OK everybody, we have a good flying arrow now. Final bow setup was a regular rug rest with a toothpick under it plus adjusting the brace height to 7.75" to fix the nock high. Next I added the rubber side plate that comes with the bear rug rest, and added a lick of stealth tape to it to keep the draw silent, and suddenly my weak spine errors were real weak spine errors and I was able to tune the traditional way.
My first two arrows were 500 spine. A 29" and a 27.5" and both showed very weak spine. At this point I gave up on the 500s and switched to 400 spine 29.5" carbon to carbon shafts and worked my way down to 27 3/8" arrows (Carbon to carbon - they're over 28" from nock valley to end of insert) and with a 100 grain insert and a 200grain point they finally fly great.
I'll try to attach a picture of teh 500 spine arrows here and see if they come out straight or not.
Thank you to everyone who offered advice, I did some of everything that was suggested and it all seemed to help. -Kyle