what kind of steel are you talking about. that has a bearing on how you temper.
the thing that makes the wives mad is when you temper in the kitchen oven without cleaning all the quench oil off the blade. if you clean it off, it won't smoke and she won't ever know if you do it when she is gone ;-)
after quenching leave the knife submerged in the quench until it cools down.
depending on the steel it may or may not benefit from multiple quenching.
quenching makes the blade extremely hard and brittle.
the tempering process draws the hardness down to a usable level, ideally where the blade is hard enough to hold an edge, yet is easy to sharpen.
if the edge will flex as you draw it across a brass rod, and return to true, you have a good edge.
you need to research the heat treat process for whatever steel you are using. it helps if you are using steel that you know what it is.
hope that helps a little.