james i'm very sorry to hear she said it's over. don't you give up, just be patient, kind and loving in all you do. my mother used to say it takes two to make it and two to break it. i don't know your situation or how you all got to this point, if it were your wife on here i would tell her this same thing, if you are the problem, then you may need to change. if it is you james, she may be looking for a sincere change in you. ask her to sit down and talk to you, me and my ex went to concseling, the one thing we did that stood out was when we talked neither one of us listened to the other. we sounded like two kids, he said or she said. most of the time what we percieved the other said wasn't. you already know we are different, women need to be heard. there is book called" every womans desire" you can find it at the christian book store, or on line. it truly adresses things from a womans deasires from a bibical stand point. it can't hurt. i'll keep praying for you, it's not over with GOD in it, until she remarrys, or one of you have passed.