Katie,
I had a labrum tear, plus about 5 or 6 other things fixed while the surgeon was in there. The best advice I can give you is to seek out the best SHOULDER surgeon you can find, someone who works with athletes is a plus. Have a very frank discussion with said surgeon about your expectations regarding your post recovery abilities. Sadly, I know of some docs who simply assume you will "dial it back" and they do what they believe will hold up in that scenario. I have friends and family members who have encountered this, and their recoveries did not go nearly as well as mine.
By all means, once you have settled on a top notch surgeon, follow their post-op plan. But 6 months seems to be on the long side for post-op recovery. I was 48 when I had my surgery, and I was released back to work with no restrictions after 3 months. I work as a lineman, so it isn't like I was going back to "easy".
Good luck, and feel free to pm me if you have any questions.
Don