Doctor brady...you are spec'ing gr/in....that would seem to awfully light if you shoot heavier pound bows: 29" x 10gr/" = 290gr...from a 60# bow this could potentially be disasterous. Am I to assume you mean grains/lb of bow weight? I shoot shafts in the 9-15gr/" category but the finished arrow is far heavier than that gr/" spec.
Greg, I'm with Jimmy, the way you shoot, I think you may be overthinking it some...but that's some of the fun of this stuff
Most bowyers recommend 8gr/# of draw weight or better for the finished arrow weight as safe for the bow. Doc Ashby has proven, at least to my satisfaction, that heavier is always better for penetration. Like you and others have alluded too, there is a common sense limit that says their is a point where poor trajectory makes the heavier arrow more difficult to shoot accurately, thereby limiting range.
Personally, I think bow weight should be considered. Out of a 40# bow for whitetail, you may get away with 9gr/#...but I wouldn't recommend it. In that extreme, I would prefer to see the guy shooting 450+ grains, because he doesn't have the horsepower to spare so he needs to make it up with momentum. Out of a 55# bow, 9gr/# wouldn't seem out of perspective at all, some enjoying great success on whitetails down well below that mark...but they aren't shooting 40# bows either.
And yes, the draw length and bow design both play a large part that is often overlooked. Longer draw = longer power stroke = more energy so you can shoot less # than us short armed runts and still get equal performance. A highly efficient bow at 50 is gonna be a better performer than a 70# self bow in most cases.
I've seen you shoot and I've seen your arrows fly...I don't think there's any reason why your setups shouldn't work on deer. Increasing your arrow weight will definately add a bit more insurance to the shot, but only if you are not sacrificing confidence and accuracy for that insurance.