magnus i am so happy for you. there is an illustration i wish i could draw on here, iv'e shared it before. draw a triangle, put GOD at the top, you at the bottom left corner, and your wife in the right corner. draw a line from you to her and her to you. if you grow toward eachother you may be together, if either of you grow away you will not be together. now draw a line from you to GOD, draw a line from your wife to GOD, if you both grow toward GOD you will eneviably be together. i will be praying that you both stay in his will. satan comes between us and GOD only when we allow him to. if he can break up your family, it divides churches and our nation, we can see it all around us. love, grace, forgiveness, patients, understanding and always listening to her needs are key to your marriage. our needs are so different, but as the scripture dusty shared, when we love our wives as christ loves the church, we as men can see the example. christ shows us love, he is patient, and always hears and care for our needs. if we do these things for our wives we should find joy in them, there needs will be met, THEN don't be surprised when your needs are met.ha! funny how that works, but we should never be surprised at how GOD made us.