I'm sorry for your loss.
I just found out the other day that my uncle (a Vietnam Vet) is going to be passing away soon. Largely as a result of negligence on the part of the VA. Apparently, what should've been a fairly easily treated Colon-Rectal cancer has advanced to a rapidly moving, fatal Liver and Kidney cancer. Due to the slow start to treatment and excessive delays mid-treatment, he will now be in excruciating pain until death provides him with relief.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss. And I agree that there should be some reward for not only surviving the war, but the treatment that you all received when you got home.