Im really hurting guys

[joevan125]

Although it has been a long time comming my wife and i are going our seperate ways. After many trips to a marriage counselor and also talking to a preacher we just cant seem to work it out. My biggest heartache is not going to be able to see my 6yr old daughter walk down the stairs every morning and come jump in my lap. I know this to shall pass but walking through it is making me physically sick causing panic attacks, loss of appettite and loss of sleep. Keep me in your prayers.

[redeemed]

My friend, you are in a tough spot!!!!! I came from such a home, I was 4 when my dad decided to walk in the grass on the other side of the fence, don't hear what I AM NOT SAYING.... I am NOT saying you wanted this OR caused it....I am just saying it is a tough situation for all involved and I will be praying for you.
I   C A N N O T   Imagine, waking up and not hearing the sound made by those little feet, and not having my daughter in my lap. LORD BLESS YA......Please remember that in life, it isn't what happens to you that matters.......it is how you HANDLE what happens to you!!!!!! I would suggest that you keep it as clean as possible for the childrens sake, all the nasty things that can take place during a seperation far out last the fact that "hey I won, I got the car, or house, or boat, or whatever", my friend, these things are but a fleeting material possesion, but how your children see you treat your wife and or them for that matter far out weighs any material gain you will EVER have. It is much more advantageuos to have yourb childrens respect and admiration than to own some thing that will pass away......think of it this way,  everything you now own, someone will else will own, once your gone, so is it really worth fighting over???? may be harsh,but a reality!!! I hope I have shared something you can use, I have not meant to imply that you were doing any of these things, just a perspective veiw from the one who saw it all unfold.

[Doc Nock]

Brad shared a valuable insight. Let me take another tact.

Divorce is supposed to cause all the emotional reactions you're now feeling. You've invested your life and heart into a relationship...and it's failing.

Matters of the heart should heart...death and divorce share the same emotional separation.

Embrace the pain. Know that it is real and it is as it should be. God doesn't protect us from trials or pain, but He does promise to see us through it.

You will heal. Brad shared an important point above: how you treat your wife through this process of divorce, will help show your true heart. Anger, bitterness, resentment are all real, but the fact we FEEL them doesn't mean we have to LIVE them out!

Live in Grace. Keep the Son in your eyes and remember that loving is easy when the people are easy to love...but the true test of Christian love is to love someone who isn't loveable.

Keeping you in prayer, friend.  You will Survive!

Shalom and may His peace comfort and strengthen you.

[BenBow]

Good stuff said so amen & praying

[redeemed]

howdy, Doc, my friend, once again you have managed to show me something....thank you, as I read your addition to the post about the sepration to be, I was reminded that it is Christian to love someone....even if and ESPECIALLY if they are unlovabel and hateful, I needed that this morning!!!!!!
love ya bud, thanks again!!!!I was going to send this in a private email but I am going to post it along side the other post, this man needs to see that even as Christians, we need reminders and help!!!!!

[Doc Nock]

Even as Christians, Brad?
  :rolleyes:    :D  

Geeze... only difference tween us and those who aren't walking in the faith is we know what we are and why...Sinner--- In a fallen world and destined to stumble daily...

...and that only by the Blood of Christ can we amount to anything.

You made the point originally in "letting go a nd letting God" with your advice.  

Joe is hurting and rightfully so...but as you said, it's what he does with the feelings that will set him apart in God's eyes and in his child's as the years unfold.

Joe, Keep the Son in your eyes, brother.

[redeemed]

perhaps that sounded bad?????? just meaning that we as Christians ought to be able to show even more of the unconditional love, because we are to be filled with it, and also being called to be more like Christ. Refering to the world in a lost and undone state, not knowing the source of unconditional love. At times, we (I) as Christians allow the world veiw to obscure our veiw of unconditional love, being that we are to love without expecting it back, not meaning that we (I) are any better than those who are not Christians, just held to a higher accountability.

[joevan125]

Thanks guys for all your kind words and i agree that i need to be respectful during these hard times. I truly want happiness for my wife and if that means she has to find it with someone else i will support that. I have been sober for nearly 3 years and i would never have gotten through that without asking God for help. He has always been there for me and i trust this will be no different. Typing these words just put my heart at ease, works everytime.  

[redeemed]

amen....Lord bless

[Doc Nock]

Sounds like you've found the true source of Power, Joe. Keep tapped in. WE're just empty rusty vessles making noise compared to God's peace that passes all understanding. REly on him, but we got your back with our humble prayers for strength, peace and continued sobriety.

Congrats, btw, on your 3 years! 40 more to come!  

Keep the Son in your eyes!

[pronghorn23]

Prayers sent..don't wish that on anyone!

[eaglefeather]

Hang in there joe,my best freind is still going thru a divorce and has a 3 year old son.Ive been by his side the whole time,just one day at a time,yea you get mad ,angry.Stay focused and hug that little girl.shes gonna need ya.In my prayers.

[TLANE]

Joe,

I've been there where your at and I know exactly what you're going through.  Hang in there and trust God to help you through it.  It will get better, even though right now it seems like your world is falling apart.  It just takes time. Just turn it all over to God and have patience.

Toby

[joevan125]

Hey guys im really struggling to find my way through these hard times so please say a prayer for me. I know first hand how the power of prayer can help out in times like this and i could really use some power. Im 41 yrs old and i have a wonderful daughter and my health is great so i do have a lot to be thankful for.

[Doc Nock]

Keeping you lifted up, Joe.  Darkest hour is just before dawn...stay vigilant for the Lord's direction in all this turmoil.

Keep the Son in your eyes!

[Earl Jeff]

Joe I went through the exact same thing when my son was 5 the Lord brought me through it and things are even better than before keep praying. the Lord works in Mysterious ways.

[joevan125]

Earl i really appreciate your words of incouragement and i have faith that he will pull me through this. I have good days and bad days which can be expected in time like this. I finally broke down and went to the doctor to get my severe anxiety seen about and im glad i did. For now i will keep putting one foot in front of the other and turning my will and my life over to God.

Thanks

[Tom Phillips]

Joe,
 Sorry to hear about your hardache,as difficult as it might be keep your chin up.You have alot to be Thankful for and the bond you & your daughter have will become stronger once the troubling times pass.You have alot going for you and you will comeout of this much stronger.Keep your cool ar all costs.

                     Tom

[amazonjim]

I encourage you to go to Highlands Church they are a great group of people they will help you through this thing.

[Doc Nock]

God promised strength to overcome, not an easy path through.  Embrace the challenges and give thanks that you're never alone... Christ walks with you.  When there are only single sets of footprints in the sand by the shore in the hardest times, that is Jesus carrying you!  Believe it!

Keep the Son in your eyes!