Prayers and a couple of comments.
With my son, I am able to say "did you think that one thru"? Or "take a minute Son and think that one thru"? Those two tips have helped me with my son's activities. That way I am not telling him waht to do or lecturing.
Sometimes, after he did something he shouldn't, I ask him "How did that work out for you"?
By putting the responsibility on him to think thru his actions he seems to straighten up.
Lastly, I tell him two more things.
"You are your friends". In other words, whatever your friends are doing, you will be seen in the same light by girls, your parents, other parents, and the POLICE!!!! Everyone goes to jail!
Also, I say that, today is not like yesterday. You know, 30 years ago, we could get away with just about any hijink. "Boys will be boys", kind of thing. Today, they will put your kid or my kid in Juvy or actual JAIL for half of what we got slapped on the wrist for.
My prayers are with you.
Matt