Ed, sometimes the little things can help. The "thank you", the "please", the cup of coffee offered like she likes it, the filled gas tank, the washed clothes or dishes, the cleaned house, the cooked meal, the look into her eyes, the tucked down sheet, the flowers in the kitchen, ...but most of all: "If my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sins and heal their land." 2 Chron 7:14. Praying for you, your wife and sons.