1) I don't find gold tips to be very durable, 2) I think JB weld makes a better insert glue 3)Rough up the inside of the shaft AND the outside of the insert, clean with alcohol or acetone etc. 4)Depends on how heavy a bow you shoot; it's hard not to break/mushroom shafts when hitting something really hard with bows over the 60# mark.
You may want to try another brand of shaft, I've found the old Carbon Express Terminator Hunters to be the toughest with Carbon Tech Rhino's being a close second.
You may also look at footing the first 1-2" of your shaft with aluminum arrow footing over the shaft...this dramatically increases durability. Do a search for footing carbon arrows and you'll get a lot of good info.
5)What Jeff and Bob said, "Stuff breaks"