Nick and Bard,
Please don't interpret my comments as condemnation... not at all. I just wanted to share the knowledge I had that so many kids feel abandoned...or worse, that the break up is somehow their fault.
The sources I trust counsel that it's good to just sit them down (kids) and talk about these things and why it happened...always reassuring them that it was not their fault. Period!
God did not make us infallable... so we cannot and will not always make right choices or see the forest for the trees. We do what we can.
When I went through my divorce, I found that I had a lot more strength to carry on than I ever thought humanly possible...and then slowly I started to realize that I was on my knees a LOT.
I came to realize it wasn't me at all, but it was God giving me strength to persevere when I thought there was nothing left in me but dust.
It wasn't fun. It wasn't comfortable and I bawled and gagged a lot...but I kept finding more strength to carry on than I thought possible. I find that is the case in each life crisis when I but reach out in trust. Hard to do often..but always amazing how simply it works!
God is an amazing God. Trusting Him to be there for us and to provide us incomprehensible strength when we least feel strong is the most amazing thing I've learned in my own "walk" (crawl?) and growth in faith. I'm not there yet...but I'm getting better at this Faith/Trust thing. Now if I could just stop making mistakes!
Don't beat yourself up...but know that God brought you to this and if you but fall before Him, he won't let you fail...
Peace.