With time and patience, and barring any preexisting musculoskeletal issues, you can make 65 your 'normal' draw weight. I highly recommend you acquire a second lighter bow to shoot along with the 65, say 40-50#, so you can focus on proper shot sequence etc. Shoot them both often, and when unable to shoot, draw and let down the 65, doing negatives to increase your strength. You shouldn't hurt yourself if you use your back muscles and proper mechanics. There is nothing wrong with shooting higher draw weights, especially if you shoot often. It's my humble opinion that far too many able bodied men get stuck shooting less than 55# bows simply because they don't take the time to shoot often enough and build up to it, or they spend hours trying to justify the physics of why a light bow and sharp head will do the job. It seems many able men may not shoot much outside hunting season and so never build their strength to handle anything above 50#. Anyway, this topic has been covered over and over. I enjoy bows of all weights and respect all archers no matter what weight they shoot. I for one enjoy the challenge of maintaining my strength and shooting anything from 30# all the way to 95@28. Just keep at it and warm up and keep yourself limber. There doesn't have to be anything macho about enjoying shooting 65#. Everyone is different. Like I said, get a second bow. You will make faster progress. Warm up with the light one, shoot the heavy, then finish session with the light one. Some days shoot just the heavy. Mix it up, do pulls/negstives. And occasionally give yourself rest days to heal and grow stronger, don't overdo it! Have fun!!