Not sure what to do

[Eastern fisher]

Hi.  My name is Dave (Eastern Fisher).  I quit my job at a hotel 04 Dec 09 because I was working for a management that did not stand behind thier employees.  To make a long story short.  They backed a drunken couple before they backed thier own employee which I was totally not in the wrong but the ole advatage "the customer is always right".  I suffer from depression and acoholism and did not need the crap, basically.  I quit drinking myself 2 months ago tomorrow.  The problem is this.  I cannot find work because I am supposed to be "over qualified".  Between quiting drinking, trying to find a job, I do not know what to do.  I washed a second  cell ophone this morning in the wash, I cannot concentrate on anything. My mind is either on quiting drinking or trying to find work or trying to keep my family happy which is not easy because I have ZERO patience.  I have tried for the last week to start building another selfbow.  I do not have the patience for that either.  I end up beating the wood or a tool to death, throwing it against the wall and crying for 10 mins or so before I end up giving it up for the day.  I ended up going to the liquor store, bought a case of beer and sat in my garage, had several and said "the hell with trying to quit drinking"  Too much at once.  Now I Am at my witts end and not sure where to go OR WHAT TO DO.  I went to church this morning which I usually want to do but not this morning. I find myself unhappy there and not getting anything out of the service because ALL I CAN THINK ABOUT IS TRYING TO QUIT DRINKING AND FINDING EMPLOYMENT.

[monkeyball]

Dave,
     You make my life problems sound like nothing
compared to what you have happening. It sounds as though you have all kinds of storms going on right now.I would not consider myself qualified enough to tell you what to do, but I can tell you what not to do,and that is don't you dare give up on your faith.You need help beyond what you are capable of doing.I just want you to know that I am praying for you and this dilemma that you are in right now.I am confident that others here will
hop on to also pray for you and get you through
this.Hang in there pal.

                         Craig

[BenBow]

Praying for you. I've been there and I can tell you it may be tough but the rewards of keeping sober are well worth it. Think of the toughest hunt you've had and how you felt when you succeeded. That will seem like nothing compared to how you will feel after overcoming your problems. Humble yourself and admit you can't do it alone and keep screaming for God to help you.

[Doc Nock]

Hey, Dave,

Another Dave here echoes Craig's view that my problems seem petty compared to your struggles right now.

Lots of cute phrases people share come to mind but having spent 13 months in the "no job/over-qualified" soup not long ago, I know at least how THAT feels.  I also know all the cute phrases mean diddly squat when you're bottoming out!

I have had more than my share of "times in the desert" where I feel God totally forgot about me and yet, who'se dumb enough to rail against God, right?

Still, there are times of total disconnect. Realized dragging my sorry butt to work for a 50 min drive this AM to come into a place with no regard for human dignity and a Feudal Lord view of workers, coupled with substandard work conditions, that God must've forgot me... and instantly I KNEW...that isn't it...I've quit trusting cause I didn't get what I wanted or thought I should get.

ALL I know sitting here at a keyboard is that you made a moral choice. Cudos to you! That takes a special courage, but I've learned in nearly 62 years that courage is often not rewarded in this realm...

I often thought the apostle Paul was a bit goofy... reveling in suffering, but as I age and the body fails and this whole job thing has reached epic proportions of disappointment, that indeed, God might ask us at times to suffer to relate a bit to how HIS Son, Jesus, suffered and paid for our sins. Kinda humbling.

You've undertaken some tall challenges. 1) quitting drinking 2) Quitting a job for a souless outfit, and 3) trying to keep the family happy.

Suffering is supposed to happen in situations like that! Not expected to be joyous. But I would encourage you to just "keep on keepin on!"

Eat an elephant one bite at a time. Recovery is one hour at a time, then 1/2 day, then a day! Then a week...

Trusting God when we feel like a wretch is the hardest thing God asks us to ever do!

You've taken on a few hard, hard choices. Now it's time to redouble the trust in Him.

Prayers for His peace that passes understanding to wrap you in his loving arms and guide you and renew your spirit as you continue on your struggles. We don't invent our problems in a day, and they surely won't go away in a day.

Hang in there.  You're covered in prayers by some mighty prayer warriors right here on this site!

If you want to talk, PM me and I'll shoot you my phone #.

Keep the Son in your eyes.

[kill shot]

Praying for your strength. Like Doc Noc says"cute phrases mean diddly squat when your bottoming out".

[Buffalo Two Fletch]

Dave,

Not sure about the drinking part but I know first hand about the worry and constant thinking about finding a job.
I have been unemployed and looking for a job for almost a year. Every day it consumes me. Late at night is the worse. I am naturally a guy who worries about things. As hard as it is please do not give up. Keep getting up every day and try something to land a job. You will get through this. I will keep you in my prayers.

[Benha]

I'm on it friend. You have a prayer buddy right here in Ky.

[eddings220]

Dave, praying for you and your family, I know it all seems very hard right now. I am praying for God's favor to be released into your circumstance and all to be made well.  Also, I can't think of a better place to be when needing answers than the house of God! Keep your faith and keep your chin up, His prescence is key!  God Bless.

[Buffalo Two Fletch]

Dave,

Have you considered going into buisness for yourself? Even at my age, I have been giving it quite a bit of thought myself lately and may try my hand at some very small service type buisness and see what happens. One way or the other You will get through this economic downturn. KEEP YOUR FAITH.

Take care and God Bless,
Brian

[GRAYBEARD]

PRAYERS FOR STRENGTH AND PEACE. MAYBE BUFFALO TWO FLETCH HAS THE IDEA. IF YOU ARE IN A POSITION TO GO FOR IT, STEP UP AND TAKE FEW PITCHES.

[macclare]

Prayers sent for Gods healing grace. Gary

[Buffalo Two Fletch]

Dave,
There is hope. After almost a year of nothing, I recieved a call today from a place I had contacted many months ago and have a interview tommorow. It's would Part Time but it's a start towards maybe getting something full time or maybe at least making some new contacts if I get offered something. I had hoped for a Good Paying Full Time job but with this economy perhaps it will be a couple of Lesser Paying Part Time jobs and maybe a very small side buisness of my own until things get better. Have you considered something like arrow making to get a little extra side money while you are looking? You certainly ain't going to make a living from it but it would keep you busy and get a little money flowing while you are looking for a job. Please do not give up. Keep the faith and you will get through this time.

Take care and God Bless,
Brian

[Eastern fisher]

Thank you all for your prayers and time taken away from your busy lives to write me.  I thought last Sunday that that was the last day.  Not like I was going to do anything to hurt my self( I have a little 5 year angel daughter that is EVERYTHING to me and I WILL be here to watch her grow)I went down to the liquor stoer, bought the beer, even had a few.  You know what.  I felt worse.  A) because it DID not help my situation  B) It made me feel guilty because I felt I threw away 2 months of being sober.  I DO not need the booze because it upsets my delicate balance in life.  I Even tho I am not working and I do have a military pension and a Workmans Compensation pension funds are not the issue here.  I just feel so absolutely useless in society.  I am a DAMN hard worker and I put everything I have into a job. The pee off is that no one is giving me the opportunity to prove myself.  Well that will change because I feel it will.  The beauty of quitting drinking is that for the first time is several years I actually want to do stuff.  I have built 5 bows so far (not the fanciest) but they are all shootable bows.  Now I just have to get feeling better about myself and get working.  Thanks all and God Bless each eand every one of you. Dave from Nova Scotia Canada

[BenBow]

Good to hear you are aware of what your doing as that gives you control and increases your feeling of usefulness. You might look into either selling or giving away some of your bows. Nothing like giving to help ones self-worth. Keep it up your doing great.

[Blue EagleBum]

Dave, prayers are being lifted for you as we type. Rest your burdens on him, as his footsteps are the only one's in the sand now. Give yourself totally to him and he will carry you through. Your faith and love is all he asks for, and he will shoulder all your burdens. And don't forget to lean on those around you. Don't feel useless. God has blessed you with the talent of your hands and eyes making bows. He has also blessed you with a five year old angel. Keep your chin up, you will come out on top.
Wes

[Smallwood]

Dave, prayers sent.
remember, we can do nothing, but thru him, all things are possible.
I don't know if you have ever seen the movie or not, but when I'm down, I like to watch "Facing the Giants". It seems to lift my spirits and reminds me to have faith in God .

sammy

[Rookie@51]

Thank you for asking me to lift you up in prayer. I would be honored to lift my voice up to my Father to show you His plan. When we are on the bottom looking for answers sometimes all we have to do is roll over on our backs and look up. The Holy Spirit will be there with an out reached hand to lift you up. The Bible tells up "In all things give thanks". Some times when I get down all I need do is start singing (if you can call it that) every Christian song I know. This sets my mind free of what I see with my human eyes and open my spiritual eyes to see what Christ is trying to show me. If nothing else it always frees my mind to worship God for what I have and also for what I don't have. Illness, broken home, unhealthy family, and so on. God has told us in his word that He will NEVER leave us nor forsake us. Thank you for allowing me this honor to stand in the gap for you and yours. Dusty