i sat here reading all these posts,and you guys are very fortunate to have your wives and these types of problems. i was only married 7 years and i was able to buy just about what ever i wanted. yes bills came first then the kids and then her then myself. well now i'm divorced with no asking if i can get this or that,but do miss these kind of problems yeah you might laugh. but it's true being single has it's advantages but also disadvantages also. my advice to you just be up front and tell her,don't beat around the bush and don't try and hide it,you just might regret it or it may even eat at you.so do the right thing and you know what that is.just my 2 cents worth,rich in pa.