Hmmmm. Don't know that I'm familiar with the home made caliper version spine tester. However, the standard for spining wood arrows is a 2# weight, with the arrow suspended between posts 26 inches apart. A while back Easton began using a different set of paramaters, which became generally accepted for carbon arrows. It's a 1.94# weight with the shaft suspended between posts 28 inches apart. They do yield different deflection results.
If you and your buddy are using the same type of spine tester, you should get the same results. If he's using one, and you the other, the results would disagree. Also, wood can change spine if it's unsealed, and even when it is sealed. For example, the spine I get on my arrows in mid-summer, when it's generally damper than the dry air inside my house in winter, often varies by 3-5# from the spine in winter.
Of course, the spine on a wood shaft can vary by 3-5# depending on how it's oriented to the weight when on the spining tool. The grains should be perpendicular to the weight.
In short, lots of things could account for the difference.