Might need one or two.

[ishiwannabe]

Where to begin? I guess with I found out today that my wife is leaving. Tomorrow. Already has an apartment set up, and she is taking my son. Talked to a lawyer, and unless I want to verbally "gut" my wife, and tear her apart,take him completely away from her,  I cant do much about it. After all, she is the mother of my kid.
We have been having issues since December. Some my fault, and some hers. Mostly, I think, her past.

And now this awesome, perfect little boy loses. Either way, he is losing so much, and it kills me. I have done just about everything asked of me, and I dont know what else to do.

[BenBow]

Praying for grace and wisdom

[Doc Nock]

Jamie,

I wish there were smart words. There aren't. It's going to hurt.

Only thing I can tell you is that for the past 40+ yrs I've watched folks go through this..they always focus on and make themselves sick over the kids being so hurt.

Kids prove to be a lot more resilient than grown ups. Make sure you sit them down and "repeatedly" tell your son that the break up is NOT HIS FAULT. That is the one damage that lingers. Explain WHY things are not His fault... and reinforce it regularly.

Otherwise, take care of you and make the time together with him positive...keep the adult fights in the adult world.

Remember... forgiveness is required by God, forgetting is not. Remember why, turn the other cheek, but don't let abuses prevail.

God bless and Keep the Son in your eyes!

[Rookie@51]

Jamie, I echo what my Bro Doc has said. I am the product of a broken marriage when I was a child. My Mother set us down and told us, without trashing my father, that things were going to change and that he would not be there for us anymore. I was married before I found out all the things he had done leading up to their break up. Please do the same with your son. He does not have to know all the facts because he will see them soon enough. But lastly which should be the first thing you do is reach out to God as He is standing ready to reach out and take your hand and pull you out of this mess that you find yourself in. Except His gift of salavation if you haven't already. He will fight your battles for you and will help you find that peace that surpasses all understanding. I hurt for you and will pray for you and your family. The devil is doing everthing he can do to tear down our familys and homes...... Dusty

[Killdeer]

I hope that you and she can work together, out of love for your son.

I am praying that your family can be joyfully knit back together. May you be granted love, hope and patience, and may your little son have a happy and secure childhood.

Killdeer

[oneshot-onekill]

Jamie,

Praying for you and your family.

[kill shot]

I'm so sorry to hear news like this. I've had it explained to me that this sort of thing is somewhat close to a death in the family. prayers sent for all of you.

[ishiwannabe]

That it is kill shot. I know, we just lost my Dad in February.

Atleast the boy seems to be adjusting a little each day. And so far, there are no issues or limits with visitation.

Im meeting with a Pastor/friend later.

Thank you all.

[Doc Nock]

Such a loss is a death. Period. No other way to put it. Faith, hope, trust...all go into a relationship and when one bails, regardless of how or why, there is an empty black hole that sucks life...for the moment.  Reality is that we can adjust to a loss and will, with God's help.

Don't try to avoid the pain...only makes it worse. Embrace that it will hurt. Feel it. Acknowledge it and then give it to Christ... daily! Maybe 10 x a day! Whatever it takes.

May you soon know the peace that passes all understanding.

Keep the Son in your eyes.

[straitera]

J, Unfortunately, you aren't the first nor the last. It can't make sense for a good while until you can see the whole screen. There are better days ahead even & especially for your son & you.

Dear Lord, please be with Jamie & his family in their time of need. Lead them to peace & understanding to shine in Your light.

[rastaman]

Jamie, prayers and positive thoughts are sent from south georgia.  A divorce with a child was worse than a death for me.  With a death, you have a finality.  With a divorce with children, you have to allow the old relationship to eventually die (if reconciliation can't or won't occur) and allow a new relationship to develop...for your child's sake.  It is tough and painful, but time does heal.  Good luck to you sir, and keep your head up!

[shaft slinger]

So sorry to hear this Jamie, you have my prayers

[TexMex]

Jamie, prayers are up for you Bro

[bear1336]

Prayers are sent from Ga, Keep your faith and our LORD with show you lifes path to be taken.

[bucksdown]

jamie i have felt your pain,5 years ago.satan wants me to trash her even now, god doesn't. all i will say is when 2 are seeking god they will be together. i never thought i would simle again,god has truly blessed me and gave me peace when she said she didn't want to be married any more, i cried day after day. i felt my life had ended. i was reading my bible asking god to speak to me. i opened it and right before me was psalm 116:1-7. jamie don't blame your self, she has 2 choices, her will or god's. cling to him, he will take care of you. my prayers john

[bucksdown]

jamie if you need some one to talk to send me a pm snd i will give you my phone number. i will be praying for you. hang in there. it's gonna be hard, one mistake i made was not keeping my mouth shut. as men we want it fixed yesterday. we seem to think god needs help,ha! he can and will take care of everything. it's will be hard to be quiet, when your whole life feels is being threatened. god always, always, takes a bad situation and makes it better.

[Day Dreamer]

Been through this, this wound takes alot of time to heal. It will get better, alot better. Focus on your son, friends and your passions. Find yourself a divorce support group, it helps (if reconciliaton is not an option). I wil pray for you, your son, and wife.

[Raging Water]

Jamie,

I came from a broken home. I love both my parents and I am ok.

My heart goes out to you. I cannot imagine what it would be like to be separated from my child, if even for a moment.

My prayers go with you. I pray that God strengthens you and you find as much peace as you can during these times.

Tears of sorrow for you and tears of joy; knowing that you will continue to be a fantastic Father, no matter what.

[bear1336]

Prayers are sent from Ga.