joe first of all i'm happy to see your still posting, and that there are people here continuing to pray and reach out to you. for those of us that have been in your situation, we do understand. you are so right, she is not doing GODS will, he says he hates divorce, that is a very severe feeling from our creater and lord. it's pure selfish to turn on GOD, a family or spouse. they simply don't care about all the heart ache they cause the people that love them. i loved my ex more than she may ever realize, i would have died for, stood beside her in sickness, and as i told her, even wiped her butt if she couldn't. the sad and flesh side to it is, as a pastor said, we're all capable of any sin in the wrong place. there is only one way to put it, she is by choice, ignoring, and sinning againist GOD. i do understand the devastation your feeling. my ex called me a religious finatic, it was GODS will, and satan had nothing to do with it. if being on fire for the lord is being a finatic, i'm guilty as charged. that comment floored me, but a friend of mine reminded me of christ words of how if people hate him, don't be surprised when they also hate those of us that follow him. joe GODS holy spirt will never leave her alone,if we are not living in his will, and lay our heads down at night, we hear him speaking to us and can't escape his voice, my ex still has no peace after 5 years. your wife does have her free will, and he will not go around it, but as with us all he still loves her and will continue to softly and gently call her back into his fold. she may not see it right now, but her relationship with him is more important than yours and hers. continue to pray for her. i had a friend of mine, he was comtiplating a divorce and leaving his wife and children for another woman, he came home one night and told his dad, the next morning he awoke to see his dad kneeing at his bedside, he had been praying for him all night, on a drive that day GOD spoke to him, he went back to his family, later became a pastor, that's been around 45 years now. don't let satan destroy you GOD still has a plan for you. just as i did, but couldn't see it at the time, he has blessed me more than i could ever deserve. continue in his will, he takes care of his children.