Issues with Anger and letting go?

[longbowben]

Josh be careful i work a job that makes me blow off the hinges all the time.As i get older i say and do things before i think.When you work with drug pushers, rapist,child molesters and murders all day its hard to relax. Anger only gets stronger as it builds.Try to step back and think of the positive things in life.Like your great looking family.That's what i do.

[Flyboy718]

Originally posted by bucksdown:
josh, it's great how GOD speaks to us at just the right time. i heard a lesson from andy stanley, ( charles stanley's son )just this morning, and realized the reason for so many of my of our emtions comes from not seeing people as jesus does, forgiving them, and showing them the same grace he does. you maybe wondering how this applies to your situation. as the story of jesus teaching of the prodical son, he was talking to the pharises, followers, none believers, and believers, he loved them all no matter what they did or didn't do. just as the father had forgave his son, not knowing what he had done or are what he might do in the future, he welcomed him back, loved him just as he did, yet when they were in there mothers womb. this was all a conviction of why i still have anger built up inside of me, and why i am so judgemental of others. anger still surfaces when i see my ex-wife, she turned my life upside down, took so many things from me, just went on with her life like nothing had happened. GOD has blessed me in so many ways, but i'm still angry deep inside. i live with it everyday, how could she do that, here i'm trying to follow GOD with my life, she doesn't go to church anymore, goes to bars, gambles, and hangs out with all kinds of sinners, and now has the guy i suppected of her cheating with living with her and my girls everyother week. for me my anger comes from me not showing her grace and compassion for where she is, what she is doing or not doing. i understand your anger, you holding on to it, and wanting the people around you to change. i truly beleive the only way you and i can find the peace were seeking and the answers to our anger is to except the way things are, stop trying to change them, to make them see how they have hurt us, is to realize GOD loves them just as he does us, show them grace, and realize GOD is going to continue to bless us, and work in our lives. until we surrender it to him, give all our anger to him, we are the ones that will suffer. all the material things i lost, ( your hunting land ) were gonna misout on the peace and enjoyment of the blessings he has for us. deep down i didn't want GOD to love my ex or bless her, but he had a lesson for me and he does for her, to bring us closer to him. that's what it is all about, if we die today none of our material things will matter, we will have our salvation, will they? our praying for them, giving them grace and forgivness will give us peace. i know what is important, is it gonna be easy? no. please pray for me, i will pray for you. i know this is the answer, because in the end GOD wants everyone to be saved. we have to transfere our feelings form the things around us to a heart of forgiveness. he will give you even better hunting land, and continue to bless me far more than i deserve. we need to love them and pray for them. take care my brother, GOD loves you and so do i.

This is it!!  Josh, read this and read it well...you don't need a doctor to tell you to release your anger or a book about it, Jesus is the answer, you do what this man says in his post and you come to the realization that he has come to and you will be well on your way.  That is truth buddy and it's there for all of us, blessed is the man that finds it because comfort, joy and peace are what comes from it and beyond your WILDEST imagination!  Jesus is awsome...trust me!  Seek Him and he will make all your paths straight.  

bucksdown:  congrats buddy, it's so so awsome to hear others who have been born anew, we are truly blessed brother!...I will see ya when I get there. To Him be all the Glory!

[ssoden]

Josh .. prayers from WI brother. Your not far away .. if you just need to get away this fall to hunt .. just to try something new .. PM me, I would be glad to set camp up in northern Wi for you ...

God Bless
Steve

[fmscan]

Josh, When I read about your anger, I understood, when I saw a picture of your family, I didn't understand. YOU ARE A VERY RICH MAN! I firmly believe that the Lord gives us good things to make up for the bad. Keeping anger inside is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. Focus on the good things you have. Don't be a slave to the past cuz it ruining the present.

[bayoulongbowman]

Walk with God, when I played sports one thing that worked for me was deep breathing , breathe in big hold for 2or 3 seconds , let out slow..do this 3 times, this allows the brain to clam down and reverse your anger, the body cant do both. Most pro sports players know this .Watch a baseball game close sometime , you will see players doing it, it works...walk with him, mark#78...slow down...

[adkmountainken]

prayers sent my brother. i know where your at, for YEARS a i have delat with severe anger and agression, it is only in the last few years i have found an innner peace so i can tell you things will work out. if you need some one to talk with send me a pm and i'll give ya a call.

[Al Dente]

To quote the late Peter Steele:

I've got a problem, a problem with hate
I really can't stop, dragging this weight
I built myself a nice little cage
With bars of anger and a lock of rage
I keep asking who has the key
When I know damn well, it's me

Sometimes it is hard to let things go.  They fester inside, feeding the beast, making him more powerful and controlling.  Do not let this rule your life.  There is power in prayer, faith to make us stronger, the will of God to lead us.  Once in a while it may dark, distant, or not clear.  But God does have a plan for each of us.

That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.

Josh, please take solace in knowing that you are not alone, either in your feelings or in life.  We may be right next door or thousands of miles apart, but time zones, continents and oceans are not enough to stop us from helping each other out.

I will pray for you and ask Saint Padre Pio for an intercession on your behalf.  Be well my brother.

[Oliverstacy]

Originally posted by fmscan:
Josh, When I read about your anger, I understood, when I saw a picture of your family, I didn't understand. YOU ARE A VERY RICH MAN!

That picture was taken in 2008 and I was the happiest I'd been in 6 years...it was short live as the mess started again that fall.

Funny how a snapshot of your life can show one thing yet your mind/heart hides another.

When I was at my worst in the summer/fall of 2006 not many knew exactly where my mind was...one person I've known for over 30 years didn't know I was where I was at mentally.  You can put on a front but people have no idea what goes on behind that hollow facade.

I’ve been fighting the anger and taking a stand trying to fix what I know is wrong and I’m doing it the best I can.

I have a great wife and kids that part you got right…without them I’m nothing.

Thanks all…it has been an interesting couple of months.

Thanks,

Josh

[Doc Nock]

Prayers continue, Josh.

Older I get the more I come to realize that nothing of value is ever easy...to get or hold onto once obtained.

Sometimes we dont get what we want because we ask God with the wrong heart and sometimes, because we don't ask expecting it to be received.

I'm probably guilty on those counts too often.

May your quest teach you dependence on Him and may His peace bring you your goals.

Keep the Son in your eyes!

[adkmountainken]

still praying for you my friend, your not alone, just hollor if you want someone to talk with.

[F Thomas]

Continued prayers from California!

[Winterhawk1960]

Josh,

I can relate to "how" you feel with the anger building up inside and slowly, but surely keeping YOUR mind on the person that is causing the HURT in your life. Yes......that's right, HURT is always at the bottom of an anger issue. It can come from just one person, or several that we feel are "working against" us. I have been dealing with a family member that has issues that I don't want to cloud your thread with, but let it suffice to say that this person had slowly, but surely put me in the same position that you are asking for help about.

For me, personally........as hard as it was, initially to do.......I had to pray for the good Lord to open the person's eyes and help them to see the error of their ways. I have (and continue to) prayed numerous times daily for this person to find the help that they need through Jesus Christ. I'm not gonna say that it was easy at first.......and to be quite honest, I'm not sure that I really "meant" all that I was asking the Lord to do for this person. Over time, it gets easier......and easier for me to ask for and I really sincerely mean what I am asking the Lord to do now.

Again, for ME......forgiveness is essential for my "sanity". Without it, I am "consumed" with vengeance towards this person. I just had to slowly but surely realize that this is in the Lords plan and he knows the BEST outcome for all involved......and TRULY trust that. This wasn't easy either, because I felt like I shouldn't just stand idly by and let the things happen that were going on. You see, the Lord gave us "free-will".......knowing that we were (and are going to) make mistakes and try to inject "our will" into the situation. It is human nature to do that and NOT an easy thing to "let go" of.

I am at a place now, where I can trust that a power greater than myself is at work and that the outcome will be in the best interest of all involved. I don't have to always like things, but I have to be able to "accept" them for what they are. Don't get me wrong, if there is something that I can do that needs to be done, I get off my keyster and do it. I don't stand by and have regrets later that "I should have" done anything. I ask for guidance in my choices and for direction to do what is necessary to carry out Gods will. Resentment, given enough time inside the mind of any "human" will slowly destroy the "best" of what is inside. It simply isn't worth it to me. Acceptance and Forgiveness are essential for ME to remain somewhat "sane". Without it I am LOST.......in anger and resentment.

Forgiveness is one thing and "forgetting" is quite another. I can forgive, but will NEVER forget what someone put me through. Especially when they "keep repeating" the same offense, over and over. I just keep praying for them and myself to find the guidance that we both so desperately need. I apologize for the long length of this reply........but I felt a need to put it ALL out there. I hope it gives you some of the same "PEACE" that it has me.

If you ever want to just talk........I'm a pretty good listener and will gladly PM you my phone number.

God Bless YOU........sir, for having the courage to ask for help.

Winterhawk1960

[Joshua Long]

Prayers and PM sent!

[Oliverstacy]

I just wanted to give a quick thanks to everyone that has replied and PM’d…I appreciate them all!  I haven’t had time with everything going on to reply to all of them (I’ve read them all via email) but I wanted to let people know it has helped a lot!

Thanks,

Josh

[BenBow]

Praise God