I don't use anything less than 40grit on my veneers and sometimes use 36 grit when grinding core material.
The only problem I ever had when building a bow was the one time I wiped my glass and veneers down with denatured alcohol. Didn't de-lam, but had some blotchy spots show up between the glass and veneer. I simply brush the veneers, core lams, and rough side of the glass clean of any loose pieces with a fine wire brush. That brush is never used for anything else.
I haven't built as many bows as some, but that was my only failure in the glue/joint department in over 100 bows.