Wife's grandmother is very ill

[halfseminole]

We're currently sitting at the hospital with my wife and her family, looks like Nanny has had a stroke, possibly a heart attack as well.  We don't know much, but it doesn't look good.  She's got end stage Alzheimer and she's all but gone, and maybe mercy here would be a quiet passing.  I will update as I know more, but her family has been caring for her for quite a while and it's wearing them to the bone.

[BenBow]

Prayers for God's strength & comfort

[halfseminole]

Nanny came home today, and she's very weak.  Looks like major stroke and heart attack, as well as a potassium deficiency.  She will require 24 hour care, and as I have had the most experience with stroke care (I've had two myself) I'm helping get everything under control for them.  My wife is not holding up well, and her wish is that she doesn't linger like this, and I can see why.

Pray that we can hold up under Nanny's tongue, she got mean with Alzheimer's and she forgot our son, which leads her to make horrible comments about no great-grandchildren.  I have to take my wife home, often put her to bed and see that she takes her Ativan when those happen.  It's stretching her thin sanity to its breaking point.  I don't want her to snap because of this.

[Doc Nock]

You cannot prevent or direct your wife's will...only God can do that.

Prayers for Nanny to be in God's arms throughout all this and for each of you to find Peace as the situation unfolds.

Keep that stalwart faith of yours ramped up, and allow God and your Wife to work thru her own entanglements...

Keep the Son in your eyes, HS

[GRAYBEARD]

Praying for strength and peace as HIS plan unfolds. Your faith and resolve are truly admirable.

[halfseminole]

She's in a nursing home for rehab, but she's refusing to eat and having issues with regulating her heart.  We want her to pass quickly, as the way she is is no way to live-no idea who anyone is or where you are, can't do anything for yourself and only living by medical intervention.  The family is in the "not prolonging her suffering" phase, we're just asking for an end to her suffering.  Hopefully my wife won't fall off the deep end when she goes, but if she does I'll be there to bring her back to sanity.  Done it before, I can do it again.

[Doc Nock]

Feel for you and it revives old memories for me.

Dad was in much the same shape for a number of months. He'd recognize me, but while he could talk, he'd forget what he wanted to say and get furious, so I'd ask a lot of questions and he'd nod or short answers... he could do NOTHING for himself and it was too much trouble for the staff to feed him 3x/day so they'd Hoyer lift him into this godawful wheel chair contraption and wheel him where HS girls as aides would feed folks... it was sickensing...he'd cry out when they'd sling him in this web thing into the chair... I wanted to deck em!

I told God when he was ready to take Dad home, I was ready to let him go.  Took a few months, but in the end, it happened FAST! I was on the way over to see him and they called back he'd gone from not alert to gone!

I went in at their encouragement to see my Mother after she'd passed... and this time I knew better. I told them NO...I'd have to see my dad dead in the coffin at his funeral/viewing...

All comes back into sharp focus reading things on these pages.  

I will renew my prayers for you and your wife and family and for God's Mercy on Nanny.