Im really hurting guys

[Smallwood]

prayers sent

[joevan125]

Thanks guys i read your words of encouragement several times a day and it always makes me feel better. Im home alone this afternoon so i have my new Morrison ILF and a 59 grizzly sitting out on the back deck ready for some practice. I havent been shooting at all since talk of the divorce started but im looking forward to shooting for a while. Tomorrow is going to be a trying time because we are going to see a lawyer and go over some of the legal matters. I love the single set of footprints in the sand Doc and i can honestly say that i have felt that the good lord has carried me on his shoulders more than once in my life.

Thanks

[Doc Nock]

Shoulders, Joe? I would think in those burly carpenter's arms he carries us all in time of need.

Keep the Son in your eyes. Tomorrow is just another day of "stuff" that has to be endured.

He will always give you strength to meet the day's challenges. It's always a decision on our part!

Prayers for tomorrow especially!

[stickbow2442]

I really don't have any words to add but I am praying for you.

[redeemed]

prayers with ya bud, allow Him to keep making those single prints in the sand.....

nestle..don't wrestle!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[joevan125]

I really need to run a few things by all of you that have been praying for me. Even though i know that its best that me and my wife go our seperate ways she just dropped a bomb on me.

We signed the divorce papers yesterday and neither one of us had any problems with all we agreed on. My wife has a high paying job and all she asked in the divorce was child support and to pay off her car. I dont really even consider it child support because i will take care of my little girl both financially and emotionaly.


The thing that is killing me is my wife has told me that she has met somebody and says she really cares for this other guy. Im mad and im hurt but i know we just dont belong together but dang i feel betrayed and really hurt.

Its weird because i want her to be happy but this has caught me off gaurd and i feel myself starting to resent her and i dont want to be that way. Please pray for me.

[Froggy]

Been in the same boat bud, main difference was no kids. Keep that little girl #1. Focus on her. I had all the same feelings that you have said, but I look back now and it was a blessing because of what God had planned for me with my wife now. 500% better than it was ever before. Wish your ex the best, and hold that little girl up high !!!! she really doe's need you more than ever.. I always try to remember a little saying when things are rough.... "Mind over matter, if you don't mind it, it doesn't matter"

Lanier

[Doc Nock]

Eric Fromm wrote a book called the Art of Loving many years ago. He said in there, "true love is giving up one we love so that they might be happy with someone else". Wow!!!! Never forgot that. Talk about the epitome of Christian or Christ-like LOVE...

My fear for your wife is that it might be a rebound, but then I'm reading tween the lines you feel this was afoot before and partly a impetus to the breakup?

You'll get nowhere with that line of speculation, and even if she told you full disclosure and it was, there's nothing to be gained. You signed the papers. Love didn't go away in a day...

I know wars can be fought over the biblical aspects of divorce, but as said by others, wish her well, pray for her happiness and it will come back to you in blessings you cannot imagine.

Forgiving 77x7 doesn't mean it won't be the same issue, the same person, the same hurt...over and over...cause it can/will!  We are ok. Wake up and it starts tearing at us again. Forgive again...and again...and again... till you are healed. Much for you as her...and it's what God calls us through Christ TO DO!

Not as hard as being whipped to the bone and nailed to a cross to die, but still pretty darned hard for most of us, me included...but it is what He asks.

You'll be ok. Again, embrace the anger, the hurt...then forgive as often as it takes for it to loose Satan's hold on you through those emotions!

God bless. Keep the Son in your eyes!

[amazonjim]

Rejection is a tough thing, but you have to deal with the issue even if it was your fault, or at least you feal like it was your fault.

For your daughter's sake stay focused she needs you more than ever.

If its tough for you just think how it is for her, and she needs to know that it was not her fault, and that your love will never change for her and that though you and her Mom separates she will always be daddys girl.

She needs lots of hugs and love now also.  She also can be a comfort for you.

It will pass, but as for as child support I would consider how much her Mom makes and just not get sucked  into paying everything.

What you put down on paper and sign will be what you will have to live with.

After all she is the one that is leaving, she might even be willing to give you custody of your daughter.

[joevan125]

Thanks guys for all your comments and concerns. I have done a lot of praying and soul searching and i feel much better about everything this morning.

[joevan125]

Another thing i would like to add is less than 2 weeks ago i didnt think i would be able to hold up going through all this. The only thing im sure of right now is God will help me get through this.

[Doc Nock]

Amen to that Joe. He never gives more'n we can handle, but I can attest as can many here, Lord often gives us MORE than we WANT!

Maybe that is so we come to realize it's not about US...our strength, but only through HIM can we survive?  

Keep the Son in your eyes!