Feelings are of this world, Daniel.
They eat me up if I let them, so we all try to battle those and life in Faith and Trusting in God's goodness.
Courts are cautious about declaring a parent, especially a "mother" unfit, for fear (I guess) of it being over turned in appeal...so they proceed cautiously...
As you say, God is IN CONTROL... now you need to lay this at the foot of the cross and TRUST in His Will... your feelings will bouy I'm sure!
Keep the Son in your eyes!