I had to go back Kimber to read of your sharing to set the ***** straight in my head: Got it clear and plain!
Isn't it amazing how many times those of us who fail/fall, are so quick to blame others? May God reach into this lady's heart and make her whole.
It is but testimony to the fact that churches are a hospital for sinners, not a country club for believers. None of us are ever more than a step or two away from betrayal of both His will and our fellow man, without His Grace in our lives.
After what you've both been through this past year or so, this has to be difficult beyond measure. As with Job, your faith will keep you in His grace and Mercy.
Continued prayers for God's will to be done...and soon ---with healing for you both and for the perpetrator to find healing in confession and repentance!