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Main Boards => PowWow => Topic started by: Mike Vines on October 25, 2010, 04:23:00 PM
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...you hunting to much? Every year, mine goes thru the same ritual. She knew when we got together that don't ask me for anything September thru December. I got so mad today listening to it, that I cancelled hunting tonight and tomorrow, and also cancelled a trip I had planned with a good friend this weekend. I know I was more than likely acting childish, but good god I have just about had enough. She says it's becoming obsesive, but it's alright for her to have a girls night every Sunday, and then get together with her friends whenever, but if I mention that, the PMS seems to kick in high gear. Believe me, it sucks, giving up hunting at this prime time of year. We had an agreement a couple years ago that if she did not say anything about me hunting or fishing, that I would not say anything about Christmas and birthdays. Seems like one of those "I meant it when I said it, and I forgot about that".
Thanks for listening to me vent, and I am interested in getting some of you all's take on the matter.
I mean, the rest of the year, it's all about her and the boys (5 and 7 years old). I have even taken the boys hunting with me this year a couple times each. I just don't get it, and I know it's not even worth figuring out. Actually I would have a better chance of figuring her out than getting a deer this year the way my season is going, but I have had one of the best season's so far if you include all the great comraderie I have experienced.
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I have had 2 girl friends brake up with me durring hunting sesion because they thought i was hunting to much.
The GF i have now made it through last sesion and is holding strong this sesion.
I can tell when it starts to get to her she dose not have to say anything. I make it a point to take a saterday afternoon off here and there to take her out.
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My wife just said, "You men!"
Actually, after 32 years she still understands the importance of hunting to me. She doesn't complain about the amount of time or money I spend on my hunting and stuff. She is thankful I don't have the vices of some unlucky folks we know.
She doesn't like it though when I decide not to go hunting and then kick myself for the next 2-3 hours for not going!
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I don't like any woman saying me what I can or can't do.This is my life take it or let it go,no other vices otherwise.
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Women have complained about our obsessive hunting ever since we clubbed the first one and dragged her back to the cave!
Grapes in a few short years your wife will not complain when you take the boys hunting as often as you wish.
I have even used my son as an excuse for all kinds of new gear that he can't use!
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Must be honest my wife has never complained or tried to stop me go hunting, now here in the Uk I cant bowhunt but I flyfish and after 10 years she now fishes as well.
With my little one Hannah as well.
And I know I'm the difficult one to live with but she still does it.
Sorry Bro
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My wife married me with the understanding that I was not there alot during hunting season when we were dating and the same rules would apply after we got married. My wife never complains, but it helped her understand when I got her started hunting. I stop alot of hunting for myself as soon as youth season opens. They get their turn then. After youth and a couple weekends of gun season my wife is good for the year and so are my boys. Then I can peacefully bowhunt again. Its a trading game at my homestead.
God Bless,
Nathan
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True story : When I proposed to my wife I took her out to a ground blind I had built here on state land....I gave her the ring, and said "I'm pretty worthless from October through December, but will you marry me?"
We will be 25 years this July....we had a few spats about hunting late in the season when the kids were small. I have to admit it was hard to justify a weekend with the boys when I already had 3 or 4 in the freezer. But in general, and especially now that we are near 50, she is glad I have a wholesome hobby. She listens to her friends talk about thier husbands boozing and worse, and she knows I'm not one of those types.
I leave for a 10 day hunt at Shrewhaven in a couple days, she couldn't be happier for me. I'm a lucky guy.
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My wife's a NYC girl...her father use to hunt before passing on. After 24 yrs of living with me she knows what to expect every fall.
Even if she did complain....who listens to their wives???
:saywhat:
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If they didn't complain they wouldn't be women.
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I told my wife yesterday that I would be gone from the 29th until 7th.
She never batted an eye.
She once bought me a t-shirt that said "We Interrupt this Marriage to Bring You Hunting Season"
Back when we first had kids, we used to trade Mothers Day for Fathers Day. Mothers day fell during the Spring Turkey season, so I didn't have to worry about getting out of the house at 3:30AM on a Sunday morning and getting her mad. We used to buy the cards and cross out Mothers and Fathers.
Now I just tell her the truth, "You're not my Mother."
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Originally posted by Buckeye Trad Hunter:
If they didn't complain they wouldn't be women.
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My wife does not technically complain persay but she knows that my Saturdays are mine come hunting season.
But then I will be beat up scared up tired as all get out by them end of season (all of em as I will trap as well after deer season). And she says I look like a zombie by the time it is over and cannot for the life of her understand why I get up for work at 5 all week just to get up at 4 on Saturday to go hunting when i have the opportunity to sleep in????????
She knows the life and she knows my heart. -
Like Troy (I think) from SWAMP PEOPLE - the alligator hunting show on discovery said. "if something was to happen to me and you gave my heart to a man in NYC hes gonna come down here and hunt gators. He aint gonna know why but hes going to, cause that is what my heart is"
Couldn't say it any better.
J
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Does my wife complain about my hunting? Good question. She has never complained about my hunting in our 46 years of marriage, three children, and three grandchildren later. But things have certainly changed over the years. I think I have run the gamut from child to adolescent, adolescent to adult, adult to middle-aged, and now to senior citizen. With my wife it has been mostly me going from adult to senior citizen with a few childish episodes along the way. Today at 67 years of age, notice that I didn’t say years old, the whole hunting experience is different between me and her. When it comes to hunting you would think I was her child rather than her husband. She helps pack my hunting supplies for the day and makes sure I understand the rules before leaving the house. I am required to have a map of the NWR where I hunt and to mark on the map the region I will be hunting that day with the clear understanding that I do not leave that area and go to another area. She double checks my pack to make sure certain items are there, mainly my cell phone, compass, and nitro tablets, along with rain gear and snake protection gear. Everything’s there and I’m ready to go. Nope. Now it’s time for the last minute instructions: (1) I wish you would go back to hunting deer and leave those hogs alone, (2) Make sure when you are about to shoot a hog that you are out of the way or in safe place, “old man you are too damn slow to outrun one of those animals.”, (3) “Watch where you put your feet that place is crawling with rattlers and cottonmouths and your eyes are not as good as they used to be.” (4) “Did you pack some toilet paper and the pee bottle? You know how you always have to pee.” (5) “Did you pack your bottles of water? You know how hot it is out there.” (6) “Call me when you get there and call me when you get back to the truck and coming home.” (7) “What area did you say you were hunting today”? I repeat the area on the map to her and she responds with “just checking.” (8)” What time did you say you would be home?” I tell her the time and I’m ready to go. (9) “Have a good time and I’ll see later (the designated time). It’s been 30 minutes and I’m in the truck and on my way and feeling like an adult again or maybe a little like a senior citizen with the necessary experience to get where I am going and get back.
All in all, I think she still worries until she hears the truck in the carport and back door opens with my smiling face saying, “I got one.” Together we process and package the meat and put it in the freezer. In the final analysis it was a good day of hunting, but more important it tells me that my wife and I are still in love just like we were the day were married.
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I personally think I have the best wife in the world.Come hunting season if the weather is lousy like this year ,hot and dry, and I decide to stay home she tells me that I can not kill our meat in the living room. The grandkids birthdays are almost all in hunting season so she tells every body if there are any parties or get togeathers that I will not be there. She lets me go out of state to hunt even if things are a little tight as long as it does not come out of the budget. She waits supper if I am running late. All i all she is good to me. Jim Pyles
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I dont ask her to quit wearing her makeup , cooking or anything else she did before we married so I dont expect her to say anything about my hunting---the same things I did before we even meet.If she needs me to change she married the wrong guy [and she nevers says stay - she knows she has nothing to worry I am HUNTING]. AND our wedding was planned so we never had to worry about anniversary's...30 years last May .Things still good.
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Does she complain?HECK YEA,but only if SHE is not getting to go hunting enough!
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Mine has with good reason.
Jan -Goose hunting
Feb - Deer scouting & Fishing
March - Turkey scouting and fishing
April - Turkey hunting
May - Turkey Hunting and fishing
June - FIshing
Jul - Night fishing
Aug - Night fishing and deer scouting
Sept- Scouting, setting ~10 stands, some hunting and fishing
Oct -Bow hunting
Nov - Bow hunting and setting up goose pits
Dec - Goose hunting
Not to mention shooting my bow year around.
I distinctly remember my wife sitting me down one August after I had been scouting and setting stands the previous 3 weekends. She said that that it was obvious that I was getting ready to deer hunt and that she would seldom seem me over the next couple of months and that I would be in to somethingelse soon after that. She said that 'I want you to be able to hunt but I just can't help it. Don't take offense but I just have to b@$%^". I couldn't look at her with a straight face.
I steadily reduced this schedule by over 60% and even more these last few years.
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My wife complains when she can't hunt with me. I'm pretty lucky and she is pretty good. She says as long as I can hang tree stands for her and keep her broadheads sharp she'll keep me around.
On the other hand I have been married to a wife who was less than sympathetic. It is a balancing act and one that you need to be diplomatic about. My youngest daughter was a swimmer and volleyball player. My step daughter was a volleyball and basketball player. We current wife and I never missed a game or a meet even in hunting season and it never seemed to affect my bowhunting success. You will gain a lot more than you give up if you reciprocate some of your time and attention.
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My wife complains when she can't hunt with me. I'm pretty lucky and she is pretty good. She says as long as I can hang tree stands for her and keep her broadheads sharp she'll keep me around.
On the other hand I have been married to a wife who was less than sympathetic. It is a balancing act and one that you need to be diplomatic about. My youngest daughter was a swimmer and volleyball player. My step daughter was a volleyball and basketball player. We current wife and I never missed a game or a meet even in hunting season and it never seemed to affect my bowhunting success. You will gain a lot more than you give up if you reciprocate some of your time and attention.
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I got mine to hunt and she goes with me and loves it! spending time doing and seeing all the things i love and enjoy and doing it together with your wife is a great experiance! takes patience sometimes but i dont mind a bit!
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2 years ago I went away and worked for a week with camper in tow, left from work and went to Ill for 8 days hunting, on the way home my brother called and told me I needed to be in a stand because there was a big non typical chasing on our farm. 3 hours later I pulled in after being gone for 2 weeks, kissed my wife, took a shower and went to my stand. She was not surprised, disappointed or mad, it was just November.
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not mine....I broke her in right...
(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v295/whoffman1955/temp/Takeagirlfishingtoday.jpg)
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WOW you guys picked the right time for this post but eventually Killdeer will be back!!!!
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Is the pope Catholic??
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Originally posted by Mike Most:
Is the pope Catholic??
Yeah, but he only expects you to kiss his ring.
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Grapes I have no idea what you are talking....................GOTTA GO...WIFE NEEDS ME!
Your story sounds identical to mine. Every year the same thing. I tell her all I want is 6 weeks a year and Im yours the rest of the time. Hell I practically gave up my beloved fishing just to get a free pass in Oct and Nov. I dont give any hunts up, just pay dearly for it. And its worth every tree stand minute I get! Hang in there pal.
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Glad I'm not alone - at least we are all treated the same.
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Nope, never, she knows it wouldn't matter if she did complain. I wouldn't hunt if something more important needed to be done. I get both my boys involved and take them with me. Than again she does what she wants when she wants.
Al
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My wife totally understands why and how much I need to hunt. She grew up a Kansas farm girl with 5 brothers.
Works out pretty nice for a family visit to Kansas in November, at least that's what I tell her. Luckily it falls during prime Deer and Pheasant hunting!!
Actually she knows exactly why we are going and doesn't have a problem she has always supported my hunting.
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Never use to when we were first married. Now does all the time, even if it's not hunting season.
I actually stopped for 3 years because my business was doing so well I didn't have time to sleep much less hunt. But then things got less hectic and I went back to the woods. Only difference was now I hunt mostly out of state.
She new what to expect before we got married. Even knew our wedding day was picked because it was muzzle loader opening day, and I didn't have a muzzle loader.
She still doesn't complain until about 2 weeks before she knows I'm leaving then she doesn't stop.
This year I've also canceled a few local hunts just to make her happy, but she still finds something to complain about. So I figure if I have to listen to it anyway I may as well hunt.
As for the out of state hunts, you'd think I was leaving for a year or longer. She does nothing but give me a hard time about going. Even threatened to divorce me in January of 2009 if I went to Alabama. (Check out "Alabama hunt fills freezer" under memorable hunts)
http://tradgang.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=90;t=000595
As I was leaving for this hunt she said she would divorce me if I went. I simply responded, "We'll talk about it when I get back."
When I returned she never mentioned it again.
She complains even though I let her go on 1 and 2 week trips with the Girls whenever she wants. For some unknown reason she deserves to have these trips but my trips don't qualify as deserving. We do actually take trips together, but they don't seem to earn me any points either.
Yes, it sometimes is rough on her and she vents a little at me. But, on November 9th we will be celebrating our 25th anniversary, and I can't think of anyone else I would rather be celebrating it with.
Okay this is long enough, I'm done.
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You have to pick your battles in life. I stood my ground last year and get less harrass ment now than I did when firt mattied. Its been 4 years and evey year gets better.
At first she didnt understand it, she still doesnt but she's beggining to understand me more.
That being said, I do make time for her after dark or on days I dont feel welll enough to get to the woods because I am beggining to understand her.
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Nope, not ever. She is a peach! Course some of this stuff has to go both ways. I just got done vacuming the house cause she had something she wanted to do. Married in '72.
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Mine did all the time, that was 16 years ago and I don't miss her a bit.
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wait ...... is this a trick question?
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My wife tried it for the first time this year and is now anxious to go more1 She doesn't complain
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My wife and I have an understanding that bow season I'll be in the stand as much as possible. There is definite give and take however. We are blessed with a 1 year old boy and 3 year old girl who are the world to us but as anyone with kids know, can be work from time to time. I'll tke the kids a night or two a week to let her get away with the girls, or try to get a babysitter on Saturday night so she and I can spend some time together.. while that may meen I miss a night or two of hunting, its nice to be with the family and I think keeps the wife a little happier and makes it easier when I'm not around a couple days in a row..
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Yeah, my wife does complain about it sometimes, but she's really been pretty understanding.
I got her into fishing, now if only I could get her to catch the hunting bug :)
Austin
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Good thread. I read several of these posts to my wife.
When she said yes to my proposal she asked when. I told her the wedding would have to be in July or late November. She asked why, without thinking, and then I explained the hunting season cycle. We were married July 22, 1979.
IN our 3rd year of marriage I went on an 18-day mule deer hunt in Wyoming. I killed my mulie on day 3 but stayed for the other days so my brothers could run out of arrows or tag their deer. She did ask, when I returned home if I would be doing that (18-day hunts) much in the future. I could tell the best answer was a resounding "couldn't stand to be away from you that long again". Haven't been out of state hunting more than 10-days since--long enough for both of us.
By the way, those of you who have wives who also hunt, that's terrific! I tried to get mine into hunting early on but she wasn't much interested. A few years later I realized it was probably good for both of us to have a hobby of our own --her's is the universal female sport of shopping. Not shopping (except at Cabela's, Bass Pro, and on-line for archery stuff) is actually ahead of bowhunting for me.
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put it this way my wife is a VEGETARIAN!!! guess what her views on hunting are!!!!!!!
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when I was younger my wife gave me grief over my absence during hunting season.
now after being married for a good bit she is glad to get rid of me for awhile!
Now she just says she is a widow fron October to christmas!
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I bought my wife a couple horses that brought the complaining to a close.
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My wife never complains. It still amazes me sometimes because I spend alot of time in the woods.
I was stuck in Anchorage one time after a hunt and she actually got on here and posted my perdicament. Next thing I knew the hotel phone was ringing off the hook with t-gangers wanting to carry me hunting or fishing! She's always been real supportive of me and I'm very appreciative.
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My ex-wife did. Not now. Seriously, I hunt/fish the vast majority of my time. Most of my resources are dedicated to hunting/fishing. It is a fault, I know it, and admit it, and don't plan to change it. I suppose someday there might be someone come along who understands that and maybe even is the same way. That would be alright. But I sure am not looking and don't care to try. I prefer the freedom of maneuver and the ability to hunt and fish pretty much any old time.
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My wife knew the deal when she said I do. The most I get out of her is a little sigh from time to time and I ain't to sure that's not a sigh of relief.
Now come spring she gripes if she don't get to go to turkey woods. LOL
Stiks
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You've done quite a service here to your fellow bowhunters, this has allowed for alot of "venting", very theraputic. It's good for us to let off the steam. Ya, there are a few very lucky guys out there but for most of us there is a good deal of give and take during hunting season. Give and take yes, but don't give up what makes you - you. Good Luck with it.
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My wife does not complain at all.
Our living room has antlers, coyote skins, bows, guns, and arrow racks for decorations.
When I return from an evening hunt she grabs me and puts her face into my chest to "smell the woods on me".
Hot food awaits the return of me and my boys whenever we go hunting or fishing. We joke on every hike out in the dark about how we can hear the dishes clanking as mom gets food ready for us.
She does not hunt, but loves the woods as much as any of us, and loves me more because she knows the woods are a part of me.
I don`t have any advice for you Grapes, except, maybe if you give a little, you can get to hunt without the confrontation.
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My wife is great she tells me I work too much and that I should hunt more I'm lucky.
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Well, my I was hunting when I met my wife, did loose two girlfriends, because they didn't like it and said was hunting too much, I reasoned if they wanted to change my hunting, then what else will they want from me. My wife loves that I hunt and have a passion for it. A friend of her's asked one time how she put up with me in the woods so much, she replied, "I would rather know he is sitting in a treestand, than on a bar stool". Yes it cost some money for quality gear, but if I had the money I spent in bars when younger would pay for my gear and then some. Don't get me wrong I am there for family things as well when she needs me. As a matter of fact we was married on october 2nd, and her birthday is the 6th. I always joked she wanted to see how much I loved her by getting married on the 2nd. Four years ago had alot of overtime to work on 12 hour shifts, didn't have alot of practice time. I hit a Doe in the butt and came home furious and swore off hunting for the season. she convinced me to get a compound and enjoy the hunt not the tackle. Secretly I new she didn't want to be locked up in the house with me brooding all season. She was right, and everytime I come home and elate my bow hunting day with the animals seen, missed and experianced, she see's the light in my eye and loves it. Don't know what I would do without her in my life!!!!
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.....one of the main reasons I have TWO EX-WIVES!!!!!!!!!.....and not really looking very hard for number 3. (not very many single women draging a bow through the woods at 0400 am)
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I read all of this thread and it really makes me wonder. I was married, divorced and now remarried. For me, being gone hunting during the first marriage was selfish and dishonest. We had 3 kids together and I stayed married to her for the sake of those kids. Selfish because we both worked full time and leaving her with the kids was wrong, although they came along often enough. Dishonest because we should have just gotten divorced and figured it out with the kids.
My current wife has her interests and I have mine. We partner raising her girls and taking care of things on the home front. We have a shared responsibility. I get to go as often as I like and she does her stuff. I feel better now since there's no arguments and complaints. Life is much better for sure.
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Only when I go hunting without her.
OkKeith
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Before we got married I would travel every weekend about 2.5 hours to the farm. Since we got married I dont travel to the farm as much anymore, I just tried to find a place a little closer to home. I hunt just about every night of season now, and in late October I usually make it home in time to fix her dinner on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Keeps it pretty fair. The only time she really complains is when I throw a temper tantrum about missing a shot, or her making plans on a weekend for next year. Other than that its not so bad. She is really a good woman, that gives me my time and she knows how important it is to me.
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Everything revolves around my girls. After I have gone to whatever they have planned then it is my time. I don't feel bad about my time in the woods after I have been there for the family. If my wife ever gets grouchy about it ... well honestly it doeasn't mater. If she thinks it's bad now, wait til the kids are out of the house. If I'm being honest, she is decent about it.
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Unfortunately, Grapes... I think most people tend to wear a mask with their intended until they get married- women as much as men.
We seem exceedingly attentive to the prospective mate- then when we 'catch' her, she becomes ours and we're on to the next conquest- critters.
Women, on the other hand, if we are at all honest with them prior to marriage- tend to think once they get their grip on us they can change us into the civilized, wonderful, caring romantic devil they wish we were after marriage.
I don't know any other way to deal with it than to sit down and have a real give-and-take conversation.
You've just got to make her understand that if she loves you for the man you are at all, then she must realize that hunting- which has taught you patience, self-reliance, determination, dedication, and more- is what makes YOU that man she cares for.
If she tries to stop your hunting- it will kill your spirit and make you resentful, just as you asking her to not go out with her girlfriends on Sundays or to stop going shopping at the mall would have a similar effect on her.
If that doesn't work- then you've got some serious decisions to make.
Right now, I'm away from Thursday night through Sunday evening 26 weekends a year...and there's more hunting going on as well. My wife appreciates me for who I am- a person who has two passions in life- her, and chasing critters with stick and string.
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:biglaugh: Mines been trying to wean me off hunting for 31 years....Not happening. In normal years I take off the "WHOLE" late archery ..Thanksgiving thru Mid Dec for late elk hunting....
This year it's working however, Her health is deterorating [ sp?]very fast .... My decision had been to stay close to home as that's where I feel I'm needed...
Would'nt you know it ... Now she says Go Hunting and get away for awhile....
I love this woman, and have for all of those many years... I still plan on staying close to home this Fall.
Best of luck to the rest of you guys...this year. For me, family is really coming first this fall... I'll have to "live thru your exploits" so please share them here thru the PowWow with me. ;)
Gene
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Nope....never.
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I am surprised how fast this thread has fillled up. Some good advice, and a few laughs. My wife is great about the hunting. However, most of mine is local and I make it home every evening. She does however draw her line in the sand. I am back in the bedroom now watching Monday night football and checking out Tradgang. My deer heads on the wall are looking down at me as I type. She will not allow them in the house where guests can see them. I solved that by putting them in the bedroom. She was also a little disgusted when she had to move her car out of the garage last night to make room to cut up my son's doe, but it was warm and had to be done. She has no interest in the woods, Mosquitos, bugs, rain, or cold, and thinks me and the boys are crazy. She really does not complain and I think she is glad to get us out of the house.
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Wow... I feel for some of you guys!
Lisa and I have been together for 16 years and she has been the best hunting and fishing buddy I have ever had. Sometimes I go without her, sometimes she goes without me. Most times we go together. I took her fishing on our first date. When I went to meet her Mom, I showed up with a whole deer in a cooler.
We don't have any kids (just Labradors), maybe that makes a difference. It's no accident that we don't. Not that we don't love kids, we spoil the heck out of our nieces and nephews!
We were around 30 or so when we met, so already had established lives of our own. Can't say I didn't still have some growing-up to do, still do I guess.
We have had a great relationship these past years and I am looking forward to many, many more.
OkKeith
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My wife and I celebrated our 42 anniversary this past July and hunting has never been a problem. Yes I do listen to my wife.
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I can honestly say that my wife has never had one negative word to say to me about my hunting or how many bows I have.
She is very supportive!!
I am blessed!
God bless,Mudd
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Grapes,
I got only 4 sittings in the whole year of 2009/early 2010...Our bow season started Sept.15th and I haven't been out yet this year and never made it to the 3d shoots all summer...I ain't even got my license yet...Reason is cause I haven't been "Self Centered" lately...We adopted to orphaned girls and even though hunting with Traditional Gear and wanting to be out in the Creation God gave us I come to realize that there is more important things then self satisfaction...I'm not putting down anyone here but myself...I look at my family and the two blessings God has givin to me and my wife and I have to remind myself often "Do I want my Castle built on Sandy soil or solid Rock"? Rock will be around for a long time but sand can wash away and be gone in an instant...Yes I want to Hunt just as bad and the Rut drives me wild too...You are not alone but don't lose what should be more important to us all...God Bless... Keefer's <")))><
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I have to say honestly that my wonderful bride has never complained once about my hunting.
Rather, she has supported and encouraged it for the last 25 yrs. I'm lucky my first wife was a totally different story.(nut)
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After 30 years of marriage my wife knows I need bowhunting like I need oxygen. It is never a problem, but I don't push it too far either. I don't hunt every evening and don't really want to. Her birthday is on Oct 7th, she watched the weather forcast and decided we would celebrate on a rainy day that I wouldn't be hunting anyway. Cool.
Spending for a new bow or an out of state hunt is discussed and mutually agreed on (or not). I recently hinted that I'd like to get a new longbow and got "The Look". Hey, it was worth a shot! LOL
Besides, I'll be at Ray's for the third time in two years this Feb. My wife is the greatest!
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38 years day after tomorrow and no complaints yet about my hunting,God knows i've given her plenty of things to complain about but hunting isn't one of them.I've been blessed,she hunts too ,and kills a buck every year.
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Originally posted by adkmountainken:
WOW you guys picked the right time for this post but eventually Killdeer will be back!!!!
"Killy just remember I had no part in this" Then again Killy's on our side anyway's so what does she care? :p
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My wife NEVER complains about my hunting.
"Is that what you wanted me to say dear?"
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Ray, you gave a great explaination. Biggie, I like that picture you posted. I'm thankful Patsy lets me enjoy hunting with very little hassle.
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My girlfriend did for the first two years we were together, and it really bothered me. I remembered that one time my Grandpa told me that specific things that you don't like about a woman doubles (sometimes triples) when you marry her.
She's my ex girlfriend
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I guess I'm lucky. She recently told me that when we met that if I said I did not hunt, she would have thought there was something wrong with me. Going on 28 years together.
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Man, I am glad I read over what I WAS going to post before hitting "Add Reply"... if my wife saw it we would probably be done :D
All kidding aside, I know exactly what your feeling brother. My wife pulls the same stuff. I already got "It's only the 15th of October and this is already getting old." I told her not to worry, I would take it easy for a week but once the rut starts it would get old again real soon. She knows how it is during the hunting season, but it also gets old having to beg your way out into the field too.
On with life... let the b@#$#ing begin :)
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A man marries a woman hoping she'll never change...and she does!
A woman marries a man hoping he will change....and he doesn't!
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She did until last Dec. I said bye.never been happier.
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My wife encourages me to hunt whenever I can. It's hard for me to take off work, and I have to drive at least an hour to every spot I hunt, but she knows how much I love to do it. I suppose she knows that I need to blow off some steam occasionally.
I've also discovered in my years of marriage that when men and women are looking for a spouse it's the same way we shop for a house.
Men:
3 car garage.....check
Game room.....check
Good floor plan....check
Women:
This house will be perfect once we paint all the walls, get some new hardwood floors, granite countertops, new blinds, new appliances, exterior paint, etc.
Pretty soon the men are wondering what happened to the house they loved, and the women are looking for something else to fix. :biglaugh:
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I been blessed with a great wife. We have been married for 36 years.
I bow hunt from Oct. thru Jan. and fish bass tournaments from April thru Sept.
She never says a thing about either. I am so lucky!
She always asked if I seen any deer or how I did in the bass tournament.
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The hardest part about a woman complaining about a man's hunting is how to get all those body parts to fit just right inside that medium sized suitcase.... :scared: :saywhat:
Just Kiddin'
My wife complained about alot of things, but never about hunting. I taught her how to bowhunt and she still does as far as I know?
We split the sheet over other reasons, and I have come to relish my independence so much that I doubt I could find a woman to put up with me at this point?
No offense to any of you married guys, but I have shed my attachments and commitments years ago and any relationship that last longer than 6 months is a long time for me.
Maybe someday Ms. Right will come along, but I seriously doubt it.....I'm too Bull Headed. :deadhorse:
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starting Oct 1st Im never home so I dont here her until Christmas
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FYI, never point the TV remote at them while pushing the mute button, They do not see the humor.
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I have had friends that go through this everytime they go.My wife hunts so she understands when i go and its know deal for me.I dont think i would play into it by cancelling your hunting trips,because that just feeds the problem.Im no relationship guru,just my two cents.Good luck!
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I have never met one that didn't have something to complain about. I love mine to death but this year i hear it more than i ever have before. Oh well 3-d season will be here before i know it.
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Take your kids hunting with you as much as possible and do what is best for them because that is what is most important.
Russ
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Yes Sir
One of the main reasons she left me,oh well I must say my hunting is quite important to me!!!
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Constantly, and I suddenly lost 140 lbs of useless weight. Divorced her after 5 of the most miserable years of my life.
I am now married to the most amazing wife in the world. She fishes, hunts, loves to camp, etc... just last night she looked me in the eye and said late season is coming, take days off, call in sick, do whatever it takes mister. There will be elk in my freezer and don't come home without it!
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Grapes,when I first started going out with my wife ,she didn't understand what hunting and Trad archery ment to me,she complained.I told her if she complained again she won't see me for 3 days,Yup she complained.The first day went by,she didn't see me.The second day went by,she still didn't see me .Finally on the third day she could just start to open her right eye LOL.
All kidding aside.For many of us on here Trad archery and bowhunting is NOT our hobby,it is our LIFE.When I was 7 years old(50 years ago) and my fathers friend showed me how to shoot a bow,it changed my life forever.It soaked into my blood and devoured my soul.I eat ,breath and sleep Archery 365 days a year.It motivates me obssesses me and governs all I do.My wife doesn't hunt anymore but knows what it means to me.
All year I am either building,tinkering ,experimenting and shooting my bows
In the last while we've had a influx of young people in our town getting involved in archery and I've helped many get set-up.Friends of my wife are asking her about me and she feels proud now to invite them over to see my mini museum and bow collection.
Your wife will mellow with time ,but piont out to her what are great passion means to you.We could be doing a lot worse things with our time.All the best.
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posted by bjorn:
Women have complained about our obsessive hunting ever since we clubbed the first one and dragged her back to the cave!
Grapes in a few short years your wife will not complain when you take the boys hunting as often as you wish.
I have even used my son as an excuse for all kinds of new gear that he can't use!........hahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahaaa :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: you crack me up bjorn
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lucky stiff clay....i am gonna lay a wuppin on you at the next 3d shoot you lucky dog you.
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My wife never complains, as she knows hunting comes but once a year. She knows that she if welcome to come along and join me if she wants to, but chooses not to hunt.
We've been married over 28 years now.
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In 1968 my neck swelled up and we got married on Nov. 9th. In well over half of the years since, I have be on a hunting trip somewhere on that date, and I have never heard a word about it from her before-during-or after. Hap
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more lucky dogs....i need to sell lucky dog t-shirts man.
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Yeah mine complains, she complains I don't take her enough! Or about having to go buy meat when the freezer is empty! I told her about my hunting when we first started dating. She's never complained once about me going for almost 10 years now. Just lucky I guess.
Huck
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About hunting or fishing, Never! Jason
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Does she ever stop..........
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Nope, treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a king.
I've heard too many people on the threshhold of divorce say, "I'd do anything to save my marriage", when the truth is that if they would have had that attitude all along they would have never ended up in that situation.
I enjoy hunting, but I LOVE the Lord Jesus Christ, my wife, and our children. What matters most comes first.
If it seemed like a hunting trip, or season was putting unnecessary strain on my marriage, then the hunt would be put aside for her needs. The Good Book calls our wives "the weaker vessel" and says that they are to be treated with "honour". Love is not about getting my needs met, but rather seeking to meet the needs of another regardless of what they say or do to me.
I had to stop and tell my wife just the other day, "You know, you really are an incredible wife!".......and she is a gem!
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I haven't read all the post so I don't know if it's been said like this or not.
When my wife and I were younger and she did complain every now and then I gave her this comparison. "If you could only shop the same months every year that I hunt, wouldn't you go as much in that time period as you could"?
It seemed to put things in perspective for her as most women would rather be shopping even if they aren't spending alot of money.
Then, 3 years ago I was in a terrible car accident and missed all bow season. My wife said that she never would care how much I wanted to hunt ever again.
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After forty years, my wife hates everything I do.
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That's a pretty good shopping analogy MB...might have to try that.
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No my wife does not complain at all, as a matter of fact she knows that during hunting season not to plan anything for me to be involved in and she is OK with that. Also I never say that she cant do anything either so it is a two way street. I tell my friends that in life there are seasons and when you have young kids you need to be flexable and be OK with it, now my youngest is 17 and life is good. The only thing that stops me from hunting is me, a place to hunt and money. Shes a peach.
Fellas it really is not about the hunting I think it is insecurity on their part, if you golfed, bowled, played on a softball team most of the women who complain would still complain.
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IMHO
T Folts nailed it with "Fellas it really is not about the hunting I think it is insecurity on their part, if you golfed, bowled, played on a softball team most of the women who complain would still complain."
I'm not sure anyone can tell you how to reassure the one you married as women are like snowflakes in that no two are alike.
God bless,Mudd
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FYI, never point the TV remote at them while pushing the mute button, They do not see the humor.
:biglaugh: :biglaugh: :biglaugh:
Ive tried that a time or two... normally I just get eye color change.... to green....
Never hear a word when plans are made with the kids or grandkids and bows and arrows....
Mike
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"I got so mad today listening to it, that I cancelled hunting tonight and tomorrow, and also cancelled a trip I had planned with a good friend this weekend. "
She won, then didn't she? It's all about control. If you stop hunting altogether, it will immediately be about something else. Good luck, but I don't see you being a happy man.
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My wife complains some but not alot. I usually do not hunt much the first two weeks because of kids sporting events. When I do get out it is mainly weekends. I do take time some time off because she asks me to do something else. For me it is give when I can aned take what I can get.
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Hunted before, will hunt after.
Not a contest, never was, if they (women) want to see it as such (between them and hunting) then they will lose.
Mine started last week with some rant, simply told her I aint putting up with it. Packing my stuff up for a hunt, might as well pack more and be gone.
It isn't about hunting, never is, so don't let them spin it as such.
It's about control, insecurity, and or just not being happy, trying to bring you down to their crappy level.
Mine left some time ago, came back, and seems to have forgotten some things. Not gonna remind them either, done talking.
Life is short, get your hunting time in.
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BTW, mine hasn't said diddly about hunting since.
Not gonna discuss/argue it (maybe what they want-to just argue).
Nope.
She knows I mean what I say, there's no probation or anything like that. No forgiveness.
It's all quite simple.
Screw with my hunting one more time, it'll be the last.
Don't care if it's this season, next yr, or 5 yrs from now. That kind of Bee Ess won't be tolerated.
I'm done with people of a television mentality.
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The traditional bowhunters wife has many sisters, the happy ones are to busy to worry much, the lucky ones get to go hunting sometimes, the unhappy ones whine & cry a lot and the smart ones know: a happy man after a long bow hunt (priceless).
Just my two cents, Teresa
Sorry for using my husbands sign in
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Is a frog's butt watertight?
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My wife not only doesn't complain, but she also puts the honey-do list on hold during hunting season and once in a while she'll tag along with me to the woods.
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Gray Rhino,
Nice sentiments but you and even God doesn't control people. Free will buddy, it takes two to get married but only one to get divorced.
Never any guarantee.
The only thing you can do is honor your covenant (and as sinners none of us are perfect).
What blessings that (honoring your covenant)results in, in your marriage, your divorce, or in a just marriage after divorce (within Biblical law)..........time can only tell.
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I remember as a teenager a girlfriend that used to complain that I was in the bush too much. I also remember one that was nervous to be left at camp alone while I was out doing something or other.
Heck, I fixed that...I married a Cree Indian that was born out on the trapline. We've been together 39 years now.
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I've only been married a year but my wife does not complain about it one bit...so far. She understands because she comes from a hunting family. Her father is a hard-core waterfowler so he was basically absent every November since she was born. She always wants to know how my hunting is going when I am gone, and she wants to go with me alot. We went to Africa for our honeymoon and she made the choice to be in the blind with me pretty much everyday of the hunt. I guess I'm lucky.
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My soon to be ex called hunting season the widow season. And I dont shoot black widows either...
Turns out she was unhappy about a lot more. :dunno:
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Grapes,
Looks like she might need to be introduced to the curb!
On second thought, the above advice might get too expensive in the long run!
There are lots of understanding women out there and hopefully yours will eventually become one of them.
Dave
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Nope, I'm lucky in that respect. She dont complain about hunting or the stuff I buy at all, she knows I could be upto a lot worse things.
And she backs off during hunting season, but I DO try to make sure I have THE LIST pretty well scratched off by then.
Eric
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let's just say I better have good eye site when hunting, cause my ears are bleeding listening to mine whine.
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Tricia and I read thru this thread together last night and she had a good laugh. Her statement on this is simple. Why whine about hunting, it beats boozing, drugs, skirt chasing, and flat out cheating on your wife. Plus she loves to eat what we bring home. Her one complaint is that with her being in college I get to hunt more than she does.
Part of why she married me is that I have hobbies and passions in my life. She wanted a man who knew what he wanted and went after it full tilt. That means hunting season is game on. I get pushed out the door with a kiss and "Come back with meat".
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I've only been married three years but i planned it out right. The year we got married I went hog hunting in Florida in January, Turkey hunting out with Fred in colorado and deer hunting in kansas so she would know I'm serious. So fine she is fine with it since she knows I have a lot of stress at work andshe knows hunting a shooting is my stress reliever. I also make sure I only hunt 1/2 days on sunday until the rut so i can spend a little time with her.
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No my wife doesnt complain much.Sounds like you need to find a new wife :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:
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I learned a long time ago that when it comes to relationships with women you can either be right, or you can be happy. Very seldom will you be able to be both...
My choice would be to go with happy...enjoy the hunting season.
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My wife never complains. She knows that from the end of Sept to Jan 1st. I am married to a tree.
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The older I get the less I hear :bigsmyl:
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When I meet my wife it was 2 weeks before the bowhunt. After a month of hunting and not really seeing her at all she was still there. I knew she was a keeper!
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My wife is the best. She understands that hunting is a big part of who I am. She supports the life that we live, and it is often centered around bowhunting. I could not ask for anything more. She does get a little "fiesty" during the rut when all I think about is bowhunting. She understands that it is something that I need to do. She also loves venison. That helps a little too.
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The next time she get's mad,ask her: should I be drinking and get drunk instead!
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If I wrote about it TradGang would be buying a new server.YES SHE DOES!
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I hate to say it, but yes. She knew who I was when she met me. I've given up a lot of other things I used to enjoy to make more time throughout the rest of the year. I've asked her to join me and she has no interest. Truth is, she doesn't like it and she's told me. Now she sees that it is a lifestyle and I honestly don't know how this is going to play out. I try to not even discuss it with her anymore. How's that for sad?
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I haven't read all the posts here so it may have already been said. But there's a saying:
"All women marry men expecting them to change and they never do. All men marry women expecting them to never change and they always do."
Seems like they tell you one thing before marriage then when the ring is on, all bets are off! LOL.......
Aaron
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If you keep them happy they will keep you happy. I hunt all year long.Been married 31 years.
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Mine usually doesn't say a word but this year I started to replace the 35yr old fence that the labs jump up against ( Just a matter of time till it fell over), I completed about 35 ft of it and she said," I SUPPOSE ITS GONNA SIT LIKE THAT UNTIL SPRING WITH HUNTING SEASON STARTING TOMORROW!!!!!!!!!!!Well I dont care for the early season anyway so I convinced her I was making the supreme sacrifice so the fence would get done and it did all 150ft of it. So I dont expect to hear a word about the late season...PR
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my wife complains all the time gets on my nerves
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The one I had complained after we were married. The complaining went like this,you spend too much on hunting, your always going hunting, you are out with your buddies hunting,your out having fun hunting, and on and on. So, to prove hunting isn't a picnic I took her bow hunting, and told her sit here don't make a sound don't move until we're done, you'll see how much fun it can be. Then amazingly enough her complaining went like this, I'm tired, my legs hurt, my back hurts, I have to pee, when are we going to leave, I'm bored. It took her a long time before she said I was out having fun hunting, but it didn't stop her from complaining about spending money to hunt. So, in the end I divorced her.
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My wife and I have been married 37 years. I was up front with her before we got married, sort of an un-official pre-nup agreement. I made it perfectly clear my love for hunting, fishing and the outdoors in general. I told her I will never cheat on you and a whole host of things of that nature, but I spend a lot of time in the woods and on the water. She agreed but I don't think she fully understood just how much time I was talking about. For a few years she never complained but eventually it started. I reminded her of our agreement and everything has been pretty good for the most part for the last 25 years. I am lucky to have a woman like that and I let her know that I appreciate it.
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Landman and Hookeye,
At the risk of losing a couple potential as yet unformed friendships, I'd say most of the problem for you fellas is that you have to actually LIKE women -and demonstrate a modicum of respect for women, before they would consider NOT nagging!
That quote by Augustus McRae is way off base.
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Look up Proverbs 21-19
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My sweetheart and I dated for 2 months beore moving in together, and six years before getting married this past July. The only bit of my hunting that she complains about is my tattoo, desecration of the temple that is your body doesn't fly with the Catholic church.
She knew that we would have to be married in July, January or February. Since moving Terrace it would have to be July, goat season runs to end of February if you get a draw. We picked July 10. She wouldn't bend on the honeymoon though. I suggessted Hawaii, 10 days in the tropic sun if I could spend 3 days chasing goats in the cliffs. No biggie, we had a great time visiting cheese factories and micro-breweries in Quebec. We try not to battle in our house, she is French Canadian and I have Irish blood, there are no winners :deadhorse:
She has been pretty good over the years. She had a debilitating fear of dogs, but got me a beagle, now she wants another one for her birthday! We moved to Northern BC from Vancouver Island so I could follow my carer path. The only time she was really upset was when she planned me a surprise birthday party for my 25th and despite all her suggestive phone calls urging me to come home early from work, I made a detour and went hunting for an hour or two rather than going stright home.
I make sure the yard is mowed, chickens fed and firewood stored before I go hunting. For my 30th birthday a few weeks ago, she asked that I not go hunting so as not to miss the party this time. I thought that reasonable and in return she bought me a lovely bottle of Patron Anejo and told me to order a Mystery Ranch 6500. I nominate her for wife of the year.
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Ephesians 5:33 bro-n-arrow?
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I must be very lucky, My wife likes to go archery hunting just as much if not more than I do :archer:
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This thread should be really titled
"Men complaining about women".
My Dad never complained and neither did my Mom. The marriage (60yrs) was not without its ups and downs but he had too much respect for my Mother and too much self respect to ever fall into the all too common practice of complaining about it. I guess they didn't want to make a joke out of their lives by treating it like it was one.
Can't have it both ways boys.
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My mistake was getting into hunting AFTER we got married... We set a hunting schedule which did help a bit but I work 2 jobs so she can stay home with our baby son and she STILL gets on my case... ugh...
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I got to tell you all, I've got the best wife ever (31 years). We have an agreement though. There are 52 weeks in a year. I get 8 weekends and 2 weeks to bow hunting. Every couple of years an added week in the spring for hogs or bears and she can have 'all the rest'. She is so understanding about bow hunting that I try to use the time we will have together away in ways will both enjoy.
Last year towards the end of Elk season, she asked me how much longer the season was going to last.. I thought, Oh, she is going to complain... but she followed the question up with a statement.."I hope not too much longer because you're not looking too good".
moderation... and be fair....Joe
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My wife chases me out of the house and "Makes" me go hunting whether I want to or not.
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Sweet Wife puts alot of time and effort into putting the "Honey Do" list together each year, starting about mid summer. My task is to get it completed prior to "funtime". Couple that with deciding to "tie the knot" on the 14th of October 32 years ago, October can be a tough month :)
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Only when I let her!
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Cause I wear the pants in this family!
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"Oh, Hi honey. Nothing, just posting on the TradGang. You want your slippers? How 'bout some tea?"
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Dang, that was close. Don't say nuthin' to her, OK.
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well after reading all this i must say i have the Best wife in the world as she does not complain at all. as far as hunting goes she even sent me all the way over to the USA now hows that guys and we been married for 36 opps 38 years next may the 20th. :thumbsup:
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I am very lucky to have a wife that understands my love of hunting and rarely has any issues with me going. I am very fortunate and hunt a lot. My hunts tend to be very expensive too! A trip to Florida to bowfish for alligators only cost me a trip to Denmark. A week in Maine bear hunting only cost me a trip to Belgium. A week in Indiana deer hunting only cost me a 7 day carribean cruise for my wife and 2 daughters. My wife never complains! She loves to travel.
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This thread needs to be closed. Absolutly nothing to do with trad bowhunting. Sorry but griping about complaining wives is not what this forum is about.
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Agreed :thumbsup:
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i work on the road. my wife is just happy to have me home so when i go hunting she does not say anyhting but good luck bceause shes knows i will be home later .
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FWIW
I grew up around attractive and intelligent women of great character, and like an idiot I though the rest of their populace was like that.
Oprah, The View........the popularity of such poisons is a disgrace.
I dislike excusive behavior, dishonesty, and double standards.
So while that puts a lot of guys on my bad list, in today's culture it puts more women.
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Not that I've ever noticed....But then again she say's I never listen to her :eek:
Seriously though I am a lucky man, but yes even she has her limits and with two you kids in the house it is understandable, with that said I'm still in the woods as much as possible.
Travis
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Not any more!!
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Well, it's nice to know I'm in good company. I was begining to think I was the only one who goes thru this. Thank you all for your insight, and yes I emailed her a link to this thread. She read it, and said she was sorry, and it won't happen again. I'll wait and see if that really happens.
As for the 2 guys who asked for this thread to be closed due to no talk of trad hunting...Isn't what all of us do that posted here trad hunters trying to help their fellow hunters with tips on how to get out in the woods more often? I don't see the difference between this thread, and one about eating grits. Just my .02
Not to mention, all the responses got my wife to actually say she was sorry, and now understands my love for the sport I have been an active participant of for 26 years. So to that, I say thank all of you for venting/tip giving. It worked, and I will bet alot of you had your wives read these responces also. I will admit there were a few off the cuff remarks, but that is what's nice about being human, we are all different, but come together for a common bond. We are all "TRADITIONAL BOWHUNTERS" be proud of it, and spread the word. We need to grow our ranks as a whole.
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I have one more thing to add since someone brought up the double standard.
Even though my wife doesn't seem to like it, she'll make sure all her friends know how good at it I am. That burns me up even more. You'll brag to your friends, but give your hubby a bunch of crap! Not fair.
Okay, I'm done. Time to hunt.
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I had to laugh at Friend's post and shedule because 30 years ago that was like my schedule but with golf thrown in.
We've been married 45 years and I realize I used to be compulsive over the fishing, golf, camping and hunting. She used to resent me being gone so much. I'm not so anymore and I realized I was being selfish somethimes which is why we've been married 45 years.
She did tell me this year she would appreciate me not adding anymore overnight trips to my yearly schedule of fishing, 3-D camping, golf, deer hunting trips and I've complied. To stay married for 45 years requires lots of give and take. Just remember that.
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Kbetts,
Same here!
BTW, mine left and a few yrs later came back, that alone (not counting the $ lost for their nonsense) should mean zero complaints on hunting (or most anything else).
Yeah..........a certain somebody needs to buy me a new BW................
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Just wondering...........
if those wanting the thread closed are worried about their SO reading it and shutting down a hunt or two :biglaugh:
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Sometimes things don't work out, and it is best to move on.
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By the end of season oct.-jan my wife of 30 years is ready for it to end but as I tell her I am home the rest of the year. I don't go to bars, run around or any of that stuff but I do hunt. Just not on her Birthday, Nov. 16, and believe me that is tough on me. Rest of the year is shared but family always comes first regardless of time of year.
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ok who is going hunting this year? iam :goldtooth:
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Originally posted by Hud:
Sometimes things don't work out, and it is best to move on.
:saywhat: :laughing: :laughing:
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I was going to hunt today but had a sick kid.
Today on the mend, good to go tomorrow.
Wasn't an issue of asking permission.
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If the wife is fussing and complaining about you going hunting again,and hits you in the knee with your sidequiver full of wood arrows tipped with woodsman's that you were gonna shoot out of your longbow at a Whitetail deer. Then you can't go because your bruised knee won't let you climb the tree in your Lone wolf climber. Would that be Trad bowhunting related ????. Oh, by the way, my wife is as passive as a "Butterfly in the breeze", and sweet as they get..... I am a lucky man !!
Froggy :saywhat: :D
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I had a girlfriend move out after six days of fishing. I got home and she was all packed out. I called her cell to see what was what. After she gave me an earful, I called up my buddy and we were gone for another three days down on Truman(MO). The fishing was great that week.
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Sometimes........well, at least once a year!!!
:readit:
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YES
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Yeah, she said "we need another deer mount in the living room with the head turned like that one". :readit:
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Man I must be the luckiest guy in the world! My wife doesn't hunt but sat in a bear stand in New Brunswick for a week with me and never complained wonce! She even helps butcher my deer.
GLENN
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I have enjoyed this thread. I've read many of the posts to my wife. As I wrote, she doesn't complain a bit -- I'm a retired wildlife biologist and she knows this stuff has been in my blood long before we met. I think she enjoyed learning how much many of you are grateful for an understanding wife.
Frankly, I could take a lesson in not complaining from my wife. I complain more about her shopping than I should.
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Mine doesn't mind...at least not that she says. She's actually encouraged me to go on some hunts and trips.
We've gone on hunting/vacation trips where I'll hunt and she'll do whatever or I'll hunt half the time and vacation the rest with her.
About the only gripes I get are when I complain I'm tired or sore. She says, "Self Imposed"...meaning I didn't have to get up so early or stay so late.
These posts remind me of a story of two buddies bowhunting. They're hunting a patch of woods next to a highway and their stands are within sight of one another.
A huge buck, buck of his dreams, appears below the one guys stand. He begins to draw back when he sees a funeral procession approach on the highway. He stands up, removes his hat, and bows his head as the procession passes.
His buddy is amazed at the respect he has shown and the fact he passed on the huge buck.
They meet up later and the buddy says, "I can't believe you passed up on that deer just to pay respect to a passing funeral procession."
The other guy replies, "It's the least I could do. I'm really going to miss my wife." :biglaugh: :biglaugh: :biglaugh:
And for those offended...it's a joke, all in good fun to lighten some of the mood.
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Grapes, when they are little bitty girls, they send them to special classes to learn how to complain about men's hobbies, so take heart, you are just another married deer hunter living in our "natural environment" - the dog house.
The good wives learn to deal with it and even to accept it to some degree, and a few, or at least I have heard it rumored, will even encourage it. Now that statement is pure hearsay, though. I don't know about other wives, because mine is very good about my hunting. (I just hope she never really tallies up just how much I spend on it.) Her standard comment is, "Don't bring anything home".
Sometimes I think the complaining is just them playing a role, because throughout the years, no matter the complaints or odd comments I have heard, a lot of neat hunting items at birthday and Christmas have come my way.
As I get older, however, she treats me more like a little kid. She wants to know which stand I will be in, and she wants me to hunt more from the ground ,as she is afraid I will fall out of the tree. That one may be a valid concern. She wants me to always be sure my cell phone is handy so when I do fall out of the tree, I can call for help. Being a little bit unknowing about wildlife, she wants me to carry my pistol when bowhunting, because we have seen a number of coyotes and bobcats on our land. Also, she has seen me shoot the bow enough that she doesn't think the bow is sufficient when the howling pack attacks. I actually was once treed by a couple of big Rottweilers. Lastly, since I stepped on a copperhead last year, she is adamant that I wear snake boots.
So despite the complaints I sometimes get, all in all, I must admit that my wife is a good sport about my hunting. The only real downside is that her wry comments about my lack of productivity often rival any zingers the deer camp guys can send my way.
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Kansas didn't have deer hunting when I we were dating in college. But she hunted rabbits and squirrel and fished with me. It was all a part of "getting our man". I got divorced because of bow hunting. Second time around it was a clear part of the agreement. Took awhile to find one but she hunts with me when the weather is decent. The only thing better than your wife as a hunting partner is your girlfreind as a hunting partner.
Try your damnedest to get your wife to go hunting with you. If it doesn't work then save up your money because I will guarantee you that your freedom isn't free.
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Does my wife complain? Does a fat baby sweat?!!!
When we got married I told her that I'd give up anything for her, even my hunting, but if she ever asked me to do it....then that meant she did'nt really love me, so to h#** with her! She has never asked.
Early on she usually gave me the "guilt" trip thing, but over the decades now, she's gotten used to being a hunting widow. Could be a lot worse, and she knows it. And it's become such a family thing now anyway, with most of her best friends in the same boat, and the kids grown and just about as deeply into it as I am. I am one of the lucky guys I guess to have her.
She complains, but she really is very supportive of it all.
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I am very lucky in this area I guess. She gives me my space. I don't go out and party or hang out till all times of the night. I am home most of the time if I am not out shooting my guns or golfing or hunting or doing a 3-D shoot. :biglaugh:
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I think Sam hit many an estrogen nail on the head.
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My wife complains all the time--you have to play it easy sometimes--I try not to talk about hunting too much around her as it wears her out. She has been pretty good about supporting me, especially with 1 year old twin girls and a three year old little boy! It is a battle, but I have found if I schedule my trips well in advance and get her to agree on them months in advance I have less complaints. Do what you can--life is a give and take!
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I am lucky in that aspect.If I don't go out she asks "whats wrong and aren't you missing out on a good morning hunt"..I keep a going.They seem to understand eventually that its a bonding with nature and good quiet time for the men to relax..At least for me....Good luck
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Originally posted by Airborne:
My wife complains all the time--you have to play it easy sometimes--I try not to talk about hunting too much around her as it wears her out. She has been pretty good about supporting me, especially with 1 year old twin girls and a three year old little boy! It is a battle, but I have found if I schedule my trips well in advance and get her to agree on them months in advance I have less complaints. Do what you can--life is a give and take!
Such is my life, less the complaining. We have a pretty young family and my burning desire to be in the woods, non-stop this time of year, has to be leveled to my personal/family responsibilities that have to be met. I do the heavy lifting for the family, tow the line, have a long work week and it seems that the precious windows of time that I do get to spend in the woods, are fewer these days. That time isn't even on the table for discussion. She knows I need to hit the pressure release valve (hunting/fishing/ect) from time to time to keep myself sane. She understands what it's all about...
Man, I love that woman!
JL
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I think my wife is probably the best going...in 26 yrs of marriage I've never had her say anything about going hunting. She always encourages me to go when an opportunity comes around. She actually asked why I haven't been back to Hog Heaven. Ray I will be calling soon. Sorry guys she doesn't have a sister.
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Nah, but then again maybe she does and I just haven't heard her. In all reality Im a lucky man to have such a wife as I do. Shes not a participant and could do without the tales but shes happy for me when I score or just come back refreshed. It sure beats me hanging out at a bar and she appreciates that.I am always, always there when she or one of my sons needs me even if it was to be opening day and they are secure in that fact so I get some extra leeway.Take care of them fellas, they deserve our respect and patience. Our kids are watching us.
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Nope my wife just tells every one that she's divorced thru hunting season. She gets to see her friends that annoy me during this time.
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Wow_ I thought that I was the oly one that got the complaints from his wife. She thinks that one or two days a year that are spent hunting is excessive. After 10 years it never gets easier.
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I made it quite clear before we were married that hunting is what I do. It's a part of who I am...an integral part of my idenity, if you will. That said, there have been times that I have missed seasons due of budget constraints or family obligations (like getting custody of my 3 grandchildren). Those instances when I did not go were my decision alone, and never once has she asked me to not to go due to those circumstances.
Even though I consider myself a very lucky man, I will say this: if my wife complained about time spent hunting I would do it anyway. As I said, she knew what she was getting into when she married me.
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Well put Iz. You are a wise and lucky man my friend.