land is gone :(

[hunterace]

well after a few months of feeling crappy i feel even worse now. yesterday my dad signed the final papers and the land my grandparents bought and wanted to pass on to my brother and i after my dad is sold. my brother talked with the new land owner and he was nice about it but said we couldn't hunt it anymore. i had wanted to take my future children hunting on this land some day and pass it onto them but..... not anymore. still haven't figured out where i'll be bow or gun hunting this year, might be able to bow hunt with my friend and his dad, but nothing is confirmed yet. i just feel sick about this and i'm trying to move past it, but i'm not doing a very good job. sorry for complaining.... Jay

[Mudd]

I'm sorry you're having a rough time getting over this.
It is just a material thing and it's not your health or the health of anyone in your family. Truthfully it can be replaced but the memories can't. That's what you have now, enjoy them and share them with your children.

God bless,Mudd

[KSdan]

Change is really hard.  Sorry.  I have watched the same occur here in KS- change of regs, tradition, land etc.  It is disappointing. We were created for eternity- and something about change and loss violates something in our souls.  Hang in there- you may just find a new place to develop memories and it may be an even better "honey hole."

you were actually one of the lucky ones that had private property to hunt with family and freinds on, alot dont have that luxury, public property is what some have to deal with most every season, so dont feel so bad about losing something some never had..  good luck this year.  

[pdk25]

Grew up with nothing but public land to hunt other than a few local farms.  Parents were factory laborers that only made enough to get by.  When I was 13 years old and saw the farms being sold and turned into housing developments, I realized that the only way that I would be able to realiably have land to hunt was to get it myself.  The decisions that I have made in my life have been focused on getting my own land, and now 30 years later I am finally able to do that.  Even though there is alot of work to be done, I'm really glad that I made the tough choices and put in the hard work.  You still have the chance to do that.  Good luck.

[Raging Water]

Some folks; had land, did not have land, or may get land. Regardless of the various backgrounds and fortunes, our thoughts are with you. Times of change can often be difficult.

But, I favor Mudd and KSDan's view points. Try not to let the situation get you too down.

Arrow30 might want to try to be a tad more sensitive or not write a post at all.  


Matt

[Doc Nock]

Jay,

Loss is always hard and grief is a process..it takes time. You spend so much time somewhere and learn it intimately, it becomes part of you.  This isn't a bad lesson and how you process it might help you down the road. In the mid-70's Peter Drucker wrote, "...the only thing you can count on from here out is that things will change..."

Take heart though. As Bryant wrote, many, many folks on here have only had public land to hunt... but the quality of that depends on the area in which you live and the pressure. Everything is relative to your own circumstances.

You have some incredible memories. I now travel by places of my youth...where I shot my first ringneck, first bunny, first quail and they are all someone's yard or industrial park.

You will have some years of stumbling and fumbling finding new places to learn, but that too can be a rather intriguing prospect and exciting to be hunting both the land and the animals. Sometimes, it boils down to a matter of perspective.

Maybe if you're nice to the new owner, he'll still let you wonder the ground, unarmed occassionally, and revisit those memorable places.

Matt,

Maybe Bryant thought his call to young Jay was to enjoy the memories for some never had family land to hunt. Hopefully, Jay took it more as a challenge to find some positive from what has changed rather than a put-down.

I hope so.

[Raging Water]

Bryant PMd me and said he did not mean any offense. I guess it is just the way it was worded. No harm, no foul.

Matt

[hunterace]

no worries, i wasn't offended at all. i knew there would be some people that would state that they never had private land to hunt. i was just being a complainer and i know i need to get over it, just finding it really hard.

[BenBow]

Jay the loss of family land isn't something easy to get over. You have a loss that has deep roots. Prayers for comfort and wisdom in finding a new place for you and your family.

[Raging Water]

Jay,

Good luck. I hope you find a good place to hunt.

[kill shot]

Prayers sent. I feel your pain brother. Had the same thing happen to me. (I should say us) The house my mother had worked so hard for was given to my dads new wife after my mom died. My sister, brothers and I were out. Sometimes the thought of it shows its ugly head but I try to justify it by thinking his new wife took care of him in his last years. It was his house to do what he wanted with it I guess.