like already stated, handshock is not "a fact of life" when shooting wooden bows. like already stated, potential causes are poor tillering and/or unbalanced limbs that don't recover in unison, mass placement and over all design and too light of an arrow(wooden bows love heavy arrows).
another factor to consider is the amount of reflex in the relaxed bow. the more reflex, the more likely it is to deliver handshock. bows that stand straight or follow the string slightly are more pleasant to shoot and more forgiving as well.
griping the bow properly is important with wooden bows, as with any bow, but it is simply easier to mis-handle a selfbow, imo.
I noticed a huge difference in vibration(not to be confused with hand shock) when I started using D-97 strings(15 strand) instead of B-50. been using D-97 for nearly 10 years now. I wouldn't put anything on a wooden bow besides D-97 strings these days
I'd suggest you shoot arrows that are 10-12 grains per pound of draw weight, get a low-stretch string and play with your grip a little bit and see what you get. nothing you can do about poor tiller or poor design now anyway.