If I use Kiln dried, I let it set in my shop for a week or so to settle into my climate.
If I use air dried, I make sure it has been air drying for 2-3 yrs Minimum. Sometimes I go by the rule 1yr dry time for 1" of thickness, and then I go by how the wood acts while working it.
I don't use a moisture meter and I try to keep my shop at about 30-40% RH
I have never had a problem when I follow this method, and I don't push it.
Good luck Charles,
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