off for her wedding 9 months ago, my boss said “we’ll” see. Meaning in case someone else doesn’t already have that week schedule off for vacation. We turned in our vacation schedule prior at the first of the year. Even months ahead, it kinda turned into an ordeal because if others were already scheduled for vacation, someone had to be at work, and I can understand her point.
Anyhow, one of my best friends (who happens to be married to my cousin), their boy (would be my 2nd cousin I guess) got married last weekend, but I didn’t know anything about the upcoming wedding until about a month or so ago. Seems it wasn’t planned much in advanced.
Well due to vacation schedules at this time of year and coincidentally our company golf outing (scheduled months ago) was that very day last Saturday making it impossible for me to get the day off for my cousin’s wedding. (no I wasn’t golfing, I had to cover…8^))
Anyhow, I told them a couple weeks ago I could not get off due to scheduling but would have a gift and representation there from my daughter, mother and girlfriend.
I felt really bad, but late that night of wedding after the reception (probably been drinking) I received a FU text from him which I knew better than to respond at the time, and we haven’t communicated since (yet).
I guess I’m dog do-do to them right now…
So Cyclic-Rivers, do everything you can to get to the wedding, it’ll keep the peace, and hey – you might have a good time…8^)
As said, a hunt isn't worth family or friendships...
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My sister-in-law got married the second week of the season. I told my wife I would go to the wedding, but that they had better not expect me at any anniversary events in the future.
Bisch
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I was afraid he didn't come to your wedding and that this is a fair-weather friend. However, two wrongs don't make a right. Sounds like your friend may need all the support he can get. It also appears you may get enjoy catching up with acquaintances.
Deer season in the east is long and who knows, maybe it'll rain hard that day? Or the wind will be wrong, too hot, ...?
I wouldn't even mention to anyone at the wedding that you are giving up an important day to pursue your passion -- you'll only risk having people resent you for being a reluctant guest. As the old song goes, "Love the one your with".
A note: I don't know if this is the case but sometimes nonhunters or super-casual hunters think our passion for hunting is a trivial thing and that almost anything they do is more important. I feel a bit sorry for these folks because many have nothing in their life as important or as satisfying as the bowhunting we enjoy. It is difficult for them to relate to us.
Of course I'll also admit, I've been known to go overboard with my hunting at times and I don't hit it near as hard as I used to. Although it is my goal to at least exceed the national average for days bowhunted per season -- 23 days. My top number was 110 days -- back in the early 1980's.
If you take a gift, I'd definitely buy something that is meant for your friend more so than the wife. Maybe a picture album with a hunting theme on the cover -- for his future hunting pictures?
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I got married durring hunting season.My wife thought if her brother hunted w/ me on the day of the hanging(I mean wedding).I would be less likely to run away w/ his rifle at my back.
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If he's a good friend of yours take him hunting with you and get him to forget the wedding. :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:
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Hmmmh...........
No choice to be made.
I was married at the Gun Show in Reno, NV in 1998.
Plenty of guns and a fine woman, can't do better than that.
I think hunting season and weddings would be a great idea.
Charles.
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I went straight from a morning stand to my wedding, changed into my tux on the back porch of my mom's house! Man, if my wife's parents could've seen that!