Dustin, are you inferring that the 'deflex' part of the deflex/reflex definition, and the 'setting the bow handle back toward the shooter' part of the backset definition mean the same thing? If so, they don't, in fact, they're virtually the opposite. If not, then you'll have to be a little more specific about what it is that isn't clear to you.
In regard to your first post... I've never seen or heard of anyone confusing backset with set. Is it a real problem?