Author Topic: Just Not Right (Read 5144 times)

tj69 · « **Reply #20 on:** July 24, 2009, 01:19:00 AM »

tears are running down my face while reading about your bereavement. I´ve lost my brother last year, so I can imagine what you feel.
Keep the memory alive....
My thoughts are with you...

tradfergie · « **Reply #21 on:** July 24, 2009, 01:29:00 AM »

Thank You all. I seem to be spending more time on here then I should. My neice, my brother's girl had to ride in the 4h drillteam tonight so it was hard. We didn't tell her until later today. She was looking so forward to it because the girls where going to do something to honor my brother we didn't want to take her out of it. So all of the girls used colored hair spray and body paints in red white and blue to paint their horse's. My brother spent 23 years in the navy and that was their way of honoring him. Man it was so awsome. I don't think the was a dry eye. They also came out to I'm Proud to Be a American. 21 girls including my niece all on red white and blue horse's was great. And they had about 3 times the crowd because everybody wanted to see why the horse's were red white and blue. My Brother was a true hero, and my dad was a roll model. And I am proud to be both a brother and a son to this men

BenBow · « **Reply #22 on:** July 24, 2009, 07:46:00 AM »

No words can quickly bring relief to the pain of so much loss. Let yourself grieve and that usually starts with denial and anger so be sure you don't stuff that inside it will mess you and your family up. Pour it out to God, He can take it. Go hunting this year and spend more time listening for their laugh in the wind, feel their smiles by the sun's warmth on your face. Remembering the times you had together you will realize what a gift you were given while they were with you. God has given us memories to give us the strength to go on until we too leave this earth.

pine nut · « **Reply #23 on:** July 24, 2009, 07:55:00 AM »

Allan, I agree with BenBow, and I will add that though it may be hard you will honor their spirit by continuing to do the things they enjoyed with you. Sounds like they were enthusiastic and honourable people and good role models. Follow their lead! Maybe help someone else to learn what they taught you. God Bless you and your family.

Benny Nganabbarru · « **Reply #24 on:** July 24, 2009, 08:10:00 AM »

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SELFBOW19953 · « **Reply #25 on:** July 24, 2009, 09:14:00 AM »

Allan,

I lost my son last year just after Thanksgiving, they found him December 11 (it was 3 months before we had a cause of death). We buried him the day after my birthday and a week before Christmas. The rest of my hunting season (ended January 31), I went out, but didn't really hunt. Some days I'd stay till dark, some days I'd leave about sunset, some days I just wouldn't bother. My heart wasn't in it. But being in the woods was relaxing and comforting. I could think, cry, or reminisce-I did all three. I also had conversations with him, chewed him out for chosing his lifestyle, apologized for my failures as a father, even told him that I missed him and loved him. I got to say and feel things when I was alone that I couldn't, or maybe wouldn't, express to others. Being in the woods, doing something I loved, helped me deal with my grief. Please don't close your family and dear friends out, you need their support, but don't forget how calming and relaxing time in the woods can be.

Hang in there, it does and will get better.

Phil Carpenter

Smallwood · « **Reply #26 on:** July 24, 2009, 09:58:00 AM »

Allan ,
prayers sent for you and your family.

BenBow · « **Reply #27 on:** July 24, 2009, 12:15:00 PM »

Phil's advice it great! Give it a shot.

bayoulongbowman · « **Reply #28 on:** July 24, 2009, 02:24:00 PM »

Lost my Dad and best buddy to the same thing , Sept28th,buried him OCT 1st....it still hurts , I miss him . I will remember all in my prayers...Mark Chambers

celticknot · « **Reply #29 on:** July 24, 2009, 06:32:00 PM »

Hey there Tradfergie,

I'm sorry to hear about you brother and your father. I lost my grandfather my dog and for friends inside of a year. I know it hurts. My prayers are with you and your family. Don't worry about the tent get it out when you are feeling better. No worries. God Bless

Doc Nock · « **Reply #30 on:** July 24, 2009, 09:51:00 PM »

Wish I could say something magical, but the guys ahead of me pretty well summed up the wisdom of the ages.

Nothing we pen can begin to ease the pain. Only time will do that...that and faith in God's plan and promise to hold us each dear and near that call him Lord.

You will get through this. That drill team ceremony sounds awesome.

Hold others close and memories closer. They're bitter-sweet now, but will become more and more precious over time.

As the pain starts to ease, don't panic that you might be "forgetting". Remembering is more than feeling pain..it's remembering joy and living for the promise of "one day we'll all be reunited with Jesus.

Keep the Son in your eyes!

yekrut · « **Reply #31 on:** July 24, 2009, 10:42:00 PM »

I will make speacial prayers for you! Too the creator. May you find peace my bro! Keep your head up. I will be praying for.

tradfergie · « **Reply #32 on:** July 24, 2009, 11:30:00 PM »

Thank you all. It has been a tough day. Even when you know something is coming it still doesn't seem really/ Driving home tonight I just had the need to pick up my phone and call my brother. My sister is taking it very hard, she is a cps investigater and she can't understand how someone like my brother who takes care of his family and nation and then there is the people that she deals with that just keep on living. And then this happens to dad. It just doesn't seem right. I can understand how she feels, but I am not argery, my brother and dad would not want that. At least I had time to say good bye to them
Allan

bear1336 · « **Reply #33 on:** July 25, 2009, 08:52:00 AM »

Prayers for you are sent from Georgia.
In HIS service
Dave

BEN · « **Reply #34 on:** July 25, 2009, 02:18:00 PM »

Our prayers are being sent up for you.....

Doc Nock · « **Reply #35 on:** July 25, 2009, 08:45:00 PM »

Prayers for the whole family to use this double tragedy to grow closer to one another and to Him.

Keep the Son in your eyes!

b.glass · « **Reply #36 on:** July 28, 2009, 02:40:00 PM »

I have no words. Just prayers.

tradfergie · « **Reply #37 on:** July 29, 2009, 03:11:00 AM »

Thanks all
Not sleeping much lately. Showing was Tuesday night for my Dad. Faces I saw just four weeks ago for the same reason where even hard to look at this time. I know many poeple have been throughstuff just as hard if not harded, but it still doesn't make you feel any better. I pray that if you have not lost anyone close to cancer that you never have to deal with it. It is hard to see the life taken out of someone so fast. My dad in 18 months. My 44 year old brother in 2 months and 2 days.

pronghorn23 · « **Reply #38 on:** July 29, 2009, 10:58:00 PM »

Prayers sent for peace and strength.

redeemed · « **Reply #39 on:** July 31, 2009, 05:36:00 AM »

My Heart goes out to you, I lost mydad in '99 and just lost my oldest brother in 7-08, wans't to cancer, but the hole is still big in my heart, and NO amount of time is going to heal it!!!!!! hang on to the memories,
Lord bless and keep ya

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