I don't think the ability or inability to absorb glue makes much difference. Heck, fiberglass don't absorb ANY glue and it stays together. Compresses and stretches too. I expect it's that the antler DOES NOT flex. Never heard of antler being soft like plastic. Do you mean you can bend it or are you talking about the porous side and maybe how you can put a fingernail mark in it or something?
From my somewhat limited experience bow building, I've found that you need to have a real precise fit between the two surfaces then you have to be careful about not starving the glue joint by clamping too tightly.
Lastly, if you do like I did on my first bow and shape the limb tip and tip overlay so that the antler part is longer than the wood, (I was going for an old time horn nock sort of look but with a flat surface joint instead of a cone) you do run more risk of it coming off simply because when you rest the tip on the ground, only the antler touches and it puts a lot more pressure on the overlay. The best way (though not as pretty) is to have the wood and overlay the same length and round from the edges so the wood or wood/antler seam is at the longest point.