Hey Joe, there's lots of good stuff in the archives on this topic. PErsonally, at 20 grains of difference, I'd shoot whichever arrow feels better. And I mean literally, *feels* better.
Whichever one makes you grin as you draw it back across the shelf, and makes you confident in your shot. Technically speaking higher FOC is "better" for penetration, etc. But if they both fly perfectly straight, and only have 10-20 grains of difference in weight, and the tip weight is the same... I'd just go with your gut. They'll both kill deer.